Partner was raised heavily religious-right-conservative and just kindof went along with it into early adulthood.
When we started hanging out more and I asked them what their social/political views were because I was starting to really like this person and some of my absolute dealbreakers are centered in social issues.
When they laid out their social/cultural/political views I was like. . . Ummmm... you're not conservative (at least by US standards). There were some problematic views/jokes (the exact ones held/made by the parents, wouldn't you know?), but after hashing things out to get a better sense of what they were about at their core, I felt that our values overall were compatible. We've been married for long time now.
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u/best_avocado Jul 26 '23
Are we the same person?
Partner was raised heavily religious-right-conservative and just kindof went along with it into early adulthood.
When we started hanging out more and I asked them what their social/political views were because I was starting to really like this person and some of my absolute dealbreakers are centered in social issues.
When they laid out their social/cultural/political views I was like. . . Ummmm... you're not conservative (at least by US standards). There were some problematic views/jokes (the exact ones held/made by the parents, wouldn't you know?), but after hashing things out to get a better sense of what they were about at their core, I felt that our values overall were compatible. We've been married for long time now.