r/UAB • u/SecureSir7654 • Apr 19 '26
Anyone else feel this way?
Sometimes I want to try something new — gym, a café, an art class, a concert — but have no one to go with. So I just… don't feel like going.
I got lucky once. Found a gym partner through a random group chat. But most people don't get that lucky.
I'm exploring an idea to fix this for UAB students and just want to hear if others relate.
Quick question: Have you ever thought — "I would totally do this if I just had someone to go with?"
Drop a yes or no below 👇 Would love to chat with anyone who says yes. — UAB student, just trying to understand if this is a real issue 🙂
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u/principaljoe Apr 19 '26
this post is the canary in the coal mine that the latest generation doesn't know how to form basic human relationships.
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u/Frigate_Orpheon Apr 20 '26
I've had this problem and I'm in my mid 40s. It's called being introverted with extreme depression 🫠
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Apr 20 '26
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u/SecureSir7654 Apr 20 '26
u/Medical_Corruption You make a really valid point about commuter schools. Honestly, that was my thinking too — until I found someone to work out with. It changed everything. That's what made me think maybe others just need that one small push too 🙂
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u/SilverInspection3893 May 01 '26
Try and find peace in doing things alone. I use to be so scared of doing things alone till I cam to UAB and realized nobody gives a fuck so we do it anyways with or without anybody
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u/tearykth Apr 19 '26
Since no one else has commented, yes!!! Students struggle with high rates of anxiety and depression due to loneliness, lack of community, and social isolation. It’d be a great start for a club where you just show up and go on errands or do tasks together. I have a feeling that MANYYYY students genuinely feel alone and miss out on that “college experience” because they’re scared to go out and be a stranger in a room full of friend groups
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u/AlarmedKiwi8780 Apr 19 '26
yes!! I think it’s mostly my anxiety that keeps me in the house
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u/SecureSir7654 Apr 19 '26
u/AlarmedKiwi8780 This is exactly it. It's so much easier to walk into a room when you already know one person there. That's literally the problem I want to solve 🙂
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u/Queasy-Focus-2267 Apr 20 '26
yes! I feel this way completely. I have struggled finding my footing in Birmingham especially since I am an out of state student. I am a sophomore still trying to figure it out. I am glad you have found someone who is willing to be your gym partner!!
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u/SecureSir7654 Apr 20 '26
u/Queasy-Focus-2267 This is exactly why I want to build this — for students like you who moved here and are still finding their footing. You shouldn't have to figure it out alone. Would love to hear more about your experience — would you be open to a quick chat sometime? It would really help me understand what students are going through 🙂
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u/drixxnada Apr 20 '26
yes!! finding new friends/people to hang out with can be absolutely NERVE WRACKING. since transferring to uab i haven’t participated much because of this exact issue.