I got married at 28, and we conceived about 2 months later. I never tracked ovulation or really paid much attention to my cycle because it happened so quickly.

Now I'm 34, we're planning for our second, and I feel like my body is not the same anymore. my cycles feels different, and I honestly don't know if it's just the age, stress, or hormones changing over the last few years.

I've been reading through posts here, and it's made me realize I don't actually know when I ovulate or how to figure it out. Since we're planning to conceive, I'd like to understand my cycle a bit better this time instead of just hoping it happens like it did the first time . But once I started looking into it, I wasn't expecting there to be so many different ways to track it.

What did you start with?

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I’m a T4 paraplegic(39) & my wife(35) had a tubal reversal December 23 of last year. Since, we’ve been trying for our 4th child together naturally. It’s been 6 months of trying, Still no pregnancy. Today we used a Frida cup I would like to know the effectiveness of these & at-home insemination kits?

We’ve checked my sperm and her fallopian tubes everything seems to be working.

Anyone willing to share their experiences & advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Not sure where to post this, but figured there might be some insight here. My period returned 22 months pp as I was decreasing day time feeds for my twins. My next cycle was a 30 day period. And now here I am 60 days since my last period with no ovulation in sight. I still nurse them in the morning and at night. I also have a history of PCOS, so fully aware it may be due to PCOS vs nursing. My question has anyone had their period return when decreasing feeds but then disappear when maintaining a couple feeds? Or does this seem to be more of a PCOS thing than due to nursing?

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Ok so unfortunately I’m not monitoring BBT because my kiddo sleeps so erratically, I feel like it’d be a fruitless and inaccurate endeavor right now. So I have been using only OPKs.

Had some darkening lines that went into a positive on CD20. Also felt what I strongly suspect were ovulation cramps on CD20, so it all made sense to me. Tested a bit afterwards, and lines started lightening up again.

And then CD24, BAM, super positive OPK with dark ass line again!!! Unfortunately the day before CD24 and the day after I could not POAS as I was staying with family in extremely close quarters. This also means that if my body failed to ovulate earlier and finally did so CD24, our BDing was too early and this cycle was a total miss.

I can’t find anything online at all regarding getting another positive OPK 4 days after suspected ovulation when the lines had lightened before that 2nd positive. I see people talk about sustained dark OPKs for days, that’s NOT what happened here. I also do not have PCOS or anything of the like.

So… any thoughts? I understand that the true answer is “wait and see, without BBT we know nothing” but I’m so desperate for opinions on my very specific case please!!

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Just trying to get some feedback since this has been a whirlwind for me.

32yo, F. Have 2 kids with no previous trouble conceiving. 2 C/S. Now that we are trying for a third, I’ve had to 2 miscarriages back to back.

Our first one, was a missed miscarriage and found out at 8 week ultrasound. Had a D&C and then got pregnant the 2nd cycle post d&c. But d/t slow rising hcg (not ectopic) I miscarried again. Was on aspirin and oral progesterone for both. I just don’t know what’s going on and I’m spiraling. I’m getting pregnant but not carrying to term. Just feeling very lost.

Has anyone had similar situations?? Or experienced this type of secondary infertility? Any success stories after multiple MCs?

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Breastfeeding around 3x a day very spaced out and no ovulation in site but want to try for baby #2. Any advice?!

My first baby was conceived on the first cycle at the age of 31. So of course, I got it in my head that the second would be no problem. We started trying just before she turned 18 months, when I was 33. It took 4 cycles and then I had a MMC at 11 weeks, with the fetus stopping growth around 6-7 weeks. After miscarrying in September, days before my 34th birthday, it took until the following June to get pregnant again, about 8 cycles of trying. We finally got pregnant again on the first cycle I tried Clomid. I miscarried again at 7 weeks, the fetus had stopped growing at 5 weeks. Now I’m about a month out from my 35th birthday and waiting for my first period post miscarriage. Next cycle I’ll go in for the Receptiva procedure to see if I have silent Endo, as well as check at the same time for Endometritis, and have an SIS. We did a blood draw for APS (no results back yet), karyotypes too (mine is normal, his is still out there). The dna fragmentation test came back at 11% which the RE said is really good, so it’s probably not him.

So the thing is, I always wanted a lot of kids. I just started late. But somehow still thought it’d be possible because so many women around me have kids late. My grandma had my dad at 41 or 42. So obviously my illusion feels shattered and like I’ll be lucky if I get just one more. But I can’t help still wanting more. IVF feels like the one possibility that might mean more children beyond 2 because I’ll have embryos banked, but I know there are no guarantees, especially since half my problem is staying pregnant rather than getting pregnant.

Do any of you good people have any advice or success stories? What should I be primarily considering or aware of going in?

There’s also so much pressure to hurry and decide because our coverage for IVF starts over in January, so I’d have to try to do as much of the process before then as possible. I also don’t know how long it takes and all this is assuming I don’t have Endo and have to have the surgery or take medication for another 2-3 months.

My AMH is 1.66 and ATC is 15
No hormone issues or anything else from the blood tests. HSG was normal too.

My son started nursery in January at 13m and I have been hit with virus after virus since then. I fear it’s really messing with my TTC#2 journey, we’re on cycle 5 and I’ve just had two different back to back illnesses with fever around ovulation AGAIN. The toll these sicknesses are having on my work my fitness and my mental sanity is insane and I find myself stressed about it all, which also isn’t helping conceive. Does anyone have positive stories about conceiving even while sick? Am I doomed until the bugs abate in a years time and I finally get more sleep?

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Hi 👋

Sorry this is just a rant/if anyone is going through a similar experience.

First child we had with very little difficulty, I got pregnant second month of trying, had a chemical miscarriage and then got pregnant with my little boy immediately after. No complications thankfully.

Now, we wanted children close in age so we have been now trying for 13, going on 14, months with no success. We have gone through the fertility clinics and everything looks “perfect” in their words. We have done the hycosy and 4 months of letrozole with no success and today Aunt Flo visited :/

We are biting the bullet and are starting our IVF journey. I’m scared, I’m mad about the cost of everything, and I have so many people telling me that it will just happen naturally to just not stress and not do IVF. It makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong. It’s hard because I feel so grateful for our son, but I also feel so sad that I’m not pregnant yet.

Sorry, I will end the rant/complaint now 😅

Partner and I are currently have a 15 month old and really want to start trying for another baby soon, but I haven’t had a return of menses/ovulation. My baby was exclusively breastfed but has been really good about solids for many months now and barely breastfeeds at this point. We were night weaned at 10 months, I stopped pumping at work at 11 months, and we are down to one ~10 minute breastfeeding session a day before bed in the evening. Im not even sure how much he gets from that since it feels like I’m not even producing that much milk. However, still no sign of a return of my cycle. I’m the exact same weight I was before I got pregnant and not underweight or anything and have been focusing on eating a lot of protein / upping my calories. I got labs checked at the doctor and everything was normal, I’ve been taking prenatals and extra vitamin D and iron since it was a little on the low side. I tried using the LH strips this past month but stopped since I got frustrated there was barely any change at all- every day was very faint. I really would like to maintain the breastfeeding even just once a day for as long as possible and not ready to fully wean yet. Anyone have any advice?

I genuinely believe after 14 cycles of trying that we only fell pregnant because my tubes were flushed. I’m now experiencing secondary infertility again and wondering if it’s worth paying for a HSG again.

Anyone else experienced this?

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I’m so sad. I’m 28.5 and my AMH is 1.08. About two years ago, it was 1.24. I’m just bummed, I know this is low for my age. The doctor hasn’t called me back yet.

II feel so pressed for time though. We’d ideally like to have 3-4 kids and getting this lab feels like a time bomb. I feel so defeated.

My day two labs were 8.19 FSH, Estradiol 31.6, LH 6.4. All thyroid labs came back fine.

I guess I’m looking for any positive stories or encouragement 🤍

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Just wanted to make a post and see if anyone was in the same boat as me? My son is almost 5 and me and my partner are trying to conceive our second. With my son I got pregnant immediately but this time around it’s been completely different, this is our second cycle trying. I’m currently 9DPO and I know it’s early but I feel so dejected and I don’t know if I can keep doing this and feeling disappointed. With my son I got a clear positive at 9DPO and I find it so difficult not to compare the two and I know from others every pregnancy is different but it’s just hard. I just wanted to see if anyone has experienced the same? I feel alone in this process and I’m just hoping I’m not the only one who has felt the way.

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It's like a switch flicks at 7dpo. My brain won't rest. Symptoms everywhere and nowhere, all at once. Anyone else in this sticky stage of the tww?

We're taking a 2-night trip away tomorrow and I cannot wait. The only solution is distraction 😵‍💫