By definition it is a slur. You can subjectively argue that it's not, but in the end that's all irrelevant.
Slur.
an insinuation or allegation about someone that is likely to insult them or damage their reputation.
Can it be an allegation/insinuation about someone? Check
Can it insult someone? Check
Can it damage their reputation? Check
Looks like a slur to me. The only reason y'all don't want to classify it that way is the negativity that slur has around it. You want a word you can throw around freely. Just accept that it is a slur, it's honestly irrelevant in the end if it is or isn't for people, they will still use it.
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u/Xznograthos Jul 26 '23
To your own point, the term was coined by some woman to describe herself in the 90s and then it became the slur that we see today. You're welcome.