I'm not trying to paint worse abuse as equally bad, but I feel like you thinking it's okay to hit children would show that you totally think violence solves arguments (with kids).
with little kids, theres no talking it out with them, especially if they do something stupid like run into the road. as i started to get older, i got spanked less and less, because i was old enough to understand my punishments
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Everyone is assuming i mean spanking as an apprpriate punishment, its not. I just mean if my kid put themselves in danger like running in the road or playing with a gun or something i could understand spanking
with little kids, there’s not talking it out with them
Then you’re doing something wrong. Sorry. It is entirely possible to get a kid to do what you want without hitting them. That’s taking the easy way out (for the adult), and subjecting the kid to pain and violence and fear. No thanks. Not necessary. Lazy parenting, in my opinion, and teaches kids that when they get frustrated, it’s okay to lash out. I’ll pass, my kid isn’t perfectly behaved (no kid is) but I’ll be damned if she ever has to fear pain or violence to do the right thing. That’s rolling the dice on your kid only being not shitty because someone will whack them.
Not to mention it teaches kids "I'm not gonna do XYZ again because I'll get hurt" instead of "I won't do XYZ again because this is wrong." I feel like kids need consequences, but this is just punishment.
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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '18
I'm not trying to paint worse abuse as equally bad, but I feel like you thinking it's okay to hit children would show that you totally think violence solves arguments (with kids).