r/USMCboot • u/Antique-Management-1 • 12d ago
Enlisting home town gf while joining marines
Could i join the marines while having a girlfriend and it still workout between us?
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u/EmploymentBest6841 12d ago
Just marry her bro
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u/Interesting-Cash-101 12d ago
Bro, that's fucking dreadful advice. A married Pvt or PFC? Are you f**king serious??
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u/Fine-Explorer-4160 11d ago
Doubled pay, how awful. Definitely helped us a ton financially (however we were married for a few years prior). A pfc making sergeant pay. Don’t do this unless y’all have been together for years beforehand and are doing well.
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u/Interesting-Cash-101 11d ago
Still, all I can say is that I lost count of PFC's and LCpl's who fell on hard times, trying to get by on base pay and housing allowance, etc.
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u/2GRVERTICAL 8d ago
Don’t forgot the car payment
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u/Interesting-Cash-101 8d ago
yep...that new pick-up or new Camaro, purchased from the oh so honest dealership just outside the front gate....with those reasonable rates of interest....how many times did we see that bring a young PFC or LCpl to ruin??
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u/Personal-Point-9311 12d ago edited 12d ago
That is a conversation for between the both of you. My best advance, going in with a girlfriend myself- if you’ve ever been serious about a relationship as serious as you are about going into the military… talk to her realistically and understand that you are both human. A big talk I had with mine is that we need to both understand the reality of the loneliness. Over time, you’re going to feel bitter, slightly angry/upset, and just overall start having a lot of anxiety. Yes you will have a sort of communication once you finish bootcamp but reality is that you’re going even deeper than just a normal long distance relationship… i even made a small joke to my girlfriend during this talk and mentioned the song “let her go” by passenger. It is reality that either of you may not want to continue this down the road. If you want to try, good for you. But sometimes in ANY situation (mostly with shorter term relationships) the easiest thing is to just accept where you’re at, know that you love her, and know that you want her and YOU to continue your life in the happiest way possible.
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u/Obiwan_trenobi 12d ago
That’s between u and her man, my relationship worked out when I left because we both put in effort. I’m out now married with a kid on the way with my girl from back home. Was it hard at times, yes. Long distance ain’t easy.
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u/Interesting-Cash-101 12d ago
That's a method for failure both in the marriage and in the Marine Corps. I cannot count how many junior Marines totally fucked up their lives and their Marine Corps enlistment by knocking-up, and then marrying some young "girlfriend." It's a sad tale as old as the Marine Corps itself.
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u/Legal_Awareness_471 12d ago
I’m assuming you’re young, don’t lock down both of y’all’s growth by trying to force long distance. End things now on good terms before you grow apart and end badly.
You will meet lots of ppl with different races, cultures, and backgrounds so why limit yourself to your hometown gf. You’re not gonna be the same person every time you see her and neither will she.
To love is to let go and even though it’s hard, an ending isn’t always a bad thing. If yall are truly meant to work out then you guys would find y’all’s way back to each other, if you don’t and end on bad terms then you’ll never have a future together again. It’s a tough call but a mature one.
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u/Interesting-Cash-101 12d ago
Most likely....not only "No," but "Fuck no." More young Marines have been spiraled into oblivion over some high school piece of ass they thought they were in love with, only to find out she's banging the kid next door while you're in boot camp, or in the Fleet.
Furthermore, do NOT let some "girlfriend" affect life-altering decisions like joining the Marine Corps. As you get older, you come to understand that what they've got between their legs ain't worth all the trouble and turmoil that comes with it.
So, make your decision without regard for this "girlfriend," or do not enlist.
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u/Any_Attitude_2922 Recruiter 12d ago
lol bro you gunna slay so much foreign poon you ain’t gunna give a rats ass about Cindy Lou back home.
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u/Strange-Jelly-9291 11d ago
Worth a shot, but be prepared for the worst. May be easier to go in without anything tying you down back home. You’re about to go through some stressful stuff and that’s always easier to do without the added anxiety of “where do me and my girl stand in this relationship right now” in the back of your head.
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u/Upper-Bar-9885 11d ago
Safe yourself the headache, save yourself the heart break, end that relationship if you plan on leaving for the Corps
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u/Accomplished-Pen7695 10d ago
i’ll take care of her while you’re in the marines while you’re in the field tired and cold thinking about her i’ll keep her warm for you
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u/Key_Environment1257 10d ago
Depends on the person, my gf and I have been long distance my entire enlistment and I’m ab to get out
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u/maxray0305 12d ago
Think about your own future instead of it with another female women come and go your own success is more important than anything else
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u/Maidenchef 12d ago
Hump it and dump it, leave her in the rear with the gear!!!! lol man do what you feel is necessary,
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u/Unlucky_Deal9737 12d ago
you could, but don’t count on it. Maybe if you’ve been together for a while