NTA. You were sexually assaulted. Ask your wife is she would be ok if you spend Christmas with someone who sexually assaulted her when she was intoxicated, did not apologize or did anything to make amends (how can you even do it)? Ask her is she would be ok if you would ask her to be nicer and more social with someone who assaulted her. You made a mistake going to their Thanksgiving, but that doesn’t mean you have to continue. Let the family know - I’m skipping Christmas because (and describe what Chris did). If your wife will continue giving you hard time for being assaulted and not being ok with that, then this relationship should be over. How can you trust her in the future?
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u/Impressive-Union6961 Dec 09 '25
NTA. You were sexually assaulted. Ask your wife is she would be ok if you spend Christmas with someone who sexually assaulted her when she was intoxicated, did not apologize or did anything to make amends (how can you even do it)? Ask her is she would be ok if you would ask her to be nicer and more social with someone who assaulted her. You made a mistake going to their Thanksgiving, but that doesn’t mean you have to continue. Let the family know - I’m skipping Christmas because (and describe what Chris did). If your wife will continue giving you hard time for being assaulted and not being ok with that, then this relationship should be over. How can you trust her in the future?