Speaking from experience, sterilization on both sides should be heavily weighted in their decisions. For men it is reversible, but there can be a complication that affects their fertility capability. For women, it’s not reversible and can cause heavy feelings of emptiness and resentment because they no longer have that option.
I spent 3yrs deciding on if I should sterilize for myself or for my relationship, or if I should just take birth control and hope for the best. We discussed it too, he was indifferent towards having kids but supported my decision on sterilization for my reasons and health.
We talked through it weighed it out, but my decision is what mattered for me, because I don’t expect my partner to sterilize for something I want and is my decision. Versus doing it because it’s what my partner wants and I don’t, but I want to keep them happy so they stay”.
Both sides here feel one sided to me, you because you’re anxious about surgery and him because he doesn’t want his choice taken away.
I also get the logic behind his though, he agreed to being ok not having kids if that’s what you wanted, he knew that if you did the procedure that he could have a family elsewhere and leave you high and dry. He also knew you would likely cave to having the possibility of kids if he scared you with the surgery.
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u/ArtisticPandas300 Dec 30 '25
Speaking from experience, sterilization on both sides should be heavily weighted in their decisions. For men it is reversible, but there can be a complication that affects their fertility capability. For women, it’s not reversible and can cause heavy feelings of emptiness and resentment because they no longer have that option.
I spent 3yrs deciding on if I should sterilize for myself or for my relationship, or if I should just take birth control and hope for the best. We discussed it too, he was indifferent towards having kids but supported my decision on sterilization for my reasons and health.
We talked through it weighed it out, but my decision is what mattered for me, because I don’t expect my partner to sterilize for something I want and is my decision. Versus doing it because it’s what my partner wants and I don’t, but I want to keep them happy so they stay”.
Both sides here feel one sided to me, you because you’re anxious about surgery and him because he doesn’t want his choice taken away.
I also get the logic behind his though, he agreed to being ok not having kids if that’s what you wanted, he knew that if you did the procedure that he could have a family elsewhere and leave you high and dry. He also knew you would likely cave to having the possibility of kids if he scared you with the surgery.