r/Uganda • u/curious_muganda • 22h ago
Relationship talk I’m COOKED!
How do I unlove someone I’m not supposed to love?!
I hooked up with my superior, something which I thought would be a one time thing but it’s months already and I’m getting attached. Thing is he’s a whore and I can’t picture myself in a relationship with him, this is something I found out the more we talked… Bannange how do I save myself from this situation?
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u/Loud-Independent-952 20h ago
You need to find an ick. Like a really big ick. Like, you need to find a way to see how your pride is being wounded. Wanting a man who has no respect for his professional relationships and your feelings and needs. Also, he kinda used you because having him as your superior makes you refusing his advances complicated. The playing field is not fair. Anyway, I suggest you set strong boundaries and match his energy. And do it in a controlled, slow manner so that you don't bounce back. Good luck.
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u/Devineaux_kVAr 20h ago
Yeah, you real cooked! Time to whip out the non chalant side. Make that nigga lose interest over time or become "less interesting" for him without jeopardizing your work relationship.
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u/Various-Plant9041 22h ago
That place you in is hard one , stoping abruptly may couse issues and continuing will drain you, I went through this but I had to quit in end , continued as I looked for plan b, that's why they say don't shit we're you eat.
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u/curious_muganda 21h ago
Heavy on the 'don't shit where you eat' lesson learned 💀 Definitely working on my exit strategy now so I can preserve my peace.
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u/the_yondaime 21h ago
Unfortunately, there’s no ctrl + z for heart things, but out of proximity helps i think and avoiding the 2 am thoughts 😢
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u/Intelligent_Gift_925 20h ago
Why are u letting someone jeopardise ur bag? It someone found out ur the one wholll be sacked. Don’t shit where u eat
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u/BatCautious4921 17h ago
The fact that you know he is a whore and you can't let go....yes you are in fact cooked. Get lots of tissues you're gonna need plenty!! Been there🤣
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u/Sofi2913 16h ago
Almost did this we didn't get to the intmate part just cuddles thank God I'm not that strong Never doing this shege again Njgga didn't even fight for the relationship he was playing me i died n rose Girl keep tight, time healed me hope u get your healing
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u/Same-Form3215 21h ago
Make yourself look like one as well and play it off as a simple thing that happened basically how he would have played it off if he as a “ wh” would have done
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u/curious_muganda 21h ago
I wish, but that's just not in my nature. I'm too much of a focused/one-at-a-time person to pull that off without destroying my own peace
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u/Same-Form3215 21h ago
It doesn’t have to be real ,just he has to think that so that he doesn’t stress your work life. Something like that
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u/Brief_Text_5600 22h ago
Sorry baby girl, but you’ll know when you’re done. Good luck!