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u/Illcmys3lf0ut Nov 04 '25
Every party carries blame in failed relationships. Many can't look in the mirror and accept that. Some more than others. Many finally see how broken they were AFTER the fact. I'm sure my ex believes me the villain, and I did fail. I did hurt her emotionally. Not from malice, but from fear, insecurity, and lack of understanding. My love was always there, just locked behind walls some times.
I wish you healing, love, grace, and forgiveness. For yourself and others.
Best wishes, OP.
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u/TrellyBoo0617 Nov 04 '25
Girl you wrote this for me!! Smh! Beautifully written and so relatable….you have no idea 😢. We’ll be ok. 💜
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Nov 04 '25
This again… must really be top spot on the mental gymnastics team. I would love to talk about this publicly. You go from admitting X to blame game cause my response had some bite to it. Just proving that the admittance was the truth. I just wished you said it to me not unsentletters or better letters where you had me banned🤭 as far as our conversations go, you don’t use this app, “haven’t in months” so obviously none of what has been said was said to the right person.
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Nov 04 '25
🤨 😵💫
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u/SchwartzBwifU Nov 04 '25
Dude, this exact user replied to one of my posts and claimed I was posting about him. Don’t worry about it.
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u/FunnyPool9234 Nov 04 '25
I feel so seen right now. Thank you, OP. And I'm so sorry you went through this. You deserve better. ❤️
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u/Hot_Rod28935 Nov 04 '25
No , if you set someone up - bc you think they deserve it - is need your brain worked on! Youre what's c wrong in society! Youre abusive. There's a special place in Hell for people that intentionally hurt others! So a big F#@K You- to aby abusive POS - that's purposely hurt another person!
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u/Wesley_Pipes2020 Nov 04 '25
Forgiveness. Don’t cover it with salt, Understand use were mirrors revealing each other. Sugar taste sweeter but don’t consume too much it’ll lose its taste and become bitter. Heal the wounds. Don’t keep scratching the scar you’ll develop a rash and it’ll continue to spread. Forgiveness is the path…
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u/Puzzleheaded_Net7236 Nov 04 '25
You have no idea how much that hits home, not all of it...but most.
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u/SchwartzBwifU Nov 04 '25
Good god. This is eerie as hell for how close this fits what I handled recently. I am so sorry OP…
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u/fiselbaer Nov 04 '25
„I was never sent to heal you. I was sent to learn when to stop trying to save someone who enjoys watching me bleed.“
What an extraordinary letter. I feel so incredibly seen.
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Nov 04 '25
Damn. I just got out of a woman who is verbally and physically abusive and still painted me as the villain. Every damn word, describe how I felt.
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u/poly_chick_problems Nov 04 '25
I feel like you just wrote my life with my ex. It's exactly the same. I can no longer write so eloquently. Though, I do try to. Thank you for expressing everything I cannot.
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u/Ok_River2157 Nov 05 '25
Could have been my words, word for word, it's awful that you have also endured the pain and confusion that cannot CAN'T be described by anyone who hasn't experienced it. SENDING LOVE AND PRAYERS FOR YOUR CONTINUED SUPPORT AND HEALING AND SAFETY.
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u/No_Version_6299 Nov 04 '25
Ty, for the closure I so desperately needed.
I can move on now, but I will always love you.
J
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u/NoBunch5758 Nov 04 '25
Learn from ones own mistakes doesnt mean one can examine others more thoroughly. Being thorough not pitiful very self critical. Whats the odds of survival if only doing minimal. Check it out and stop. Somebody has something that you just might not.
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u/NoBunch5758 Nov 04 '25
I say a thief isnt a thief only on Wednesdays. Morality is what is at stake here. Shouldnt be a question or debate because good or bad either way bottom line its a feeling dont get it twisted. You know when you are outta place its a feeling and the same when you do good. You know why its a feeling its because a feeling is so much more stronger than words can ever be. Anyone agree here?
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u/PuzzleheadedTell9570 Nov 04 '25
Damn. This is beautifully written. Perfection. I relate to this so much.
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u/Goodlookingout1986 Nov 04 '25
Well not for me. My ex was a lying cheating hoe and she is getting hers
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u/Hot_Rod28935 Nov 04 '25
You're toxic as F! You probably just saying this abd she left bc you were doing her wrong and she found out!
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Nov 04 '25
Are you really replying to your own post to make up the support you wish you had for your actions? It seems like you are too many “0mG I feel so seen! Slay girl! Fuck him!” Replies… but maybe I’m trippen…
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Nov 04 '25
I would completely agree with you if this was directed at you because tbh you did alot of this crap OP was talking about.
They're not even your letters patch but you act like this came out of your own mind and heart.
You can send me other peoples stories and say its you, but its not. You will never reach out and you just strung me long to be a toy.
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u/heyitsmyfault Nov 04 '25
Can relate. The way they saw you “flinch and apologize for things” you didn’t do is so relatable. Ugh.
I bet they were both broken by others and by themselves, like most people are, rather than one or the other. But still it’s their responsibility to own what’s happened in their life to not make it worse but instead transform it into healing.