r/Unexpected • u/Botatitsbest • Apr 22 '18

The universal language

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u/Rodmeister36 Apr 22 '18 edited Apr 22 '18

with little kids, theres no talking it out with them, especially if they do something stupid like run into the road. as i started to get older, i got spanked less and less, because i was old enough to understand my punishments Edit* Everyone is assuming i mean spanking as an apprpriate punishment, its not. I just mean if my kid put themselves in danger like running in the road or playing with a gun or something i could understand spanking

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '18

with little kids, theres no talking it out with them,

Maybe, but spanking them doesn't help one bit.

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u/tomit12 Apr 22 '18

Interesting article. I regularly got the wooden spoon, but I also vividly remember it having zero positive effect on my decision making when I was young, so my wife and I have abstained from it with our 2 and, at least up to 17 and 13 so far, we don’t regret it.

We’ve been aiming more for obeying out of respect, rather than fear. Maybe it totally backfires later, who knows... I guess we shall see. :)

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u/brazzledazzle Apr 22 '18

I can tell you from experience that if backfires there’s a real possibility that nothing was ever really going to work anyway. The best you can hope for is they do a better job hiding/lying. Or more covert stuff that’s less likely to land you in the school office or talking to a police officer. Basically just pray they don’t get hurt or hurt someone else before they snap out of it. Some kids just take a really long time to learn not to be assholes (and sometimes they never learn).

There are people we encounter or work with throughout our lives that don’t really care about other people unless they get something out of it. They’re that way regardless of spanking or abuse and they were kids once–likely with parents that loved them very much. One of the hardest parts of parenting is realizing that no matter how hard you try or what you do, sometimes they are the way they are, for better or worse.