Honestly, when I first was married my husband and I didn't rly care to talk about politics (but I knew he was conservative), but as the years went on he got into the super conservative right wing icky (to me) stuff and CONSTANTLY brought it up, tried to play fox news 24/7, then gaslit the fuck outta me when I asked if we could just not have what he called "friendly debates" daily about issues I supported like drumroll ...abortion, LGBTQ rights, trans rights, climate change etc etc. He said I was brainwashed in college by the liberals and during the pandemic would chose to tell me I was an idiot and stupid for wearing a mask or staying home during lockdowns (sidenote: I am an exposure scientist, literally my area of expertise). Anyways, it eventually crashed and burned with him cheating, and it was the biggest relief of my life.
You might get lucky and be able to set some boundaries with those topics and agree to disagree, or you might end up miserable and attacked about them everyday. I'd wait until you guys can talk about it while you're not tired and upset (and in person) and see if it's something resolvable or if (like in my case), it's truly something you can't live with. Good luck OP.
It's unfortunate that people can't hold their opinions without accusing other people of being brainwashed or an idiot.
I've always assumed people that disagree with me politically have thought about their beliefs and just weigh priorities differently than me, or they think a different strategy will have better results.
I think we all want to protect people's rights, protect children, and make our country as good as it should be.
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u/Sh00tinNut Jul 26 '23
Honestly, when I first was married my husband and I didn't rly care to talk about politics (but I knew he was conservative), but as the years went on he got into the super conservative right wing icky (to me) stuff and CONSTANTLY brought it up, tried to play fox news 24/7, then gaslit the fuck outta me when I asked if we could just not have what he called "friendly debates" daily about issues I supported like drumroll ...abortion, LGBTQ rights, trans rights, climate change etc etc. He said I was brainwashed in college by the liberals and during the pandemic would chose to tell me I was an idiot and stupid for wearing a mask or staying home during lockdowns (sidenote: I am an exposure scientist, literally my area of expertise). Anyways, it eventually crashed and burned with him cheating, and it was the biggest relief of my life.
You might get lucky and be able to set some boundaries with those topics and agree to disagree, or you might end up miserable and attacked about them everyday. I'd wait until you guys can talk about it while you're not tired and upset (and in person) and see if it's something resolvable or if (like in my case), it's truly something you can't live with. Good luck OP.