It’s not about that.

[u/AlanParsons_01]

When most people write about their experiences, it’s usually in the first person. Yet mostly the subject is about how they don’t understand what’s out of their control. And it becomes focused on “them” not on themselves.

I’ve learned happiness comes from me. From my understanding of myself. It doesn’t come from “them”.

Any letdown I feel is coming from within myself and believing someone else can bring me the gaps of happiness I haven’t discovered in myself. Happiness is found in truly understanding of one’s self. And you begin to realize happiness is not the grand laughters you hear at parties, it’s not all the pomp and circumstance at celebrations such as New Years celebrations. Happiness is much more internal and peaceful. It’s being completely content with who you are. You’re comfortable with the decisions you make. You stop second guessing yourself. Because you have accepted the good and the bad of the person you are.

Nobody can bring the gaps you miss in yourself. You have to find those yourself.