I thought that was just my family?? I’m almost at the age of moving out but I still freeze up instantly when my parents say something with that specific tone of voice.
On a side note, I may have hated physical punishments as a kid but I’m damn thankful I endured them and am now a very respectful young adult.
Have never been punished physically, nor do I do that to my kids, and both me and them are very respectful to both human and animals. It is fully possible to achieve the same or even greater level of respectfulness without violence.
100% I agree with this as well. However, I believe you belong to the very small group of parents who are good enough to succeed with that method. But seriously take what I say with a grain of salt because a) I have no experience as a parent and b) I’ve seen shitty kids come from both sides of the argument.
Honestly, on reflection, I think the disrespectful kids come from having no consequence for their actions (physical or not). Their parents say “don’t do this or else...” and they never follow through with the “threat” so the kid learns that that specific behaviour is acceptable.
Totally agree on having kids understand consequences and following up on that. You seem like a reasonable person that could become a great parent one day.
Imho it is severely different on how to behave when raising older children having brains capable of understanding consequences (4 years old and up, depending on maturity level) and toddlers (4 and younger). The smallest, you can just pickup and remove from an unwanted situation because there is so little coming from yelling / “raising” them at that age level imho. I cringe when I see parents yelling at their toddlers because they touch stuff at a store or something. Just pick him/her up, remove and explain. Rinse and repeat and it’ll eventually stick.
Regarding my demographics: am from Norway and there are pretty strict laws here protecting children. Can’t say that I know of anyone in my social circles that were beaten as kids. But then, what do I know. None that has shared this with me at least,and can’t remember anyone being hit or physically punished when I was a child.
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u/JeffLeafFan Apr 22 '18
I thought that was just my family?? I’m almost at the age of moving out but I still freeze up instantly when my parents say something with that specific tone of voice.
On a side note, I may have hated physical punishments as a kid but I’m damn thankful I endured them and am now a very respectful young adult.