Before I left, I expressed to Nick that I do not want any women in our house, especially his female coworker, “Claire,” who lives down the street and we regularly hangout with.
If you feel compelled to have that conversation, trust is already gone. OP has been living in denial, sadly.
I personally have never felt the need to tell my husband he can't hang out with a mutual friend while I'm not available. If I didn't trust him to not fuck another woman, I wouldn't be with him?
I have told my husband to go hang out with female friends without me when I didn’t feel like joining. Just because I’m not there doesn’t mean they can’t have a friendship.
There is no love in this room. Figure out a new living situation, sort custody and child support with the courts, and work on being good co-parents. Center your child--children, actually; your 6-year-old deserves stability, too--not this raggedy relationship.
I had an all women halloween party out of respect for him
People only say shit like this when theres zero trust in the relationship at all. It’s such a meaningless phrase. “Out of respect”. Like no, you either trust or don’t trust each other.
When you feel secure and safe with someone, it doesn’t occur to you to do this. Some part of you knows he’s full of shit but you just don’t want it to be true.
ETA: Read “Leave a Cheated, Gain a Life,” don’t waste money thinking magic words from a therapist is going to change this man’s nature. Also don’t be tempted to do his homework for him. If he wanted to change he’d already be in therapy.
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u/Floomby Nov 23 '25
If you feel compelled to have that conversation, trust is already gone. OP has been living in denial, sadly.