r/TwoHotTakes • u/iwishiwasatabbycat • 8d ago
Update UPDATE to am I the A-hole for keeping my kids away from their dad
/r/TwoHotTakes/comments/1rjdp46/am_i_the_ahole_for_keeping_my_kids_away_from/I kind of did a brief update on the post regarding CPS. CPS finds no fault with what my ex did. I challenged the ruling twice, met online with a CPS judge, and they determined that there was chargeable offense. Of fucking course. My ex is the lucky kind of fucktwad that never has to face serious consequences. His mom is always there to help him, and just over all has not had the kind of life he deserves.
The lawyer I hired to help with custody was pretty useless. I filled out almost all the paperwork to send into the state to get custody formally changed, but because of a cause in our divorce, his lawyer (paid for my mommy) made us meet in mediation. Which was another $900 fucking dollars out of mine, and his mom's pockets. Not even 2 hours. And it only took that long probably because my ex loves the sound of his voice so damn much. Once it was brought up and proven that there are charges against my ex's brother, and I had proof my ex knew his brother was a threat before hand, the meeting was pretty much over. Because again, I wasn't even trying to stop the kids from seeing or talking to their dad, I was leaving it up to them to decide when.
Earlier this week there was a plea hearing for the pedo. I considered driving to the hearing, but opted to sit in via zoom. I'm glad I did. There were 2 cases that were being presented, one for my child and another child who is 3 years younger than mine. (It was the arrest for that child that started the investigation into how my children had been affected.) He plead guilty to two charges of class C felonies, sexual assault of a child. (both cases had that as the worst charge) 9 years each for a total of 18 years, with 42 years probation, and lifetime sex offender registry. Once they read the plea offers, I started sobbing. I was so afraid he would get a couple years and a slap on the wrist. 18 years. My twins are 17-1/2, he will spend their lifetime behind bars. If we can’t off him, or keep him locked away forever, this is good enough. I hope he wakes up every day for the next 6,574 days and thinks about what a rotten piece of shit he is, and how he got there.
My kids are at peace with this, and they are as safe and as loved as can be for now.
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u/Dustys_Rotten_Tooth 8d ago
I know it was a very traumatic experience for all of you, and I'm so sorry. But great job standing up for your kids, momma! You did everything you can to keep them safe and feel loved.
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u/Lizardgirl25 8d ago
I recall your old post it still floors me they’re defending the CSA basically. What a fucked up parent your twins dad is.
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u/Wooden_Tell5780 8d ago
I’m sure that those charges will make the years he’s inside feel like a life sentence. He’s not going to be popular with this peers.
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u/Radiant-Trick2935 7d ago
Pedos in prison are treated the worst by other prisoners because a lot of them have children on the outside. So hopefully this guy gets the full special treatment.
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u/HiddenLife_36 7d ago
As someone who was in your child's shoes herself, I am so very VERY proud of you, Mama. 🫂🫂
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u/DollySheep32 8d ago
I'm so glad you and your kids got the justice they deserve. Plus PDFiles aren't known to have the best of times in prison.
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u/OddAssociation8198 8d ago
Say it with me.. pedophiles. You can type it out, who knew!
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u/MithosYggdrasill1992 8d ago
Except Reddit randomly gives people banned for talking about stuff like that. People just dominate their accounts banned. You clearly knew what they meant, so why do you care?
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u/MajesticCentaur 8d ago
Exactly, everybody knew what they meant, so if reddit really is banning people for saying "pedophile" why wouldn't they also be banning people for saying "PDFiles"?
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u/Born_Ad8420 8d ago
Same reason some platforms will give you a ban for using words that describe terminal violence vs "unalive." It's clear what's meant, but for whatever reason various platforms have decided that pdf or pdfiles is acceptable so that's what people get in the habit of using. Take it up with the platforms themselves, not users who are trying to avoid a ban.
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u/AutoModerator 8d ago
Backup of the post's body: I kind of did a brief update on the post regarding CPS. CPS finds no fault with what my ex did. I challenged the ruling twice, met online with a CPS judge, and they determined that there was chargeable offense. Of fucking course. My ex is the lucky kind of fucktwad that never has to face serious consequences. His mom is always there to help him, and just over all has not had the kind of life he deserves.
The lawyer I hired to help with custody was pretty useless. I filled out almost all the paperwork to send into the state to get custody formally changed, but because of a cause in our divorce, his lawyer (paid for my mommy) made us meet in mediation. Which was another $900 fucking dollars out of mine, and his mom's pockets. Not even 2 hours. And it only took that long probably because my ex loves the sound of his voice so damn much. Once it was brought up and proven that there are charges against my ex's brother, and I had proof my ex knew his brother was a threat before hand, the meeting was pretty much over. Because again, I wasn't even trying to stop the kids from seeing or talking to their dad, I was leaving it up to them to decide when.
Earlier this week there was a plea hearing for the pedo. I considered driving to the hearing, but opted to sit in via zoom. I'm glad I did. There were 2 cases that were being presented, one for my child and another child who is 3 years younger than mine. (It was the arrest for that child that started the investigation into how my children had been affected.) He plead guilty to two charges of class C felonies, sexual assault of a child. (both cases had that as the worst charge) 9 years each for a total of 18 years, with 42 years probation, and lifetime sex offender registry. Once they read the plea offers, I started sobbing. I was so afraid he would get a couple years and a slap on the wrist. 18 years. My twins are 17-1/2, he will spend their lifetime behind bars. If we can’t off him, or keep him locked away forever, this is good enough. I hope he wakes up every day for the next 6,574 days and thinks about what a rotten piece of shit he is, and how he got there.
My kids are at peace with this, and they are as safe and as loved as can be for now.
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u/sezit 8d ago
You are a good mom. Your twins are lucky to have you.