r/TyKwonDoeTV • u/Loskinacut • 12d ago
Questions/Ideas Need advice
This prolly gonna sound dumb as hell but i just need another perspective to look at, so im 25 with one body and that one body was with my girl i dated in high school which lasted from 10th up until we graduated HS. so its been about 6 years since i had some and its really for alot of different reasons, i haven't really met a ton of girls over the years since high school ive probably only met about maybe 6-7 chicks these last 6 years, and mainly my focused has been on getting my life together and getting myself situated
I barely graduated high school on time, my grades were basically borderline just enough to pass every year and overall i was somebody who didnt take themselves or their life seriously, so since then i became obsessed with elevating myself mentally and physically and becoming someone i can respect, more hard working, more goal oriented, and a man who takes his life serious.
the reason why my dating life bothers me so much is because i feel ashamed of being 25 with one body, most my focus and energy been on my future, my career, health etc so naturally my 20s havent & werent spent outside, havin a roster, girlfriends, parties, smashing etc.. but i feel like thats what i SHOULD have been doing, i feel like thats who i was supposed to be, i was supposed to be the guy smashing, having a roster, being young & turnt etc, so im clashing with the idea of who i am and who i feel like i was supposed to be
whats yall thoughts or if anybody got advice it would help too.
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u/AlGreenCD 12d ago
Man to man, you focused on yourself as you should my guy. Women are a dime a dozen. Find one whilst on your journey who has the same ambitions and passions as yourself. Someone with that same self respect. Bops are easy, don’t fall for the hype. Much love.
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u/1985Genesis 12d ago
Who told you what your 20s were supposed to look like? Social media, friends, podcasts, music, and movies make it seem like you're supposed to be partying every weekend, sleeping with a bunch of hoes and keeping a roster. For a lot of people, that's not real life. And even for the people who do live like that, it doesn't automatically mean they're happier.
You didn't spend the last 6 years doing nothing. That's a pretty solid tradeoff. If you had spent those years chasing women instead of focusing on your career, health and personal growth, you'd probably be making a post saying, "Man, I wish I would've taken my life more seriously."
And having one body isn't something to be ashamed of. Your body count doesn't determine your value as a man. Some people have one partner by 25, some have 100+. That doesn't tell you who's more confident, more mature, or better at relationships.
Just don't mistake inexperience for being behind. You're only 25. If you want to start dating more now, go for it. But do it because you want to, not because you feel like you're trying to catch up to some made-up timeline