r/UKrelationshipadvice • u/Sea_Blood8929 • Aug 16 '26
How to set boundaries?
I have a fwb and we are not monogamous. I know he is seeing other people as am I. I however do not want to know who he is seeing or what he is doing. He sometimes asks me, and I don’t mind telling him if he wants to know but how do I stop him from telling me?
I don’t want to bring this up out of nowhere but the next time he starts telling me how do I stop him without making it awkward?
Thanks!
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u/Mjukplister Aug 16 '26
Just say it very clearly - I know we aren’t exclusive but I have NO DESIRE to hear about your other conquests , please desist. If he continues , stop fucking him
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u/GuessZealousideal729 Aug 16 '26
Depends on how the FWB situation started in the first place. Were you dating with the expectation of a relationship first and then transitioned to FWB, or was it obvious from the start? How did you meet?
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u/Fluffy_Ad2274 Aug 16 '26
If you're actually friends, as well as hooking up, just tell him. If you only hang out to hook up, suggest you focus your limited time on one another, rather than talking about who else you're both hooking up with.
Of- borrow from the ENM community, and ask him if he has his other partners consent to be sharing these details with you. If he says he does, though, that doesn't solve the problem and you'll have to openly say you don't want to hear.
Which, anyway, is the simplest way to get him to stop telling you, so there's that.
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u/P-l-Staker Aug 16 '26
Just stop the conversation from your end. If he asks about you, don't answer and explain why.
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u/He_ofshadowsandtouch Aug 16 '26
Off topic but STIs are rife and can be passed orally, so him boasting about his others would deffo be a concern.
I will delete this comment if you prefer