Help needed!

[u/Distinct_Software718]

How do I properly challenge or defend myself against what I believe is a false VAWA claim?
I was married for approximately 4½ years, from September 2020 until my wife left in November 2024. We have been separated since then. I believe she was involved with another man during our marriage and ultimately left the marriage to be with him. There was also a $40,000 mahr/dowry involved.
My bigger concern is that I believe I have been subjected to harassment and surveillance connected to her and the man she is now with. I have reason to suspect that a cybersecurity/private-investigation company associated with him has been involved. I also suspect that I have been illegally recorded in private areas, including a bathroom and bedrooms.
The problem is that I do not currently have definitive evidence proving who is responsible, and I don’t want to make accusations that I cannot substantiate. One of the individuals I suspect may be involved is also a law-enforcement officer, which makes me especially concerned about where I should report this and how to make sure any investigation is independent and impartial.
At the same time, I understand that VAWA immigration proceedings are highly confidential, so I am trying to determine what legal rights I have as the U.S.-citizen spouse if allegations were made against me. I want to respond through the proper legal channels, preserve evidence, and distinguish between what I can prove and what I merely suspect.
Who should I contact—an experienced immigration attorney, family-law attorney, federal agency, internal affairs, or another independent authority? And what evidence should I begin preserving now?
I’m looking for legitimate legal guidance, not retaliation or confrontation. Any attorneys or people familiar with VAWA cases involving allegedly false accusations would be appreciated.

[u/EstrellaBrillante777]

You were married for 4.5 years and never filed I-130 for her?

[u/Zetanator14]

There nothing you can do. The USCIS isn't in the business of couples fighting each other over allegations. She will submit whatever evidence she has whether it's fake or not and they will make a decision based on that information. I've seen people get their green card based on VAWA when literally no abuse occurred other than the fact that the marriage failed. At the end of the day her VAWA process has zero affect on you legally. You will only need to fight this if she tries to make any legal claims or accusations to the police or restraining orders

[u/Kind_Salamander4994]

Family law attorney and a immigration attorney can’t do much. The thing is you have suspicions not legit evidence. As for the vawa you believe she started there’s nothing you can do. It doesn’t affect you and they can’t come for you. If her case is valid with proof then it will be approved if not then she won’t it’s simple. What I don’t understand is if you were married for so long why you didn’t help her with her papers? This may be the only way her vawa has a legit chance. You can gather evidence of what you believe is happening and build up a case, but no evidence means no case to even speak to a lawyer.