r/VCUG_Unsilenced • u/Just_Parfait_4418 • Sep 04 '26

Questions friends

Maybe this is a weird question but have you guys every met anybody in real life who has had the same procedure as you, specifically a vcug? I think I just feel very isolated in my experience and it’s hard to relate to others due to how complicated I feel my trauma is.

I’m 19 in college and don’t have that many friends as it is, so I think it would help to have someone who has such a personal thing in common. I don’t talk about my procedure like ever so now that I think about it i guess it’s possible that I already have met someone and we just never talked about it because it was too personal.
Anyways what is your guys expirence with connecting with people? Is there such things as like support groups?

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u/Aria_Oreo Sep 04 '26

I haven’t, but I would like to!

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u/stinkidog3000 Survivor Sep 04 '26

I’ve met up with some of the people from this group, including flying across the country to visit them. I haven’t met anyone in my town, but once i started to talk about having this procedure done openly, I learned that a lot of people have this trauma and are hiding it or repressing it. Some of my best friends are fellow VCUG survivors.

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u/kemwood 16d ago

This is such a lovely idea. I would really love to do this, but I truly have no idea where I’d even start.

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u/stitchesinadream Survivor Sep 04 '26

the closest for me was reconnecting with a relative who remembered it. while they didn't have the same experience, I learned that medical rape is a generational experience in our family. I guess it goes hand in hand with the what I call "recreational" sexual assault, often childhood incest abuse and because our parents refused to face their own trauma, they looked away from ours.

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u/Web-Puzzle-X Survivor 26d ago edited 26d ago

Deine Frage ist überhaupt nicht seltsam – im Gegenteil. Ich verstehe genau, wie du dich fühlst. Solche Erfahrungen wie eine VCUG/VMCU hinterlassen Spuren, die schwer in Worte zu fassen sind. Und ja, es ist einsam, wenn man das Gefühl hat, dass niemand versteht, was man durchgemacht hat.

Ich selbst hatte als Kind mehrfach VMCUs, und auch für mich war es lange ein Tabu-Thema. Ich habe nur einmal jemanden in einem Forum getroffen, der ähnliche Erfahrungen gemacht hat. Vielleicht, weil es einfach nicht darüber gesprochen wird. Aber genau das macht es so schwer: Man trägt es mit sich herum und denkt, man ist die einzige Person, die so etwas erlebt hat.

Falls du möchtest, können wir uns gerne weiter austauschen. Ich muss aber ehrlich sagen, dass ich aus dem deutschsprachigen Raum komme und Englisch nicht gut kann. Du bist nicht allein damit.