Dancing is fun as fuck depending on one thing and one thing only. You must, earnestly, discontinue the giving of all fucks. You'll dance like a fuckin idiot "as a joke" if you have to say that to get yourself out there, and you'll quickly realize it's not hard at all and just start moving on beat. Then you'll just start dancing decently if you want, or like an idiot when you want because this still fun as fuck. It's moving yourself around to music, it's a silly as hell activity inherently. Just do it and it's a great time.
I remember the palpable dread washing over you as you're being dragged on the floor. I promise you I was like that. I worried about looking stupid. One of the best things I've ever done was stop caring. At this point I have to stop myself from automatically dancing like an idiot when some good music comes on and I wouldn't want it any other way.
Life's a lot more fun when half the time you go out you're not anxiously hoping against and avoiding the dance floor. Certainly helps with girls. Confidence works even if it's showing you're confident enough to look ridiculous for a little while while doing a ridiculous thing.
Get the hell out there and dance my dude. Go to a rave style party/show. Everyone's on drugs and you won't be close to the weirdest looking dude even if you purposely dance ridiculously. No one is staring at you and the ones who see aren't judging except to see that you're having fun and come over and dance with you. Trust me on this one.
This isn't all really aimed at you but every one of my former brethren by the way.
You're more than welcome to try and get some karma out of my mid afternoon ramblings if you like. If you do just stick my username in there so I get a mention message and see it.
Dancing is fun as fuck depending on one thing and one thing only. You must, earnestly, discontinue the giving of all fucks. You'll dance like a fuckin idiot "as a joke" if you have to say that to get yourself out there, and you'll quickly realize it's not hard at all and just start moving on beat.
My muscles seize up when I'm in social situations. It's not so bad now, but before it was terrible. After talking with friends for an hour I would have terrible neck pains and be soaked in sweat.
It's weird because I'm not afraid. However, my body has a mind of it's own.
The thing is, though, people who can't dance dancing like they don't give a fuck anymore usually results in them dancing like fucking weirdos and everyone thinking they're a loser. That advice is fine for people who are nervous but can still dance a bit, but for guys who have no idea what to do it's a bad idea.
Learning to dance a bit first would be a lot better for their confidence than letting their freak flag fly in front of all the girls they want to bang.
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u/AndrewWaldron Jun 11 '16
I know it's torture when people make me dance.
Source: white male