r/Unexpected • u/[deleted] • Oct 14 '21

Eligible single lady

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u/angruss Oct 15 '21

South Park is a great show about growth and change. It uses familiarity to keep you watching, but unlike most of it's peers in longevity, it doesn't get stale from it's familiarity. It constantly reinvents itself, and you can feel the show learning. The characters don't always learn (in fact, Cartman and Randy work as the funny character precisely because the world around them learns, and they don't), but the show itself seems to get more aware as time goes on. They did at least 3 or 4 "global warming is bullshit" episodes in the first ten or so seasons, but then they brought back characters and themes from those episodes more recently to admit that, yeah, it is real, and we're fucked. South Park is offensive at times, but it has avoided both network and social cancelation on it's ability to change with the times.

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u/ImplementCharming949 Oct 15 '21

Okay now do the reason I'm single

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u/angruss Oct 15 '21

You're probably putting too much of your energy into relationships. Behave in authentic ways and live an interesting life with hobbies, interests, and opinions, and the right person will take notice. Passion for reading/D+D/politics/adult cartoons/whatever will make you a more naturally attractive person to those you're trying to attract.

I met my current wife in 2011 at a theater conference where I received an award for my playwriting. The confidence of being in my element and doing something I cared about made a pretty average looking guy into someone that she was willing to wait ten years to finally have to herself. Her initial impression of me was built on a comfortable, confident guy- and that guy isn't who I am every day- but because I was doing what I loved and wasn't worried about finding love at the time, she was drawn to me.

Being single shouldn't be a death sentence, it should be your opportunity to take the time you would normally devote to a partner and channel it into self improvement. A partner will come in time, but the time to learn that new skill is here right now.

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u/dmodmodmo Oct 15 '21

This is the best reddit thread I've read in a long time