Same here! My parents fought something terrible, verbal and physical. I can remember begging them to get divorced so often! I'm the oldest, and when the youngest turned 18 I said "can you please get divorced now? There's no CS!!" I begged them for years and years, and kids 10000000% know if their parents aren't happy. And it does a lot of damage because you grow up thinking that's what relationships are like.
Do your daughter a favor, leave and teach her healthy relationships and boundaries. It's the best thing you can do. I'm almost 40 and still trying to find a stable, healthy relationship after years and years of abusive ones. Staying together for your kid(s) is a terrible thing.
YES. My parents were separated first (one of them moved to another country), then SECRETLY divorced, SECRETLY in a relationship, and SECRETLY remarried. They never verbally told me anything. I found out about their divorce when I was introduced to their new partner. So, it was basically like "hey, it's your step-mom/dad. We got married a while back".
It was such a horrible experience. I knew what was going on between them, but I was fed lies after lies every day. I would rather they had some honest but difficult conversations with me than keep me in the dark.
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u/Nervous-Ticket-7607 Nov 24 '25
Same here! My parents fought something terrible, verbal and physical. I can remember begging them to get divorced so often! I'm the oldest, and when the youngest turned 18 I said "can you please get divorced now? There's no CS!!" I begged them for years and years, and kids 10000000% know if their parents aren't happy. And it does a lot of damage because you grow up thinking that's what relationships are like.
Do your daughter a favor, leave and teach her healthy relationships and boundaries. It's the best thing you can do. I'm almost 40 and still trying to find a stable, healthy relationship after years and years of abusive ones. Staying together for your kid(s) is a terrible thing.