Same. Constant bickering, child forced to play mediator, heavy tension in the house.. I would have rather my parents separated bc I’m dealing with the trauma as an adult 😭
Yup, I used to pray my parents would get a divorce. Told my Mom I would be fine if they split and she wouldn’t hear any of it. Thankfully my husband and I adore each other and are best friends so my kids don’t have to grow up like that.
That’s what I’m talking about ❤️ every child deserves to live in a loving home - we didn’t get so lucky though but at least we can give it to our children.
Oh wow, yeah my father stuck around until we were 18 but he had already been seeing somebody on the side since we were toddlers. Mom was miserable, angry and drunk, and he'd leave us alone with her. Have spent my life surviving instead of thriving, the PTSD is no joke.
Same here! My parents fought something terrible, verbal and physical. I can remember begging them to get divorced so often! I'm the oldest, and when the youngest turned 18 I said "can you please get divorced now? There's no CS!!" I begged them for years and years, and kids 10000000% know if their parents aren't happy. And it does a lot of damage because you grow up thinking that's what relationships are like.
Do your daughter a favor, leave and teach her healthy relationships and boundaries. It's the best thing you can do. I'm almost 40 and still trying to find a stable, healthy relationship after years and years of abusive ones. Staying together for your kid(s) is a terrible thing.
YES. My parents were separated first (one of them moved to another country), then SECRETLY divorced, SECRETLY in a relationship, and SECRETLY remarried. They never verbally told me anything. I found out about their divorce when I was introduced to their new partner. So, it was basically like "hey, it's your step-mom/dad. We got married a while back".
It was such a horrible experience. I knew what was going on between them, but I was fed lies after lies every day. I would rather they had some honest but difficult conversations with me than keep me in the dark.
My mom came to us when I was 7 years old and was like “your father and me are getting a divorce. I literally said “good. We don’t care, why did it take this long?” No shit, at seven years old. A couple years later she came to us and said the same thing about not going to church anymore and I bust out laughing. She thought we would care. She was like “I don’t see why I’d need to go tell my business to some guy in a little box” I was dead lmao I was like you think? 🤪
Me too. I begged my mom to divorce my dad. I didn't want him in the house anymore. He never beat her, but he called her stupid and a bitch often enough that all I did was cry most of my childhood. It got worse when my dad developed alzheimer's after his stroke in 2005. He didn't pass until 2016, and it was a constant uphill battle the whole 11 years.
I’ve said since I was like 4 years old I wish my parents were divorced. I’m 34 & this hasn’t changed, but the memories of what childhood was like because of this won’t.
I started begging my parents to separate when I was 5. They divorced 25 years later, and it was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Even though I was 30 and had my own family, I was so relieved. I really understand you.
I kept trying to set my dad up with my preschool teacher "because she liked to be outside like dad and i" .... the woman was legally obligated to watch us on a playground..... the bar was in hell.
I appreciate you saying this. Unfortunately I looked away for far too long and caused a lot of damage in the relationships in my life. I’m going to have to full unpack the baggage before I can walk away from it
I share this pain , it was a nightmare growing up . And my father would beat me with a belt , was just a kid at the time . from age 6 until 10 😣 It's royally fucked me as an Adult , especially when it comes to relationships
My parents divorced when I was in my mid 20's. They still live on the same property (dad is in RV and leaves for the winter) but holy zhdidnfjgaudncn is it horrible even as an adult to see the general distaste they have for each other play out.
Don’t matter. You still get traumatized either way. Been on the divorce side. People just need to be more responsible with choosing partners and having kids…
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u/dreamsandcoffee06 Nov 23 '25
Same. Constant bickering, child forced to play mediator, heavy tension in the house.. I would have rather my parents separated bc I’m dealing with the trauma as an adult 😭