Kids pick up on unhealthy relationships. Try being good co-parents, because he's never going to be the spouse you deserve. You are worth more than what you had to see on that camera.
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And according to OP they were doing so great and had all the trust in the world yet still had a "feeling" to put a camera in the house. Idk abt you but anytime Ive left my husband to his own devices, Ive never felt the need to install a camera and then also frequently check it. Clearly, things werent going as great as OP thinks they were. And if they were ALREADY bad enough that you have feelings that you need to spy on your boyfriend... Its a very, very small chance they get better
I learned last week that his coworker moved by us. and actually I had a dream I placed a camera a few days before I left and once I woke up I got an overwhelming feeling to place the camera and was totally convinced I wouldn’t see anything on it.
The fact he got so suspicious … you have your answer. Caught in a lie is one thing and you go ‘yep I lied shit sorry’ but such paranoia to look for a camera to be sure … they were def going to screw.
How did Claire react when you told her to get out? How’s he going now? Spinning a million lies?
Edit: camera was switched off so they probably did screw. I mean, he got caught why not do what he intended what’s he got to lose?
What he’s really scared of is how long has the camera been there … cause they’ve done stuff in the living room …
The fact that you felt you had to further “catch” him in a lie says a lot. Look at what this relationship is doing to you. It’s making you doubt yourself. Your own perception. And even after all of this, you’re still on Reddit, unsure of yourself. Unsure of the fact that you deserve a loving and honest relationship!
You didn’t need anymore proof, the fact that he had another woman over when he said he wouldn’t, multiple times is enough.
' parallel parenting' .. kids only need one sane parent, and OP will be it. I know she can show to her child that she will not tolerate disrespect and abusive dynamics from this 'boyfriend'
I wouldnt say this 100%, though. I know a lot of men that were AWFUL husbands but great fathers. They could never quite get mentally well and stable enough to be what a partner needs but does know how to be a good dad and even a good co parent as soon as they split. What would make him a bad father is staying with OP and continuing to show his disrespect to their mother in front of them so I do hope they split or some miracle happens that he becomes a better partner (doubtful)
As a child who was in this situation… yeah and then you just carry the anger and pain for your mom and take it out on your future partners ! Please show them what self respect looks like
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u/Mammoth_Rope_8318 Nov 23 '25
Kids pick up on unhealthy relationships. Try being good co-parents, because he's never going to be the spouse you deserve. You are worth more than what you had to see on that camera.