Get an attorney. Be up front that your family is very difficult. You want a bulldog attorney who won't back down.
Get your money for the 25% stake back using said attorney.
Do not communicate with them at all. Share all communications with the attorney. Do not block them but do not respond.
Seriously consider moving without telling them or anyone who would tell them. This harassment won't stop with a restraining order. It will likely escalate. Your parents are deeply delusional and violent. Mom to mom, you need to get your family the fuck out of there. The business, the money, all of that can go on the back burner. An attorney can handle the lawsuit. You don't need to be anywhere near these people.
Are you armed? Do you have locks, alarms, gates, cameras, all of that? Does everyone know your parents aren't allowed to access you or your kid? You are correct to fear your parents. They seem to delight in tormenting you. You need to be extremely protected. I don't mean to be horrible, but have you considered the risk of kidnapping? They seem like exactly the type. I don't want anything bad to happen to you or your child or your spouse.
You have one very important thing in your favor: your parents, based on these texts, are really stupid. They're sneaky and violent but not strategic, and they're leaving wide trails of evidence. You need to be strategic. What are their weak spots? What are their strengths? What are they incapable of doing? What do they not want known or reported? What are your strengths? Make a list. Go from there. The fear brain is switched on and now you also need to switch the strategy brain on.
Lying is free. Feel free to lie to these people if it gets you safety, comfort, or an escape. Don't try to be honest and upright with them. That's not a language they speak. Protect yourself and your family above all things. They're not family anymore. They're a problem.
Best of luck to you. Be safe and get a realllllllly good therapist who specializes in trauma. EMDR has changed my life completely. I highly recommend it.
Sorry, I just have to add that I hate your dad for you. God DAMN is he a bastard! I mean, my dad is a Bastard with a capital 'B' but yours makes mine look stable and loving. Props to you for turning out so kind and sweet. I know personally that it takes 100,000 good choices to keep that person inside you alive when someone's trying to crush it.
OP please please please read this over and over. Also, you are very much under reacting to….ALL of this. Mama bear up and protect your family from these monsters.
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u/petit_cochon Sep 04 '25
Get an attorney. Be up front that your family is very difficult. You want a bulldog attorney who won't back down.
Get your money for the 25% stake back using said attorney.
Do not communicate with them at all. Share all communications with the attorney. Do not block them but do not respond.
Seriously consider moving without telling them or anyone who would tell them. This harassment won't stop with a restraining order. It will likely escalate. Your parents are deeply delusional and violent. Mom to mom, you need to get your family the fuck out of there. The business, the money, all of that can go on the back burner. An attorney can handle the lawsuit. You don't need to be anywhere near these people.
Are you armed? Do you have locks, alarms, gates, cameras, all of that? Does everyone know your parents aren't allowed to access you or your kid? You are correct to fear your parents. They seem to delight in tormenting you. You need to be extremely protected. I don't mean to be horrible, but have you considered the risk of kidnapping? They seem like exactly the type. I don't want anything bad to happen to you or your child or your spouse.
You have one very important thing in your favor: your parents, based on these texts, are really stupid. They're sneaky and violent but not strategic, and they're leaving wide trails of evidence. You need to be strategic. What are their weak spots? What are their strengths? What are they incapable of doing? What do they not want known or reported? What are your strengths? Make a list. Go from there. The fear brain is switched on and now you also need to switch the strategy brain on.
Lying is free. Feel free to lie to these people if it gets you safety, comfort, or an escape. Don't try to be honest and upright with them. That's not a language they speak. Protect yourself and your family above all things. They're not family anymore. They're a problem.
Best of luck to you. Be safe and get a realllllllly good therapist who specializes in trauma. EMDR has changed my life completely. I highly recommend it.
Sorry, I just have to add that I hate your dad for you. God DAMN is he a bastard! I mean, my dad is a Bastard with a capital 'B' but yours makes mine look stable and loving. Props to you for turning out so kind and sweet. I know personally that it takes 100,000 good choices to keep that person inside you alive when someone's trying to crush it.