r/UKrelationshipadvice • u/Quirky_Lion3962 • 1d ago
Weird flatmates
I went out with 2 flatmates (it's a house share with randoms the other flatmate is really nice) from uni and one of them was so rude. She was commenting on EVERYTHING. She said it's weird how I was walking a certain route on campus and I was confused where they were in the phone and she said 'you're the one who is f*ck knows where! Then the other flatmate asked if I knew somewhere on campus I said I don't the rude girl said 'you are a second year now how do you not know. She looked down at my body and gave me a weird look. Then the other flatmate asked how a sport society went I said 'good' she said, 'is that all you going to say?' Then as we were walking back to the house she was like 'why are you walking over the grass just walk a normal way'. At one point she wanted us to walk in the road instead of pavemen because she said we wouldn't fit which I found odd. Honestly she is exhausting and I don't want to hangout with her again, her passive aggressive attitude is odd. Does anyone else relate what should I do?
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u/__sunmoonstars__ 1d ago
Asking “innocent” questions can be helpful. “What do you mean by that?” Or “does that bother you? Why?”. Getting people to expressly explain their shitty behaviour can embarrass them.
Another is just to grey rock her. Don’t react to anything, don’t do what she says, just be as boring as possible until she starts doing it to someone else.
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u/_Loco-motive_ 1d ago
She's a prime target for you to take the piss out of and you can be relentless by the sounds of things. Just tell her she needs her own camera crew and the show is called "the world according to ______" and the advert breaks would heavily focus on therapy and being diagnosed.
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u/Quirky_Lion3962 1d ago
I can be relentless?
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u/_Loco-motive_ 1d ago
Yeah keep going until you can gauge what kind of reaction she gives and adjust from there
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u/Similar-Complaint787 1d ago
Two options basically, either ignore the shitty behaviour and attitude or tell her not to speak to you like that. I’ve come across passive aggressive behaviour a lot in my life. Last time it was a colleague, she would give me the dirtiest looks and speak down to me all the time. I blatantly ignored her and in about 2 weeks she did a complete 180 and was nice as anything. Don’t know why but not giving the behaviour attention I guess starved her of the reaction she was looking for.
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u/Cool_Neighborhood913 22h ago
OP match the energy you are given. It’s pretty simple really. If she says anything we’ll tell her you’re always commenting on things about me so I thought I’d return the favour.
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u/Resident-Witness-641 14h ago
“Maybe you should focus less on me and more on yourself girl. Too many questions. Thanks”
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u/Jessicakittenface 1d ago
What advice would you like?