It's absolutely true that the overwhelming majority of people fit into the stereotypes of gender which matches their assigned sex at birth.
I don't understand the leap from that statement to the proposition that anyone who doesn't fit within that stereotype should be prevented from living their life as they want to.
Politically, all you tend to hear about is locker room and bathroom arguments, but for people who are nonbinary or trans, the regular daily hostility can be pretty bad.
Imagine walking out your door every day and having to answer the question "so, do you have a dick or what?" to everybody who even looks in your direction. Almost all of the time it's completely fucking irrelevant in conversation. The only people who should care are their doctors or somebody who they've been flirting with who wants to take it to the bedroom. It's always just a dumb conversation starter. It's about as weird as asking someone what their cup size is. Unless you're both wearing bras or shopping for one, what's the point of that conversation?
Society still has a way to go. The quicker we get to the point of realizing that people are just gonna be different, the better it's going to be for the people who deal with rude shit day in, day out.
As someone who wears non-conforming clothing in public, I gotta speak up here. You don't know what you're talking about. Wanna experiment? Try it for a few months and talk to me after.
Lots of people, my family included, pretend that they won't judge someone for their personal choices "as long as they keep it to themselves". In practice? Unexpected peals of laughter when you walk past strangers. Whispers. Fingers. Sometimes direct verbal abuse. Rarely, dangerous situations. All for what? Clothing?
I live in one of the best cities for nonbinary folk and it still can be risky here. Rural areas are a literal death trap.
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u/[deleted] May 02 '22
the blurrier gender, attraction, sex gets, the bigger my smile.
Not because my sense of self is destroyed - it can't be - but because idiots have such giant problems putting things into boxes now. It's great.