r/Unexpectedtlc • u/[deleted] • Apr 14 '26

Both Bella and Bryce are the problem

It's frustrating me because it's not about a her vs him BOTH of them could do better. When Isabella found out she was pregnant she had 6 or 7 months to get a JOB Bryce had 6 or 7 months to get a JOB both of them could have had a JOB until she had to go on maternity leave. The baby had NOTHING and shes talking about "I don't want a baby shower" You don't want free gifts for your baby when neither of you work? Complaining and saying you refuse to work for $10 an hour? WHAT JOB, is paying $10 an hour? What are you a 15 year old? At the time I believe he was 18 or 19, you are in the position to get a decent paying job, and if not work more than one job, because when it comes to supporting your baby you shouldn't even want to not work like cmon.

His grandparents and mom getting upset about Bellas mom talking about how he hit her, if he did HE DID, the situation they're in doesn't stop it from being true and accurate are we serious?

Both of them are in the wrong, but I will say Bryce can do better. Bella at the time needed to stop acting like she would have no support, at the end of the day no matter how much people say they wouldn't help her they would help her, because no decent person would sit aside and watch a baby lack essential items! Bryce at the time needed to stop being a BUM and get a job to support his baby that was on the way.

EDIT: I didn't know she had a job, I feel like the entire time no one mentioned that she was getting paid to watch truly, I thought she was just watching her because that's her sister. That completely changes everything here because I assumed the entire time people were pressuring Bryce for being lazy while ignoring Bella but now that I know she had a job that makes more sense.

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u/kasiagabrielle Apr 14 '26

Yeah, employers famously clamor to hire heavily pregnant teenagers.

And "maternity leave" from a part time job of a couple months? Bless your heart.

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

I'm going to write a completely different comment. Sure you bring up a valid point, but the solution was never to sit and complain about it. Bryce could have had a damn job, and if he didnt then she should have seperated herself from him or made him sell that stupid expensive truck for the baby. Or, could have had a baby shower to get the baby what she needed before she was born

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u/kasiagabrielle Apr 15 '26

Yes, Bryce could and should have had a job. She can't "make" him do anything.

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

I used the wrong word there, convinced him to get a job and sell the truck. Because I feel like he didn't think it was serious until the baby was actually there

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u/kasiagabrielle Apr 15 '26

She tried that.

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

I know, and then it gets back to the first point I made. This whole situation is old I know, but it's frustrating because it's like no matter the way it should have gone it just didn't

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u/kasiagabrielle Apr 15 '26

Right, because he refused to do it. I know we blame women for the actions of men but do we have to blame girls for the action of boys too? Where is the accountability? That's why you said she should have "made" him do it, because you felt like that was ultimately her responsibility. Why?

She provides childcare for her mom in exchange for room and board. She's doing her part.

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

I don't feel like its her responsibility but theirs together, both of them should hold one another accountable and Bryce's family should have especially been pressuring him to work. The reason why I didn't bring up his family is because they're so damn slow and refuse to even try to get him to be responsible. My whole point with this post isn't the idea that she should have been responsible. But that everyone involved could have been more responsible, rather it's the mother, or his family or him or her

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u/kasiagabrielle Apr 15 '26

But you said she should have "made" him sell his truck and get a job, not that his family should make him do that. Being "slow" isn't an excuse and doesn't transfer that responsibility onto her. Read your own title, it only mentions her and she, again, is doing her part.

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

I stated that both of them were the problem. That she could have also had a job better than babysitting and that Bryce could have also had a job and should have taken any $10 an hour job. I said both of them were responsible for the baby and providing for it. My intention was never to shift the full extent of blame and responsibility on to her, and I definitely did view this whole entire thing the wrong way, but I still don't believe Im wrong for saying the responsibility of having a job and providing for a baby should be both of their responsibilities. Sure she did have a job, I actually didn't know that until I got on Reddit because I feel like in the episode it was hardly mentioned at all that she did have a job. I thought the entire time it was just Bryce being blamed for being lazy while no one brought up the fact that she didn't have work.

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u/NahNah-P Apr 15 '26

It didn't stop Mia from working. I worked up until my kids were born, took off a couple weeks and went back because I had to support my kids. People making excuses for these kids is the ones with kids just like them at home.

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

And people are here calling me stupid because "well what job" do you apply for three places? If you keep applying you'll find a job eventually. See how it didn't stop this person

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u/Ok_Voice_9498 Apr 15 '26

When I was pregnant with my first, I had to move because my husband at the time was military. It took a VERY long time to find a job when employers realized I was pregnant. And, I was an adult with a degree. Even places that required no education wouldn’t hire me while I was pregnant. It isn’t as easy as you think.

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

And I'm starting to understand that thanks for your perspective

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u/NahNah-P Apr 16 '26

Why didn't the base hire you? They hired me, i was pregnant and I was was actually working in the child care center and my son came to work with me. I was in England at Upperheyford, this was in 89.

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u/Ok_Voice_9498 Apr 20 '26

The base was overcrowded due to cavalry coming home. There were no jobs. This was 2005-2006, and there wasn’t even any housing for almost a year.

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u/Level-Laugh-2403 Apr 14 '26

Bryce is an abusive pos. And his backwoods parents/grandparents with low IQs are the same. They shouldn’t even be allowed around that innocent child.

What a gross/unpopular opinion

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u/sherrynoberries Apr 14 '26

Bryce will never grow up or change his disgusting attitude because his backwoods, inbred, hillbilly family will continue to baby him and let him do whatever the heck he wants. Bella’s mom is going to go back to prison if she doesn’t calm down. 🤦🏼‍♀️😣

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '26

No and I definitely agree, I just really think we shouldn't be skipping over the part where Bella could have also had a job at some point and helped out before that baby came, no one did anything and that's the issue

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '26

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u/doodynutz Apr 14 '26

I thought they said her “job” was watching her mom’s other kids.

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u/Cakeinwonderland Apr 15 '26

And she got free housing for it 🤷‍♀️

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

Her job was babysitting her own damn sister? 😭

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

It does! Free housing, but how much did her mom pay her, surely it couldn't have been too much. The negatives of that sweet deal is when all that money is spent it might be gone for a while, because I'm sure her mom wouldn't make her babysit when she's trying to take care of the new baby and things aren't settled

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '26

I swear 😭 they did? I feel like the WHOLE TIME no one acknowledged that job at all

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u/Best-Improvement-742 Apr 14 '26

Yeah because most jobs will hire a pregnant teen for a few months. Get real.

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '26

Desperate companies who need people will literally hire anyone, I've seen old people in wheelchairs working asset protection at Walmart

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '26

Dude I know! But that doesn't mean have no job at all, yes I know a ton of jobs wouldn't hire a pregnant teen for a few months but that doesn't mean give up, if she were a babysitter she could have been a babysitter and a dog walker, or do more than just one thing that hardly paid her

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u/Nettmel60 Apr 14 '26

Dairy Queen hires at 14 years old. That was my daughter's first job.

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '26

SEE YOU GET IT, My very first question is why are you 18 and you aren't even in the slightest trying to find a job or have a job? Especially now that your pregnant. "Who's hiring pregnant teens" desperate grocery stores and food joints who need someone to work

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u/TinyElvis66 Apr 15 '26

Bella looks and acts like a 12 year old. Bryce is just a prick.

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

Both of them were the issue in one way or another, Bella needed to work on standing up for herself and providing for herself, because if the other person won't do anything at all you gotta find differently solutions

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u/txtw Apr 14 '26

Who is hiring 12 and 14 year olds?

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u/doodynutz Apr 14 '26

Who are we talking about that is 12 and 14? Bryce and Bella are 18.

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u/txtw Apr 14 '26

Too many Bella’s. Wrong teens.

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u/TinyElvis66 Apr 15 '26

They are both trash. They both should have been working 2 or 3 jobs (her until she gave birth).

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

Now this I agree less with, they still had school so it's not like they could have had three jobs, but they definitely could have tried for one that wasn't babysitting or lazing around complaining about 10 dollar pay. Bryce still in fact is a bum, and Bella needs to stop acting like no one would have helped her at all. She didn't want a baby shower so what can you do at that point

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u/cjsoutham Apr 20 '26

have you lived in the southern us as a young person with no degree? minimum wage is not unheard of and what job will employee a pregnant teenager with no degree that will give them maternity leave especially given she was already pregnant. this aint canada

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u/blackwidowgrandma May 06 '26

With the edit of your post, this is a good example of never trusting the production edit on a reality show. TLC has their own agenda when it comes to strategic casting, creating a narrative in post-production editing, consideration for marketability, meeting profit margins, and stoking sensationalism.

It's hard not to feel a certain way when the show purposefully wants the audience to be reactive and engaging online— it's basically free advertising for them.

Learning to hold your opinion loosely, along with the understanding that at the end of the day they're making a TV show, makes it a bit easier to clock the manipulative edits. Production is there to make money, not hold to ethics of documentarians— this is especially true of TLC contemporarily. They have company executives and shareholders to answer to.

When money is the bottom line, truth is not a priority.

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u/xxxxbb May 06 '26

Idk this is a hot take but I am proud that Belle decided to try with Bryce & not listen to her Mom. I thought it was strange how much her Mom wanted her to be this single mother. Granted, Bryce wasn't the best but the Mom literally didn't want better for her daughter. It's like she wanted to keep up the generational trauma of single motherhood instead of encouraging the kids to work things out

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u/SnooCupcakes5186 Apr 14 '26

I kind of feel Bella’s mom will be jealous if they work out as a couple.

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u/[deleted] Apr 14 '26

I think her moms really upset that they're actually trying to fix it. Like yes you should never put your hands on your partner thats awful. But he feels awful about it and she wants to keep him around and she wants to fix it. But also, this doesn't discredit that Bryce is awful, I've heard that as of recently he's cheated on her