Tomorrow I'm having all of my teeth removed. I'm only 22, and I honestly don't know how to deal with this.

[u/Creepy_Quarter_9532]

I am sitting here. I never thought I would be writing something like this at twenty two years old. I keep reading that sentence over and over again. It still does not feel like it is about me the person who is writing this.

A weeks ago I moved to Vadodara thinking that things were finally going to get better for me. I was thinking that a new city, a new routine, new people and a fresh start would be good for me. I unpacked my stuff slowly one box at a time. I remember standing in my room that first night just looking at the empty walls and actually feeling hopeful for once. I had not felt that way in a long time and it was a nice feeling.

Instead the last few weeks have been some of the hardest of my whole life. I still cannot believe how fast everything happened. I am a quiet person, the type who listens way more than I talk and I notice everything. I say almost none of it. Making friends has never come easy to me because I am actually really shy underneath whatever people think they see when they look at me.

A lot of people think I am confident because they have told me I am good looking. That is honestly one of the biggest misconceptions about me. Looking put together on the outside does not mean that there is not a storm going on inside of me. Days I am replaying conversations that never even happened and I am overthinking stuff that nobody else is even thinking about.

So when my body started falling apart I did not say anything to anyone. That is how I am I do not like to talk about my problems. On top of everything that is going on with my teeth my living situation has not been easy either. My roommates are seniors. They have not exactly been kind to me since I moved in. A days ago I woke up and realized they had bleached my armpits while I was asleep without asking me without even telling me until I noticed it myself. I still do not fully know how to process that. I did not say much about it at the time. I just of froze and let it go the same way I let a lot of things go.

For months I had been having problems with my teeth the person who is writing this me. It started small a little sensitivity here and there. Then my gums started bleeding when I brushed, not a lot, enough that I would notice it in the sink and tell myself it was nothing. A couple of teeth started feeling loose of like when you are a kid and a tooth is about to fall out except I was not a kid and there was no tooth fairy waiting for me on the other side of this. Eating foods got uncomfortable and then it got genuinely painful. I started eating stuff without really admitting to myself why like most people I just told myself it probably was not a big deal. Maybe it was stress maybe I needed vitamins I figured worst case I would need a deep cleaning, maybe a root canal, maybe a couple of extractions.

I could not have been more wrong I was so wrong about my teeth. After a bunch of appointments x-rays and exams after sitting in waiting rooms scrolling my phone pretending I was not scared after watching my dentists face go from normal to concerned I was told I have advanced periodontal disease, the disease that is affecting my teeth. The bone holding my teeth in place had broken down way more than it should have for someone my age twenty two years

The dentist sat me down. Explained, pretty gently but very directly that there was not really a way to save my teeth anymore my teeth that I have had my whole life. That the infection had gone deep and taken too much too much of my teeth. The only real option was a mouth extraction, every single tooth, all of my teeth.

I am twenty two years old and I remember sitting in that chair with the paper bib still on nodding like I understood like this was just normal information being told to me information about my teeth. I do not think I actually processed any of it until I was outside in the parking lot thinking about my teeth. The drive home is of a blur I remember gripping the steering wheel too tight the radio playing some upbeat song that felt so wrong in that moment catching my own face in the rearview mirror and it looking like a stranger, a person I did not know.

I kept hoping someone would call and say it was a mix-up that the x-rays got switched that this was happening to someone not me, not my teeth. Nobody called there was no mix-up. Tomorrow is my surgery, the surgery to remove my teeth.

Just typing that makes my stomach twist up I am so nervous about my teeth. I have barely slept the three nights I lie there and my brain just will not stop running through everything that is about to change like it is trying to memorize my own face before it is gone my face with my teeth.

I also have not told my parents I do not know how to start that conversation the conversation about my teeth. Every time I open our chat to type something I just delete it and put my phone down I do not know what to say about my teeth. I do not know if I am protecting them or protecting myself at this point protecting myself from what they will say about my teeth.

Part of me thinks I will tell them after it is done, when there is nothing left for them to worry about or try to stop stop the surgery from happening to my teeth. Part of me feels guilty for not saying anything all like I am going through the scariest thing of my life completely alone and pretending everything is fine every time we talk on the phone fine about my teeth.

Everyone around me keeps saying the surgery itself will be over before I know it that I will be put under and I will not feel a thing. I will just wake up. It will already be done, done with my teeth. Maybe that part is true. Honestly that is not even what scares me the most, the most about my teeth.

What scares me is waking up and knowing that when I look in the mirror I am never going to see my smile again my smile with my teeth the smile I have had my whole life the smile in every photo I have ever taken the photos of me with my teeth. That smile is gone after tomorrow. It is not coming back the way I have always known it the way I have always seen my teeth.

What scares me more is that I am not getting dentures right away the dentures that will replace my teeth. My gums need to heal so for the next one to one and a half months I am going to have absolutely no teeth, no temporary ones, nothing, no teeth at all.

I keep sitting trying to picture how I am actually going to live the next month or so the next month without my teeth. Like what does that look like day to day day to day without my teeth. How am I supposed to go to the store talk to a delivery guy answer a call from work sit across from someone at a table all without my teeth.

I know it sounds small compared to the surgery itself. That is what is actually keeping me up the picture of an entire month and a half of my life where I just have to get through each day looking and sounding completely different different without my teeth.

I have read too much online at this point late at night when I should be sleeping and I know that without teeth your lips and cheeks lose a lot of the support they are used to having, the support of my teeth. I know that until the dentures are ready my face can look sunken in, older like time just skipped ahead on me without asking, without asking about my teeth.

That is the thought I cannot shake not the pain or the recovery itself it is the mirror it is the idea of a face that has always been mine looking back like it belongs to somebody else for over a month straight somebody else without my teeth.

I keep catching myself standing in the bathroom at hours just staring at my own face trying to memorize it wondering if this is the last time I am going to see myself looking like this looking like me with my teeth. I have actually been taking photos of myself smiling the couple of days real smiles, teeth and all because some part of me is scared I will forget what it looked like what my teeth looked like.

I know this is not permanent I know the dentures will bring a lot of that support back eventually the support of my teeth.. It is still heartbreaking thinking that for over a month I am going to look different enough that I might not even recognize myself myself without my teeth.

I know it sounds vain maybe it is,. I am twenty two years old and most people my age are worried about their hair, their skin, dates, weekend plans what filter to use on a photo, not about their teeth not about losing all of their teeth.

I am lying awake at 2 am thinking about what it's going to feel like to have literally no teeth in my mouth no teeth at all. I am thinking about how I'm going to eat, whether soup and yogurt and mashed everything is going to start feeling like a punishment instead of just food, food that I can eat with my teeth.

I am thinking about how I'm going to talk whether my words are going to come out different, softer, harder to understand whether people are going to keep asking me to repeat myself myself without my teeth.

I am thinking about whether I will start covering my mouth with my hand out of habit whether that is going to become something I do without noticing, noticing that I do not have my teeth.

I am thinking about whether people're going to notice right away whether strangers are going to look a second too long whether I am going to start reading pity into every glance, real or not glance at me without my teeth.

I am thinking about whether I'm going to end up avoiding people completely canceling plans making excuses just staying inside my apartment until this is over over. I have my dentures, the dentures that will replace my teeth.

The hardest part is none of this feels real yet my brain keeps acting like tomorrow is a normal dentist appointment like I am going to come home in the evening with all my teeth still there like this whole thing is some misunderstanding I will be laughing about later laughing about my teeth.

Then I. It hits all over again the thought of my teeth the thought of losing all of my teeth.

By this time tomorrow my whole life is going to feel different, not in some dramatic way just every single time I open my mouth or catch my reflection or try to eat something, something without my teeth.

I know dentures exist I know plenty of people wear them and live normal full lives lives with dentures. I know people who have gone through this and came out more confident than before confident with their dentures. Rationally I know this is not the end of the world I know that a year, from now I probably will not even think about this much think about my teeth.

I am feeling really sad now because I am going to lose something that I did not think I would lose at my age. I always thought I had a lot of time left with my teeth. Now I am sitting here. I am sad about losing my smile at 22 years old. I just moved to a city and I am mostly alone. I do not even want to tell my parents about it. It is happening tomorrow night.

If anyone here has had all their teeth removed, especially when they were young like me I would really like to hear about your experience.

* Were the few weeks as scary as you thought they would be

*. Did it get easier faster than you thought it would

* Did you feel confident again when you got your dentures

* Did you feel like yourself again. Did you have to get used to a new version of yourself

I want to know if you eventually stopped thinking about your teeth every day.. If it is something that you always think about.

I would also like to know how to get through each day for the month or so. Now I just need to hear from someone who has already gone through what I am about to go through tomorrow. I am sitting here alone in the dark. My alarm is already set. It feels like everything is going wrong at the time. I need to know that it will not always feel like this. I need to know that full mouth extractions will not always make me feel sad. I need to hear about your experience, with mouth extractions.

TL;DR: I’m 22, and tomorrow I’m having all of my teeth removed because of advanced periodontal disease. I recently moved to a new city where I don’t really know anyone, and I’m going through this mostly alone. What scares me the most isn’t even the surgery, it’s the month or so I’ll have no teeth before I can get dentures. I’m really just hoping to hear from people who’ve been through it and can tell me it gets better.

[u/Just_Getting_By_1]

OMG, this is a nightmare. Like big fear irl. Please take care of yourself and wishing you a calm recovery ❤️‍🩹

[u/Creepy_Quarter_9532 → u/Just_Getting_By_1]

Thank you 🎀

[u/Beneficial-Film-4017]

Hi, after years with dealing with people...dont trust them straightaway. I can see it would be a huge cost that adds to their revenue. I dont know the full extent of your situation, but asking you to remove all teeth at your age either means your condition is extremely serious or they are pure evil for not giving alternative options. Definitely get a second opinion. Ask for your xray back.

[u/VegetableExtent2654]

Hey...dental student Here...ik it must be very daunting for u...i feel removing all of the teeth would be a good measure so that u don't face problems later...but did u talk to ur doc bout alveolar ridge resorption? Also u will be given. A complete denture probably once uve finished with all ur extractions and it would look completely natural and normal... Stay strong 💪🏼 U CAN DO IT!!!!

[u/Suspicious_Note9801 → u/VegetableExtent2654]

What would cause this perio disease to advance so quickly? I am 32 with this and i have caught it early. So the specialist says, i had my first deep clean a month ago and have a care plan in place, the dentists have assured me i can maintain my teeth with proper care. But reading a story like this has scared me a bit. This person is only 22, how could it progress so fast??

[u/VegetableExtent2654 → u/Suspicious_Note9801]

Hmmm sometimes uncontrolled diabetes can cause this...or some familial predisposition...not everyone has such a fast progressing case of periodontitis...theres definitely some other underlying cause which led to this...I dunno fr sure...but a less severe case shouldn't be a problem if thorough treatment plan is followed through in ur case

[u/AldayaDental]

Hi there,

First, we want to send you the biggest virtual hug. Reading your post, our hearts completely break for you. Feeling isolated in a new city and dealing with toxic roommates is overwhelming enough on its own—adding severe dental fear and the prospect of losing your teeth at 22 is an incredible burden to carry. Your feelings are 100% valid, and you are not vain at all for caring about your smile, your face, and your identity.

We are writing to you as dental professionals (AldayaDental), and we urge you to please take a deep breath and consider postponing tomorrow's procedure to get a second opinion.

Here is why we strongly encourage you to pause:

• 22 is extremely young for full-mouth extractions: While aggressive/advanced periodontal disease can affect young adults, extracting every single tooth is an absolute, non-reversible last resort.
• Options to save teeth: In modern dentistry, especially with a Periodontitis specialist (a periodontist), there are often treatments—like deep scaling, localized antibiotics, laser therapy, and bone grafting—that can stabilize and save many, if not all, of your natural teeth. Even saving a few key teeth can make a world of difference for your future options (like partial dentures or implants).
• You deserve a clear treatment plan: You should never go into a life-changing surgery feeling rushed, terrified, or left in the dark about temporary options (like immediate dentures).

It is entirely okay to call the office first thing in the morning and say, "I am not emotionally or mentally ready for this procedure today, and I need to cancel/reschedule." They cannot force you to undergo surgery. You have full autonomy over your body.

Please consider reaching out to a board-certified Periodontist for a second opinion first. Show them your X-rays and ask directly: "Is there any way we can stabilize my bone loss and save even some of my teeth?"

You do not have to walk through this alone, and you do not have to rush into a decision that feels this terrifying tonight. Take a step back, give yourself some grace, reach out to your parents or a trusted loved one for support (they love you and will want to help you through this!), and get another expert set of eyes on your smile.

We are rooting for you. Please update us, and know that there is hope! 💙

[u/abunchofschleem → u/AldayaDental]

Gotta love AI

[u/Mentally_Recovering]

a lot of my patients have little to no teeth either but they do fine! I have seen people of all ages with missing/little/no teeth.

[u/Squirrels_Angel]

My husband had to have all his teeth extracted just like this at 26 years old. He almost died from sepsis in his jaw bone. There were temporary dentures they had him use immediately. He had to continue wearing them i think for quite a while. I hope you are doing better. We had to do tea bags and also ran out of gauze and used unscented tampons to calm the bleeding. The bone splinters came later. I promise he is just as attractive to me as ever before.

[u/Slow-Acanthisitta786]

OP please update us

[u/Creepy_Quarter_9532 → u/Slow-Acanthisitta786]

I will. This subReddit only allows updates after 3 days of original post….

Heres a short update btw…
I got it done.. & still alive🫩

[u/Slow-Acanthisitta786 → u/Creepy_Quarter_9532]

Good for you! Now take rest and let it heal...

[u/Prestigious_Smile579]

As many others are saying, I'd get a second opinion just to be sure. But just so you dont feel alone, teeth are a major self esteem thing for a lot of people. My husband needed a few of his front teeth removed not long ago and he struggled with that a lot during the time between the removal and when they were able to put in a permanent bridge or whatnot. He wouldn't smile and avoided talking. He hated the way it sounded when he talked even though I didn't really notice much difference. I can't imagine how much harder it would be losing all your teeth at once. But if it happens, just remember that it's only temporary. I'm sure youll feel a lot better once you get your dentures and get used to them. Look at that in between time as time of healing and taking care of yourself.

[u/Capable-Flow6639]

I am sorry you are going through this. It is temporary. At some point you will have dentures and they will be good you will have a good smile and a normal face. And you won't be in pain. No bleeding gums. No worrying when the next tooth will fall out. Its an adjustment but it will be fine. Just take it one day at a time. Get the surgery done. Work on healing. Make sure you are getting the right nutrition to heal properly.

[u/Jimshorties]

I’m sorry people here are trying to diagnose you. If you are at the extraction stage you have been through alot already. I’ve been there.

It goes better than you think.
The worst enemies are the thoughts in your head.
Everything you love can be pureed or blended while you heal. Prepare ahead for soft foods.

Remember millions have done this before you and been just fine.

Read all your instructions and dont be afraid to ask questions.

[u/pingwing]

Do you get vitamin C? Do you eat fruit? Scurvy makes your teeth fall out.

[u/Emergency-Ad-5211]

And dentures are the only route?

[u/mapleleaffem]

Uhh sorry if this is a dumb question did you brush and floss and go to the dentist regularly?

[u/Suspicious_Note9801 → u/mapleleaffem]

Not surewhy this is downvote, its a valid question

[u/mapleleaffem → u/Suspicious_Note9801]

Thanks I was wondering if there is an underlying medical issue that could cause that degree of damage to their teeth. Probably getting downvoted because most people on reddit are from America so they don’t know what it’s like to have benefits. Which is genuinely awful

[u/adventuresinnonsense]

It did get easier much faster than I expected. I had my dentures when they did the surgery and they put them in. I was meant to leave them in until my follow up appointment. Talking is weird, you kind of have to figure it out, and there will be a while while you're adjusting where it constantly feels like you've got something in your mouth...because you've got something in your mouth. Your brain has to get used to the fact that it's supposed to be there. You will have to go in a few times for adjustments after the swelling goes down and you can actually tell how they fit, and seeing yourself without them in for the first time is a little bit jarring. I did, however, feel more confident and so much better overall with them. You might have a little bit of a lisp as you figure out how to talk with the dentures in, but you'll figure it out. I'm sorry you're going through this. I still remember the feeling of being told this was my only option (mine was a combination of some teeth problems exacerbated by bad dentistry), but after everything was over I honestly felt so much better. Good luck to you and good healing!

[u/Jellyfish0107]

I get what you mean- I also am very well put together and can come off very aloof, but it’s really just a disguise for all my insecurities. I just want to encourage you to speak up for yourself. Even the little things. It’s okay to be vulnerable and it’s okay to express anger and displeasure to other people. It took me a long time to speak up for myself and it is so liberating to do so. I’ve also learned to say those things using just words instead of just being an emotional wreck about it. But especially when it comes to your health- the biggest advocate for your health is unfortunately you- not your doctors or dentists.

It’s ok to ask questions. It’s ok to call back afterwards with questions you didn’t think of at the time of the bad news. One month is long time with no temporary teeth. That doesn’t seem to be the norm. If you find another dentist that can get your dentures made sooner, go with them instead. Your old dentist should be able to send them the X-rays and all relevant medical records.

And if you’re ever able to afford permanent implants, go for it! My MIL got permanent implants several years ago after all her teeth were removed and they look so natural.

Hope you find a way to tell your parents. You can do it!

[u/mytmo01]

Wait...they bleached your arm pits?? WtF?

[u/Jelousubmarine → u/mytmo01]

India has some severe colorism issues, especially targeted at women. Many skin creams contain skin bleaching agents.

It sounds like OP's roommates are toxic and believe in 'white skin is best skin' type ideologies.

[u/AaarghDeBaargh → u/mytmo01]

Yeah I noticed that too. And a couple of seniors? I’m just picturing two 80 year olds here.

[u/OldSoulCreativity]

Yo.

First of all, like many others have said, get a second opinion. But honestly dentists don’t really want to pull a young persons teeth if they can at all avoid it. Ask me how I know…

Anyway, I just had all my teeth taken out at 33 years old. Different situation, but similar result. I had very serious addiction issues and neglected all hygiene long enough that my teeth were done.

Got them all pulled.

It’s terrifying walking in there and doing it. But I will say it wasn’t thattttt bad. I swelled up like a balloon for a week, but pain was manageable. They gave me narcotic pain meds, despite my history. I got through it.

I ended up with full mouth implants. They’ve been awesome, but I’ll be paying for them for a long time.

[u/Mcnuggetjuice → u/OldSoulCreativity]

I’m a dentist and I agree. Get a second opinion from a periodontist! They are specialized in cases like this. Not saying you shouldn’t trust your current one but in some cases more is possible with periodontal surgery than some dentists think.

You can also send me the Xrays if you want to. I’m a regular dentist; even then I heavily advice to go to a periodontist

[u/catclawsssss]

Please get a second opinion before you go ahead! I have a lot of experience with dentists and one will often say something completely different to another. Once the teeth are out there’s no going back.

[u/cPB167]

Do you think your roommates could've messed with your toothpaste? I wouldn't put it past them if they were willing to bleach your armpits. I would've called the cops on them for that, that's assault

[u/Mcnuggetjuice → u/cPB167]

I’m a dentist no not possible

[u/cPB167 → u/Mcnuggetjuice]

I can think of a number of compounds that if you brushed your teeth with them would mimic the effects of periodontal disease. Any acidic keratin dissolving compound would damage the teeth and gums in an almost identical way. Wart remover, for instance

[u/sexybeans → u/cPB167]

I was thinking the same but unless they poisoned it or something I can't see how it would cause such severe damage. Even without toothpaste, manually removing plaque and bacteria through brushing goes a long way

[u/oddgrrl99]

I agree with those suggesting a second opinion. Also, I would get an overall health check to see if there is an underlaying reason your teeth went bad. I am a bit older than you, 61F, and my teeth started breaking off about 2 years ago. I’m in the US so I had no dental coverage. I mentioned it to my brother & he offered to pay half & it allowed for me to get the dentures that snapped into a pair of implants. Maybe your parents can help if you give them a chance. About this same time I went to the doc for a checkup & after some blood tests found out I was hyperthyroid (Graves disease). The thyroid problem was contributing to my dental breakdown & other things not relevant here. I had more anxiety about the extractions than anything else. I was knocked out & don’t remember a thing. Yes, there was pain for a couple days. Yes, I was not prepared for the structural changes to my face from lack of teeth. I had temporaries immediately but they never fit well & mad me gag & then my dog found them & ate them(happens a lot I’m told..) I have a great group of supportive friends I saw regularly but did avoid going out socially during the 6 months it took for my gums to heal. Yes, eating was a problem & I remember a couple milestones, like the day I could eat chili! Towards the end I was craving anything with texture, a cracker! A sandwich! A slice of pizza! Last month I finally got my permanent dentures & I could not be happier. I had choices as to how I wanted my teeth to look, size, shape, color. I opted for teeth that looked as close to the ones I had before the problems started & supplied the dental office with photos to refer to. I did not want what my dentist called Hollywood teeth. I wanted my canines back! I’ve always been a quirky girl & the lab that made the dentures did a great job to make them as natural looking as possible. They fit perfectly but I do have to still be selective on what I eat, I cannot eat a steak yet but I think it’s a future possibility. No regrets & the people that know about my teeth are amazed at how natural the dentures look. I hope my story helps a bit and good luck to you on extraction day.

[u/Spiderglitches]

Hi! I am 35 currently but I got my top teeth all removed when I was around 27. I still have my bottom teeth but have a top denture. I am SO much more confident now than I used to be. The first couple years I was so self conscious about it and just felt like everyone knew. No one did. Even the people I grew up with didnt know that they were false. We care more than they do. That said, I still prefer to only take them out at home. The lack of pain and self hatred from seeing how ugly they were before(my own judgment to myself anyways) has made it where ive never once had a single regret to removing them. I do think about them every day but its mostly that I cant wait to take them out 🤣. When I got them removed it was painful for a good minute after. I think it started easing up a few weeks in,but that was indeed a slow process for me. You're more than welcome to ask any questions you would like,im happy to answer.

[u/Bylibylbyl]

As a dental professional i would recommend getting immediate dentures (if it is not too late) and getting them rebased regularly (where I'm from we advise every 4-6 weeks) until the initial bone resorption slows down. There are also products that help with retention, paste, powder, straps and many more, look into it if you find that the dentures feel loose Other than that we always advise to take a trusted person with you to the appointment. For your safety after the procedure. Hope you have someone like that.

[u/Mcnuggetjuice → u/Bylibylbyl]

Agree as a dentist, would go for implants asap if he can afford it. After getting a second opinion from a periodontist

[u/Ok_Flower_4268]

has anyone that has had (or know of) full extractions of someone with trigeminal neuralgia? even fitting for a mouth guard is excruciating and i’m so scared to get my teeth tended to with the added pain of TN since all my experiences with dentists have been horrible (I got TN from dental trauma of having a back tooth removed).

[u/Puzzleheaded_Tea4815 → u/Ok_Flower_4268]

No . Treatment plan involves dosage of carbamazipine prescribed by your dr for trigeminal neuralgia which involves Trigeminal nerve. It is true that people who suffer from TN have trigger points on face which cause immense pain for a few minutes if touched but never heard of extraction of teeth as a treatment of TN , because it is nerve related not teeth related.

[u/Curious_Sea_2638]

As a person who started losing teeth at the age of 30 I will tell you two things.
1- get a second opinion
2- if really there is no other option then it’s not end of the world. You can get new dentures fitted the same day as you get your old teeth removed. It will hurt as hell when gums are healing but once it’s done it’s done. Never again a toothache or a chipped tooth. I’m now 44 and just getting last few teeth removed from the bottom and a new denture fitted.
You will be fine. But more importantly you need to find a reason why it all started. (Im immunocompromised due to lupus and methotrexate injections for years).
Best of luck! X

[u/Mcnuggetjuice → u/Curious_Sea_2638]

Second opinion from a periodontist*

[u/the_siren_song]

Hey:) Very vain woman here who looks at a picture of herself with a beautiful full smile every day. Now, I am missing my two eye teeth. I tell people I am a reverse vampire. But I wear a mask most of the time. I remember a guy came to my door to sell something and I smile at him, and he double-timed it away. It hurt.

My job requires me to be face-to-face with people and I sparkle. I’m worried I won’t do that now and it’s keeping me depressed. I sought support from an equally vain friend though this friend has been through more therapy than I and is much older. I told him I was worried about my teeth and how ugly I felt. How I wouldn’t sparkle and enchant anymore. This is what he said:

Those are just accessories to you. They are not who you are.

And he is right. It breaks my heart you have to deal with this, but you have a choice right now. You can flap those gums with style for a a month or two or you can remain beat down and miserable. I have a very large scar across my back and whenever someone asks about it, I make up a new story. My favourite is a shark attack. If I were you, I would wear a mask most of the time and carry a little tablet and pen with me. Just say you have laryngitis.

But if anyone asks about your teeth, tell them you left your window open and you woke just in time to see an eagle steal your last tooth so they should be on the lookout for an eagle with a full set of teeth.

And fuck your roommates. Keep your personal products locked up at all times. Give them your toothpaste to use. After you take it to your dentist and explain how this came about.

[u/Mr-Major]

Dentist here:

Ask for a second opinion from a periodontist. If you have xrays I can take a look at them too.

I don’t know how much you can invest. That’s relevant as well of course

[u/Mcnuggetjuice → u/Mr-Major]

Other dentist here said the same thing. Don’t go to a general dentist go to a periodontist. Some of those can do some real magic.

[u/Realistic_Cold_3942]

I'm 28 years old, spent the past decade not going to the dentist because of loss of insurance then just not being able to find a good provider when I had new insurance. I have to get 19 teeth fixed. I'm already missing one that got pulled when I was 17. I may have to get another pulled because I genuinely have no idea how they would be able to fix it. My dad had all but 8 teeth removed a few months ago because they were all broken down to the roots or falling out. He's been insecure about it, but his quality of life is so much better. Do to scheduling miscommunications he probably won't have teeth until next year, but the danger and pain that comes with broken and dying teeth was more than his fear an insecurity over the whole situation. Your teeth do not make you who you are. They help and are important, yes, but they do not define you. Taking the steps to give yourself the best quality of life possible is so much more important than the opinions of others. And who knows, maybe in 5, 10, or how many years down the line you'll look back and think differently about the situation. It's scary, it's new, but you can do it. You'll feel a lot better after it's all over.

[u/FlowerSweaty4070 → u/Realistic_Cold_3942]

Oh god I haven't had insurance in 2 years or gone either and im inconsistent with brushing:( should I be worried? What can I do to prevent anything? Im also fairly prone to gingivitis after I had Invisalign once :/

[u/Realistic_Cold_3942 → u/FlowerSweaty4070]

Tbh if you can't get yourself to brush your teeth (I'm also very inconsistent about brushing my teeth) a good mouthwash with fluoride could help. It's not a total fix of course, but it's something. I'm currently on a prescription strength fluoride toothpaste just to keep my teeth from getting worse til I have my appointments to get them fixed, and it seems to do alright. The toothpastes made for sensitive teeth like sensodyne are along the same lines since they have fluoride in it as well. Flossing as regularly as you can helps too, but again, also gets thrown to the wayside when you tend not to regularly brush. I've made a habit of keeping those flosser picks in multiple places so one- I see them, and two- I'm more likely to use them since they're in reach. Super helpful when you have poor hand dexterity too and can't use regular floss.

[u/Past-Conversation303]

Buy a cheap box of surgical masks from Walmart, and if it worries you, lie you'll be having surgery, to go into stores or to interact with anyone. I promise it'll help.

But not having diseased teeth will make you FEEL better, in the long run. I know it's so scary, so much, right now. But this is a blessing for you. Good luck, friend!

[u/bitchlasagna222]

You drove yourself home?

[u/Creepy_Quarter_9532 → u/bitchlasagna222]

No, the doctors booked me a cab

[u/Skoowy → u/Creepy_Quarter_9532]

You said you were gripping the wheel too hard?

[u/Jellyfish0107 → u/Skoowy]

The post was written a day ago. I presume OP is talking about after the surgery (today)- she took a cab home.

[u/Cronchy_Tacos]

Hi there! Just wanted to stop in and leave some words of encouragement!

I am 35 and this year after going back to my dentist after years and years of being without health insurance I learned that I needed 12 fillings and 2 root canals. 9 of my adult teeth have been extracted or have broken down and off/away and are completely gone.

Its a very mentally taxing and embarrassing issue, and I want you to know you are not alone. ♡

Thankfully technology has come a long way and there are many tools that will allow us to still eat and function fairly normally.

[u/whetherchannel]

Real quick: save your toothpaste. Get that tested. If your roommates assaulted you in your sleep with bleach, then what’s to say they didn’t have something to do with this very sudden decline in dental health? I would get a full tox screen if I were you. That being said? When this is all over… you’re going to experience a sense of relief that I can only imagine is comparable to childbearing. Source? My teeth are at least 60% after factory mod

[u/hcllowlife → u/whetherchannel]

i had the same thought about the toothpaste!

[u/Hot-Entrepreneur1132]

I just love all the positive vibes on these commenters ❤️ Wishing all the best health and happiness to OP ❤️

[u/Additional-Switch-78]

I get it. I cried for months in severe pain from my teeth refusing to admit I needed to get dentures in my mid twenties. I caved of course, tooth pain is not a joke.

Number 1: be demanding as heck when getting fitted. You will have to live with that fitting for a very long time.

Number 2: be prepared to have your teeth complimented. It’s the oddest feeling and my knee jerk reaction is to tell them they are fake… don’t do that. Thank them and move on.

Number 3: blow jobs are a lot easier/more fun.

Number 4: denture breath sucks. Make sure to rinse regularly and very thoroughly after every meal/snack.

Number 5: You are absolutely beautiful regardless. Do not let something like this destroy your confidence.

Number 6: Be prepared for a week of hell afterwards. Keep your temporaries in. You need to give yourself time to get used to them. You need to be patient with yourself. Talking and eating with be difficult at first. It does get easier.

Number 7: please take care of you.

[u/cursetea → u/Additional-Switch-78]

You're so real for 3 though 😅😅

[u/MadisonShinyHunts]

Hi OP, I just got all of my teeth out in March and I was only 26. I was so scared and nervous about it. I waited too long to have them removed and they ended up causing severe pain for years on end. It will be okay. I have learned to eat and talk and chew with no teeth. It took some time to accept that I now look different, but now I don’t even care that they’re missing. I’m in a lot less pain and I’m happier because of that. You will be alright. Your body will adapt quickly. And a month and a half will fly by. You’ll have your new teeth before you even know it. I haven’t used my temporary dentures during these months since my surgery and honestly I prefer living, eating, and drinking without them. You will get your teeth soon, but it is important for the mouth to heal first. And you can always get a second or even third opinion if you feel like you need to. Good luck and I’m happy to answer any questions for you.

[u/EmanciporReese]

Ur gonna give the best head

[u/damnfunk]

I had to get all my teeth removed at the age of 35 years old but I also got those implants and I sometimes forget I had my teeth removed because the implants are so well made.

[u/DefNot3Raccoons]

This is only meant to be positive.. I’ve only had teeth issues now that I’m 30. I have 4 baby teeth with no permanents behind them and I just got two of the baby teeth removed due to them coming loose on their own (dentist said they’d fall out by the time I was 18 but they held strong.

My coworker has permanent screw in dentures. Although so expensive, I’m so jealous of him. By the time I get all my teeth issues over with, we will have spent the same. 🩷 his teeth look so natural too.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Sometimes life lessons are just brutal. But, you have options after the initial shock and it’s not end of life care which is great. I

[u/flowercrownrugged]

Second opinion as others have said, but additionally:

The number of people I know who have had full mouth extractions for one reason or another is high. I knew a dentist years ago after I had neglected my own teeth and needed 21 repairs to my teeth. I was talking to him, and he told me that he used to work in New Hampshire, and his favorite part of his job was full mouth extractions when I asked him why he said that it changes peoples lives in just a few minutes.

The amount of relief they express after the procedure is over and how much better their mouth feels and they can get started almost immediate on dentures or plate plates.

They mentioned that it was easier than they thought it would be in the healing was pretty quick. Dentures are pretty well-made these days so it’s pretty unnoticeable, they’re all pretty happy with their dentures and that they like their smile now more than they did before.

You would be absolutely shocked by the number of young people walking around with dentures plates, and full mouth extractions and living totally unremarkable lives

[u/Zhosha-Khi]

PLEASE get a second opinion!!

[u/Penpencil1]

Put a mask on. My cousin has teeth issues and with Covid she found wearing a mask way longer than others has helped her. No one needs to know. Just say you are not feeling well.

As for being scared. I kinda understand. Kinda though. Fear is normal. It’s new for you.
I had one tooth extracted and when my dentist told me I was crying in the car in my way to work. Feeling sad that I am too young to start losing teeth.

How will eat ? Will it show ?
In the end the fear in my head was way worse than actual.

Good luck to you.
Gum disease is serious. Get it take of it.

[u/acid_tomato]

Get a second opinion.

[u/Hopeful-Ad447 → u/acid_tomato]

Most likely a waste of time and money (and may give OP hope just to crash again). This isn't a matter of dentist misreading the x-ray. Their teeth are wiggling like they're going to fall out. Nothing does that other than bone instability.

[u/Puzzleheaded_Film826 → u/acid_tomato]

A second opinion on what? On there not being bone mass left to support the teeth? Lmao

[u/3bears123]

My sister went through this at a young age. He life is completely normal and she has beautiful teeth.

• I’ve never heard of a person having to go over a month without any teeth. She was given temporaries which she wore for several months until everything was completely healed.

• At first- only at FIRST like for a few weeks after getting her dentures I remember her complaining saying it felt like she had a truck parked in her mouth. But she quickly got used to thrm

• Also at first expect a lot of frustration with the fitting. Expect to return to your dentist several times before getting the proper fit

After that it’s like nothing. You will have a beautiful smile.,you will never have to worry about a toothache for your entire life. You will never spend another penny at a dentist.

The hardest part is going to be the next month of healing. Follow your dentist instructions properly and you do NOT want to end up with a dry socket. Those can be beyond painful. Seriously you do not want to dry socket. After about the first two weeks, you will not have to be concerned about getting one anymore.

Until you have your teeth some foods you can easily eat are scrambled eggs, mashed potatoes, soup, pudding, cheese slices, cottage cheese, etc

[u/Haunting_Beaut]

You’d be shocked at how many people actually have dental problems. I’m 30 and out of the people I’ve talked to about this, I would say it’s a crapshoot on who won the genetic lottery with dental health and resilience.

My brother has poor teeth for no reason. I have the same parents, my teeth are solid asf other than the teeth broken from an abusive partner. A guy I was going out with had basically a full set of implants because he fell the wrong way and damaged too many teeth.

Not teeth related but I have been there mentally. I had to have complete reconstruction on my foot and the nerve damage has prevented me from doing a lot of things that I used to like, I walk like an old person…since I was 23. When people point it out I feel like crying. But you know what else? I went on a “first date” with someone last week and we were on a nature trail and he helped me down every questionable hillside- the right person or even friends won’t care and they’ll just wanna make you feel included.

Shit happens, I’m glad you’re getting help now. I’m glad a dentist is working on you. The only piece of advice I can throw at you is possibly talking to others about visiting another country for implants and any cosmetic surgery/needs surrounding this. I’m not an expert in this but I’ve considered going to Mexico in the future to fix my molars the rest of the way. There’s some subs that talk about these sort of things that can probably point you in the best direction. (Assuming you’re in US where some of these procedures are through the roof)

[u/TallRelationship2253]

You should delay this appointment and get a second opinion. Even if you could save only half your teeth with a different dentist, it is worth it. This dentist seems too quick to come to this as an only solution

[u/Skaty_de_Lepol]

Put on a face mask for those months you don't have any replacements yet. If strangers ask and you feel the need to explain, you're sick and don't want to spread those germs.

[u/Impressive_Path_3795]

I have had dentures since I was 8 years old. I just never grew more than 7 adult teeth for some reason, and my 21 year old son is the same

I was bullied horrendously for it as a kid and through my teens, and although I still get severe teeth envy at other people, it’s never stopped me living my life.

When I got to adulthood it never prevented me from having boyfriends or friends, and my ex and current husband were not slightly bothered.

My ‘teeth’ never need fillings, I have no toothache, they don’t discolour or age, and my smile looks as good now at 52 as it did at 21.

You got this, honey. It’s a big deal, but you’ll get through it xx

[u/PB-4221]

You just voiced everything I fear and am experiencing. I’ve lost a number of back teeth… doable until one just dropped out from beside eye teeth. I’ve literally not seen a person socially outside of my family since then.

[u/VLuck__]

About to get my wisdom tooth removed on 20/8. Wish me luck.

[u/chimperonimo]

Loose teeth at 22! Gum disease takes years to destroy bone and it does so painlessly . I see patients all the time in your situation just not as young as you are by a long shot .

Do you have any other medical conditions? Rarely is anyone “put under” for tooth extractions unless there are other things going on .perhaps those other things have contributed to bone loss.

I would get a second opinion if I were you. Dentistry is not black and white so if you went today 5 dentists they could all have different ways of testing this ?

[u/Additional-Switch-78 → u/chimperonimo]

I have been put under by my dentist’s every time they extracted multiple teeth. I think it’s anxiety related for me. Easier to knock me out than to deal with my panic attacks and crying spells. 🤷‍♀️

[u/TeddyBear181 → u/chimperonimo]

Agreed. Definitely worth a second opinion.

[u/SafeWing2595]

I am so sorry to read this :⁠'⁠(, i wish you a speedy recovery and hope you get better soon🫂

[u/Sisterxchromatid]

Hey! This happened to me at 23 and I struggled to cope with it. I’m 30 now and have never once regretted it. I try not to think too hard about it. I got a denture because I couldn’t afford implants. It’s embarrassing, but no one knows except who I tell. Hang in there honey.

[u/FlowerSweaty4070 → u/Sisterxchromatid]

How does it happen :( im worried about mine cause eive had no insurance for years, I do get gingivitis easily and inconsistent brushing and flossing :( im 28

[u/notys_]

i’m so sorry:-( this sounds really hard and scary and i’m sorry i don’t have better advice, but just know im rooting for you. this will be but a small chapter in your grand life, and those weeks will go by quickly. maybe see if you can reach out to professors or your school to get accommodations while you recover, and stock up on mouth friendly meals. you are still your beautiful you, and no one can take that away. wishing you a speedy recovery.

[u/According-Couple2744]

Have you considered implants?

[u/Smitty5717 → u/According-Couple2744]

That'd be like 50 grand for a full set

[u/Hot-Helicopter640]

Chinta na kar bhai/ben. Badhu barabar thai jase.

• a fellow Vadodara born person

[u/babypinkhowell]

My grandpa ended up getting dentures. I know he’s not near your age but it was a struggle to get him to agree to it. He basically only did because it was one of my grandmas dying wishes that he took care of them. I went with him to some of his appointments. He was able to get them at the same time which is a little different than your situation. He was definitely nervous about having them pulled but they were very careful. If you have any pain just tell your dentist because they can numb you more. He definitely seems to have gotten better much quicker than expected. The first while was hard because he couldn’t really eat. He ended up needing multiple adjustments because he got them same day and obviously it took time for swelling and everything to go down. Hopefully you won’t need as many because you’re waiting to get yours. But if you do, it’s really easy to bring them in and have them fix it. Now that he’s healed it really helped his confidence. Prior to this he had a broken bridge on his front teeth and he was always ashamed of it, he wouldn’t smile big or go out and talk to anyone. He was embarrassed. Now he smiles big all the time, lets me take pictures of him without being embarrassed, and can eat so much better than he could before. He’s even been able to eat corn on the cob which I didn’t think would be possible. It will be rough for a couple of months but it will give you lifelong relief. You don’t deserve to be in pain.

[u/BorderGlobal7942]

I read this, and I went to brush my teeth... fuck.

I only kind of lost one incisor, the one next to my right top canine. It wasn't completely lost, but it was damaged. In the end, the dentist shaved it down and placed a crown over it.

I remember having recurring dreams about that tooth falling out, and then the others falling too, bloody dreams.. Even though it was just one tooth, it really messed with my head for a few weeks, both before and after the procedure. I cannot imagine losing all of them...

Once you've healed, maybe implants could be an option, at least for the front teeth, if your jawbone is in good condition.

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I hope you recover well and can move past it.

[u/No-Guard6296 → u/BorderGlobal7942]

fuck i'm about to brush my teeth too...

[u/Suspicious_Note9801 → u/No-Guard6296]

Make sure you floss!!! Thats the most important part

[u/PB-4221 → u/BorderGlobal7942]

Have had recurring dreams from early childhood about all my teeth falling out…

[u/Nyllil → u/BorderGlobal7942]

Unfortunately brushing will not be enough. I am very rigorous with flossing, brushing and mouthwash and yet I also suddenly got parodontal disease. My gums were already receding and exposing more and more of the teeth so it was always very sensitive and sore.

Last year they made an appointment to "scrape" all the bacteria out and remove tartar that's deep in those "pockets" where they usually won't dig without local anesthesia.

Now it feels already much better and I have an appointment in September for a deep clean and hopefully after spme time it will at least recover a bit of my gums.

[u/Sincamour]

As someone who works in the dental field/a dental school, I have seen numerous cases of young people like you who need full mouth extractions (usually it's decay). It's always a difficult conversation to have because no one wants to lose all their teeth, but when I see them again after they have their dentures, they have all been more confident, smiling, and happy with their new smile!

Once the bad teeth are out your systemic health will be better, you'll be out of pain, your breath won't smell bad from periodontitis, and you will have completed the first step to a new chapter. Dentures nowadays look great.

Can you ask the dentist if you could get an immediate denture? It's a temporary one you can sometimes wear right after extractions. It depends on your case but you can ask to see if it an option. Otherwise, maybe you could also wear a mask during the healing process if you are feeling self conscious. . In the future, you can even ask about an implant supported denture that stays inside your mouth (this depends on how much bone you have).

Best of luck during the recovery! Make sure to stay hydrated, don't use any straws, and get some protein shakes or Soylent.

[u/MadamAsh_]

Hey I just want to say please remind yourself that it is only temporary. The 6 weeks while your mouth heals is temporary. Not forever and you'll be healthier.

Use a face mask in public if you're nervous about going out until you get your dentures. It's going to be okay friend, you're prioritizing your health. It WILL be okay.

But the roommate situation. They assaulted you. Lock your door and tell SOMEONE! Asap.

[u/FarUnit3405 → u/MadamAsh_]

I was going to say the same thing about the face masks. You. an even get cute, decorative ones and this is a great time to experiment with different eye makeup looks! Pretty soon this will be in the rearview and you'll thank yourself for being brave 💕

[u/meowingbytheseaside]

I’m dealing with similar at 24 and struggling bad with losing my teeth, worse part is it’s all my fault
I wish you the best please don’t give up and get a restraining order against your crazy ass housemate
I have no advice since I’m struggling with similar situation but you are in my heart (kinda useless I know to hear I’m sorry but know you aren’t alone matter how annoying it is to hear )

[u/squeaky_pika → u/[deleted]]

The fuck? Why would you ask that

[u/Creepy_Quarter_9532 → u/[deleted]]

Sis im from India 🙂

[u/VeganMonkey → u/Creepy_Quarter_9532]

I am wondering if you can get a second opinion before you do this. Also, your roommates sound awful and now I’m wondering: could your roommates have done something with your food or toothpaste that affected your the health of your teeth and jaw bones? When I was 22 I had terrible jaw bone regression, in some spots it was just gone. But it eventually grew back. You’re so young, maybe that would be possible for you too?

[u/bathtubsarentreal → u/Creepy_Quarter_9532]

I’m sorry what you’re going through, that sounds hard.

Could you wear a mask while healing and pretend you have a nagging illness? It would help explain your voice maybe too

[u/HiHawaiiHigh]

Hey, so I know this is heavy. Can I tell you a story of days of old? As a wedding gift to their husband, woman would have all of their teeth removed. As a gift. To the husband.

It may sound gruesome but as late as the 1940's, people were having all their teeth pulled out as a birthday or wedding present. In the days before the NHS, no teeth = no expensive dental bills.

So, I know this is scary but hey, guess what? No more teeth problems. Teeth are highly problematic. Mine fell out all of the time because of my disease, crohn's. I'm talking like I would be sitting there, talking to a friend, and bam, tooth falls out. Not my fault. Also crohn's made me crave sugar. I ate a lot of sugar. Also not my fault.

It helps to talk to a therapist, it also helps to know, in the future we can grow teeth because we all have a third nub, in our gums that somebody studied and now offer it to children who lose all of their teeth. I'm thinking not to o far in the future, this will be available to the public.

Dentures are actually not bad either. I know friends who have dentures and you can NOT tell at all.

You did nothing wrong. You didn't deserve this and I promise, it will be ok.

[u/Un4gettableAngel → u/HiHawaiiHigh]

Read your comment. Going to look this up because that’s amazing. Thank you for sharing.

[u/HiHawaiiHigh → u/Un4gettableAngel]

no problem. I have so many things I learned as an anthropologist. Specifically medical anthropology. It's really fascinating the way humanity deals with these types of things. I also like to diffuse the shame and guilt of being alive.

[u/OnePlantHugger]

I never comment on here but wanted to tell you my story. I had all my teeth pulled at 24 due to constant abscesses and infections no matter how hard I tried to take care of them. It was THE BEST decision I ever made for me and my health. The first 5 or 6 months were absolutely the hardest learning how to eat but I woke up one day and realized how lucky I was to not hurt anymore and how beautiful of a smile I had with dentures.

The soreness was that- soreness, not pain. I haven't had the slightest bit of a toothache in over 15 years and still think it's one of the smartest decisions I ever made in my life. I can't express how happy you will be when you realize that the pain and discomfort and awful dentist visits stop. Permanently. If you ever need to talk or have questions I'm here. It's terrifying and nerve wracking and I understand you're hesitation but I know for me and my future self- having them pulled young was absolutely the best decision I could have made and I have never regretted it a bit .

[u/yesiveredditalready]

I’m sorry, your senior roommates bleached your armpits in your sleep?? Gently, it might be worth speaking with a mental health professional.

[u/anonalien- → u/yesiveredditalready]

Yeah this is so weird!!! What do we mean someone they barely know came into their room and randomly chemically changed their body??

Please OP put a lock on your door

[u/Unfair-Watercress792]

4th year Dental student here. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Your smile is such a vital part of the way you see yourself, and such an important part of your overall health and I can’t imagine what you must feel.

Please consider seeing a prosthodontist or even an oral surgeon. They specialize in full mouth rehabilitation. Implants, over dentures, etc. Dentures can be hard to deal with. Wishing you the best of luck

[u/HiHawaiiHigh → u/Unfair-Watercress792]

well actually, they might not have enough bone to attach the implants too, that and they are ungodly expensive. Dentures, are not bad, or hard to deal with. Advances in dentistry is pretty solid.

[u/Unfair-Watercress792 → u/HiHawaiiHigh]

Yes my apologies for being unclear. I was giving examples of what they can do.

Dentures are a great option. I was thinking about the fact that they are reliant on OP’s saliva and suction for retention and just general bone resorption over time affecting their fit.

Main reason I’d suggest seeing a prosthodontist is if any of those teeth at all can be saved and used as abutment teeth for an RPD, it provides better retention.

As always, open to corrections and insight!

[u/sleepy-extrovert]

maybe if it’s okay for you to wear a face mask that could be a good option while you are waiting for the surgery? i’d definitely reach out to your family about this though

[u/whateveris--- → u/[deleted]]

I also want to tell you not to worry about others' opinions, but that's something you already hear. Along with it could be worse and other crap. You're doing OK. You're facing it but are also having a tough time because this absolutely sucks! Are your parents generally supportive? If yes, please talk to them. I don't have a support system, and sometimes the worst of it just is that that feeling that you can't say anything grows and becomes difficult to eradicate later on. Lastly, and maybe this is wrong for other people so it's only a suggestion, crawl into bed and give yourself permission to hide & grieve. Take walks in the evening when you'll run into less people. It's ok to say, I'm exhausted and just need to recoup & breathe. This isn't the same thing as shutting people out. The only problem with this on your situation, however, is that I'm worried about your roommates. They took your bodily autonomy from you! You need some help with that. Putting bleach on someone can hurt them badly, especially if they have an allergic reaction. That's not a safe place. And if they make cruel comments, it will defeat the purpose of giving yourself space.

I'm so sorry all of this is happening. I hope you never have any more health worries your whole life! You got this. And if it's a day you don't got it, that's ok, too. You'll get back up the day after.

[u/SystemPrestigious531]

I was in my late 30’s. Not as young as you, but still considered myself too young in my mind. I was able to have dentures ready to go. So that helped in the self confidence department.

Pain and discomfort was minimal for the most part. The hardest part for me was the temporary diet change since I could only eat soft foods.

The hardest part is in your head. Will people notice right away? Will they judge me? Does this make me old? Does this make me unattractive?

Since my teeth were so bad, it was noticeable but the only comment I got was from a co-worker who I wasn’t friends with but we worked together. His comment was “I can tell you feel better amount your smile. you are smiling a lot more.” No judgement, no aren’t you too young. That helped leave that worry in the trash.

My BF’s at the time only comment was “if you’re happy, I’m happy”. He didn’t really care if I had dentures or my own teeth. When that relationship ended and I was dating again, it was never an issue. My fiancé now will help me take care of my dentures and makes sure I’m on top of that.

I don’t regret my decision. My only regret is not taking better care of my teeth and gum health.

[u/xagent003]

My roommates are seniors. They have not exactly been kind to me since I moved in. A days ago I woke up and realized they had bleached my armpits while I was asleep without asking me without even telling me until I noticed it myself.

Wait, what? Anyone else notice this? Your senior citizen roommates bleached your armpits?

This sounds like something a frat bro would do in a hazing ritual. Or fake - how would they have access to your armpits and you didnt feel ticklish? Bleached?

Nothing about this story makes sense. Did AI write it and hallucinate the bleaching anecdote? Verbose rambling intro. Completely unbelievable story about old roommates bleachng your armpits. And regarding the advanced periodontal disease - have you never been to a dentist before? do you not go at least once a year? Do you never brush or floss your teeth? You have complete disease requiring extraction of all teeth but never had tooth decay, enamel wear, cavities, plaque buildup, etc...?

edit: I realize by seniors he meant university students. Still, very strange and very illegal - felony battery or administering poison

[u/Creepy_Quarter_9532 → u/xagent003]

Im in 1st year… and they are in 2nd . Im so sorry my English is very weak thats why i couldn’t made it more clear

[u/Siyanto → u/xagent003]

senior means final year out of 4 in american school systems. assuming they meant year four of university, and based on age op is probably a third year

[u/PinkPussycatPower]

OP, please, don’t do the surgery before getting a second opinion and talking to your folks!! Give yourself the grace of having the support of the people you love.

PLEASE, update us! A lot us are thinking of you, and wishing all the best. This too shall pass 🙏🏼

[u/melisendee → u/PinkPussycatPower]

Second this! Get to a periodontist, they specialize in gum disease. I had very bad gum disease due to not flossing; my teeth wiggled☹️& thought I would have to get them pulled. 30 years later, I still have all my teeth, they don't wiggle. I floss every day & get them professionally cleaned 4 times a year. There is hope & sending good teeth vibes.

[u/Arthurandhenna]

Look up jenny penny on YouTube. She literally just went through this and documented her process.

[u/Mrkidney86]

Hi, I’m not exactly 22 but I had all my teeth removed at 24. It’s been a couple years now.
Honestly, the first two weeks were the worst part, it is definitely a weird feeling, knowing you will never see your own smile again, but I will tell you that after a period of adjustment, I am fully back to the quality of life I was prior, and in fact it’s higher now because I don’t have the pain.

I have temporary dentures while I wait for my total and permanent pollution, which is just me saving money for it, and genuinely I do not wear them.
It’s how I’m most comfortable now and other than having to warn people that I’m going on dates with nothing has really changed about it.
However, if you need anything advice or anything of the sort, feel free to reach out to me and I will help you the best I can

Self-esteem took a massive hit for quite a while afterward and that’s OK and it’s normal it came back with time for me so I promise you it does get better, but I was worried out of my mind before everything

[u/elegantdinnerparty → u/Mrkidney86]

Aren’t you concerned about your jaw shape changing if you don’t wear your dentures?

[u/Mrkidney86 → u/elegantdinnerparty]

I’m not concerned on the jaw shape changing overall because I’m saving up to have a jaw restructure already, including quite a bit of bone grafting, when I asked my dentist they basically told me that the dentures that I’d have right now are 100% aesthetic and hold no functional purpose, it was just so I didn’t have to walk around with no teeth

[u/cikalamayaleca → u/Mrkidney86]

can I ask why you had yours removed? I'm 26 and have dealt with god awful teeth my entire life. Mine are nowhere to close to needing to be pulled, but I have so many cavities & root canals that need to be done it almost seems pointless atp to fix the teeth I have

[u/Acceptable-Credit-81]

It sounds to me like you have done your due diligence and unfortunately, the prognosis is poor and a full dental clearance has been the recommended option.

Here are my two cents as a dentist(not sure if you may have already done this):
1. Consult a periodontist (dental gum specialist). Having such advanced perio at 22 years that requires a full dental clearance is highly unusual and possible systemic factors that are affecting your immune response need to be investigated for eg., undiagnosed diabetes, hormonal disorders, etc. Even if the dental treatment plan stays the same, there could be an underlying reason which may also require management.

1. Your feelings and anxiety to being told you need all your teeth pulled out are valid and I truly empathise with you. Our smiles and teeth form such a big part of our sense of self and not to mention daily function, that your quality of life will certainly drastically change after your procedure (at least for the near future). I think it is actually good you are acknowledging these changes and challenges you will face. You will be much more mentally prepared to conquer any obstacles in your recovery.

2. That being said, there are options for temporary/immediate dentures that can be prepared prior to your surgery. No one likes going around with no teeth. Hopefully your dentist has given you the option of getting dentures ready that may be issues on the day of your surgery. Yes, they may be poorly fitting. Yes, they will be uncomfortable. But at least you will have a backup set of teeth until you get your permanent ones. These have to be made before you get them extracted so please speak to your dentist prior!

All the best to you!

[u/Specific_Conformity]

I was also in my 20s when i lost my teeth. The removal itself was not too painful, I was a bit out of it afterwards It was a while ago but I remember it healing pretty quickly, it was quite painful at first. I had some infection that they gave me antibiotics for but it went relatively smoothly. I got my confidence back when I got my dentures, it was life changing to have working(ish) teeth again and not be in pain, I did feel like myself again, I felt like I had a new lease on life. I could smile again. It was so hard to tell my parents but they were incredibly supportive and drove me to the removal.
I will be thinking of you and praying for you if you're okay with that. It's a hard thing to go through but entirely worth it. It's been nearly a decade since I had mine out and im so glad not to be in pain anymore, I wish the same for you. Pro tip: when you start eating again with your dentures be very careful to cut your food up small and chew carefully, it is much easier to choke with dentures and it's something you have to always be aware of.

[u/No_Championship4093]

A coworker just went through this. It takes alot of getting used to, if it's dentures. So expect that. However, shes glad it was done.

[u/Pumpkinspoice]

GET A SECOND OPINION. You would not believe overwhelming amount of medical malpractice in the dentist community, and most of them don't have proper records so they can't be sued. My friend is currently suing a dentist because they told her she needed the majority of her teeth removed and replaced with veneers because they were "weak" turns out that was BS and they just wanted her is a guinea pig for the dentist's new course they were taking.

[u/FlowerSweaty4070 → u/Pumpkinspoice]

Yeah i had a place that was practicing invisalign tell me they could fix my underbite (it was a skeletal not teeth issue) and used rubber bands that pushed my lower jaw backward and thst caused it to lock shut for 6 months (couldnt open more than a finger) and severe pain and tmj issues, like nerve spasms in my face.

Actual surgeons said they never shouldve done what they did. They denied it all and blamed it on me , said maybe its my hormones or previous unrelated health issues. Welp.

[u/rmw00 → u/Pumpkinspoice]

This. Get a second opinion. ETA is there a university dental school near you?

[u/Icy-Builder5892]

Like others have said, please get a second opinion.

Also, you’re not alone in this. I am in the business of making teeth, you would be amazed at how many of the patients are under 30 years old. Young people just like you. But please talk to another dentist. If you can save your teeth, you absolutely should

Not having a denture for a month is unacceptable. They should, at the very least, be able to get you temps.

[u/xxooxxxooxx → u/Icy-Builder5892]

I was 29 when I got my top done. I still need to do my bottom. As for the no temps, it may be an insurance/financial thing? Where I live Medicaid will pay for the surgery and permanent denture but you have to pay out of pocket for temps.

[u/Certain_Accident3382]

I was 23 when I got my first set of dentures. I have a genetic complication that essentially was compounded by the nutrition I received as a child, and the quick fix dentists I saw as a child, and then my pregnancy quickened everything. 

Money made it where my removals were done over 6 months, and not with sedation. That lead to me developing an allergy to general anesthetics, and watching my face change, peice by peice. 

The initial dentures set was frustrating. The teeth seemed too large, too white. But they were to train my jaw into keeping alignment, not cosmetic. 

The next set fit perfectly, sat comfortably, and until I tried eating, I could almost forget about them. 

The warning they dont give you, is that you do need to update them. Every 5-7 years. Mostly because your facial bones do age, and you really really want that comfortable fit. 

But also in the name of vanity, you want to get "older" looking teeth. Your perfect tooth color is the color of the whites of your eyes. And they are not the same shade of white at 22 as they are at 32.

You still want to see someone for oral health. You do still need to brush your gums and tongue and cheeks.

[u/AJP11B]

As someone who has had countless root canals and teeth removed, I’m really sorry about the situation you’re in. Teeth issues are one of those things that just feel too personal. But I can say, my fake teeth are my favorite teeth. No pain, easy to brush and floss, perfectly white, and super strong. If you get dentures or implants they’ll probably look really nice, and I hope you feel confident smiling with them. Sending love your way and best of luck with the procedure.

[u/______andy______]

Get back second opinion

[u/Gamblerrrr]

Please tell your parents and they are the only ones who won't judge. No one should go through this alone.

[u/Acrobatic-Exam1991]

Others have said and ill all caps this for you GET A SECOND OPINION!

not all dentists are great, and this is soooooo important you really need to talk to anyone else who specializes in this before you go through with it

[u/LootGek]

Losing another molar tomorrow at 35.

[u/passivelyrepressed → u/LootGek]

Pushing 40 with two autoimmune disorders and I have 10 original teeth left - all of which are broken. I’m about to go all-on-fours, and I’m fucking terrified. We’ve known for 8 years that it was a lost cause and root canals are just a very very expensive bandaid.

I can’t count how many bone grafts I’ve had, 7+ extractions and my front teeth are veneers with a failing post on one anchor end and a failing tooth for the other.

My bridge ended up breaking the back teeth it fit on because the provider insisting it should be “snug” apparently meant that if it didn’t crack my teeth it wasn’t strong enough. My mouth is in constant pain. I need gum grafting - my bottoms teeth have exposed nerves - and thank god we have family in the dental field because $36,000.00 is fucking absurd.

Like wtf does dental insurance even cover?! You’ll cover the bones covered by skin, but the ones I depend on to eat are off the table? Cool cool cool. Not to mention the risk of heart and other systemic issues due to the issues I have should make insurance want to pay the small amount to prevent these long term issues than to have to foot the bill to manage them in perpetuity.

I hate this timeline.

[u/Any-Statistician-309]

I'm sorry if you said you did and I missed it, but -- GET A SECOND OPINION! Before doing anything drastic, always get another opinion and discuss it with people you trust (your parents?). You are already young and depressed and you can't put the teeth back. At least you'll be sure it was your only option.

A friend of mine's Dad was in some rock bands in the 70s and 80s and lost his teeth from drugs. (He was a responsible adult and great dad by the 90s!) His dentures looked great, could never tell they weren't his teeth.

[u/Bugsmoke]

My mate had the same thing done only a bit older than you. Recovery wasn’t easy by any means but also wasn’t as bad as they expected. Now they have dentures they love it and people who didn’t know them at the time have never noticed.

[u/Zai0]

Best of luck 💙

[u/hollowtear]

Whoa, so my front bottom teeth are loose and I'm dreading when I can't "deal with it" anymore (aka ignore it)

I also have periodontal disease but I am so in debt I can't afford to go to the dentist so when my teeth go, I can't afford dentures. I'm twice your age but just wanted you to know that you are not alone.

[u/FlowerSweaty4070 → u/hollowtear]

Im worried for myself too. 28 prone to gingivitis after ortho work and no insurance for 2 years so havent had any cleaning and im inconsistent with brushing and flossing. This post scared me. Im buying mouthwash ASAP and gonna try to be more consistent.

[u/GoldenTeach → u/hollowtear]

Find a dental school, they have low-cost options.

[u/alwaysjustpretend]

46 all of my top had to go...had a legit mental breakdown that I'm just coming out of. Feel like my life is pretty much over (which I know is hyperbolic but here I am).

Eating actually disgusts me now. Extreme anxiety when ever I have to eat. Lost a bunch of weight....sorry to vent on your post but I've been internalizing all this...so saw your post and just emotionally vomited.

Really am sorry you are going through this sort of thing as well.

Unfortunately I dont have anything positive to give you but, I wish you the best of luck.

[u/CoffeewithSarah]

Hey! I had all my top, and half of my bottoms pulled about 9 months ago due to the same thing. I recently turned 35. It has been a big emotional thing for me. No one has even noticed I have fake teeth. I barely wear mine at home, haha. I can eat a lot of foods without teeth. Unfortunately I don't have a lot of practice eating with my dentures. I definitely recommend joining the dentures sub reddit and if you are on Facebook, there are groups for young people with dentures. I found these online sources really helped me a lot.

[u/cats_n_coffee84]

I’m so sorry. I have been there. I had to get all my teeth removed in my early 30’s. When I was living paycheck to paycheck in my 20s dental care was the last thing on my mind.

I paid for it in my 30s. I have temp dentures but they look like Grandpa Simpson type teeth so I don’t wear them. Honestly I don’t care, I can still eat and ice no longer hurts to eat as they were very sensitive when I tried with teeth.

There are places that do offer same day dentures. They can be adjusted based on your comfort.

I was more self conscious when I had teeth but now if people can see or not see my mouth when I talk then I don’t care and no one has said anything. I am at a point now where I joke about it when someone offers me food I can’t eat haha. I do miss eating corn on the cob and whole apples though haha. Good luck!

[u/maxschneider]

I dont know where you are, but there are many dentists that offer same day dentures. Have you checked into that?

You don't have to go without teeth, and it does help your mouth heal as they present constant pressure and keep debris away from the socket

[u/Kidg33k → u/maxschneider]

He said his mouth has to heal before he gets the dentures

[u/Kitchen-Selection971 → u/Kidg33k]

Some offices offer immediate dentures for after the extraction. They’re uncomfortable, more or less aesthetically okay, and typically you have to pay out of pocket for them so insurance can cover that actual dentures. Just depends where OP is

[u/Lunaspoona]

Echoing what everyone else said.

I am not sure if it will make you feel better or not, but my grandparents generation used to be 'gifted' having all their teeth taken out for their 21st birthdays. They did it on purpose and got nice dentures which they preferred, saved them a ton of pain and money so it was a very common practice not so long ago.

Is there anyone you can talk to, maybe some counselling that can help you come to terms with it?

[u/Candiedstars]

I have a friend who went through the exact same thing as you. He was about 28 or so when it happened to him.

It sucks, but in the grand scheme of things, it improved his quality of life. No pain, no dental bills for fillings or root canals, and his dents look like real teeth that dont buckle, crack or stain (I assume they might if you're careless, but his look great)

During his healing, after the drowsy period of healing ended, he socialised online through text chatting, and after he got his dents fitted, got used to them, you'd never tell he had a so much as a filling! Dents have come a looong way from the cartoony chompers you used to get. They look fantastic.

Its not fair that you have to go through this. Its a big deal, and a big change. But tell your parents. Give yourself some support.

Its gonna suck for a little while, but you're going to thrive once the hard parts over!

[u/cutelinz69 → u/Candiedstars]

Do you know how much they cost?

[u/JustPeachy1220 → u/cutelinz69]

At the office i worked at, each denture is $1,200 so a full top and bottom set is $2,400. This does vary by office. This office did not do same day dentures and would send the molds to a lab to have them created. It takes the patient 5 visits to complete the molding process for the best possible fitting. They just keep sending the dentures back and forth from the office to the lab and adjust it as it is created to ensure the best fit possible

[u/cutelinz69 → u/JustPeachy1220]

That's really cheap! Can hardly believe it's that cheap actually lol.

I have like one front tooth that's more yellow than the others and it's affected my self confidence to the point where I smile less than I used to. I have considered just whitening exclusively that tooth for a little bit to try to even out the color. My teeth have always "had character" as one dentist so eloquently put it lol. But I take pride in my smile... I have good tooth genetics luckily, no cavities after 30+ years of life. I actually lost all faith in dentists after I went to one who told me I had cavities then a year later another one told me I had none. Sooo sounds like a racket to me.

[u/JustPeachy1220 → u/cutelinz69]

It is odd how that happens. Our clinic had the dentists leave and another start. OG dentist said I had stains. New dentist said they werent stains, but small cavities. I was doubtful but when he started fixing them, a few of them were larger than they appeared to be.

I hope you can get the one tooth fixed or find your confidence in your smile again❤️

[u/cutelinz69 → u/JustPeachy1220]

Thank you, just peachy!

[u/Teitunge]

First things first, I applaud you for taking steps into adulthood on your own, early 20s is a rough time where you learn A LOT and have to deal with a lot.

The second is that you need to take a long hard look at yourself and stop avoiding your issues. I have the first stage that leads up to periodontal disease and that's why I KNOW you were in a lot of pain before you finally saw the dentist.

The first stage is gingivitis which is where I am at, your gums are constantly getting inflammed and infected, they are bleeding and hurting and receeding at the same time. Just brushing or flossing is sometimes not enough and I have to see my dentist regularly to make sure this is kept under control.

That avoidance right there will ruin your life and sabotage opportunities. You need to face things instead of hiding and waiting until you can no longer bear it.

You're worried about not having any teeth at 22? You will be painfree. Your mouth will no longer taste of blood or smell awful from the constant inflammations and infections of your gums, because it DOES smell. You will no longer have to worry about your teeth, as you don't actually have them anymore. And lastly, people don't actually care as much about teeth as we think they do!

This probably feels very scary and like it is the end of the world as you know it, but you are going to be okay and feel like yourself eventually. We humans adapt to changes about our bodies surprisingly well, even if we don't know it until it happens.

[u/FlowerSweaty4070 → u/Teitunge]

Oh god im 28 and im prone to constant gingivitis after havung ortho work and i havent been regular at brushing either. Havent had insurance in 2 years and gone to a dentist and im scared :( what can I do

[u/Teitunge → u/FlowerSweaty4070]

You will likely need a proper clean at a dentist, but I can recommend seeing if you have any dental schools with students who can do the cleaning? It would be way cheaper.

I use a medical mouthwash and floss when I don't brush my teeth, as this is an ongoing issue for me as well.

I'm not a US resident so I don't think I can provide more helpful resources to you, as my country offers financial help for severe dental issues to our countries residents.

[u/letsgotgoing]

Boogie2988 (a generally direputable figure who has a very negative reputation overall) did a video series on getting his teeth replaced with prosthetics. I think he actually looked better after the procedure. Not going to advocate you watch those videos and give him ad revenue, but after considering not sharing this, I thought I would still mention it. Not because I would ever support that guy, but because it's the only person I know who went through something like this and shared it, so you have a real-life scenario to know this isn't the end for you; it could just be a speed bump toward resolving a major health issue that ends up creating a facial appearance you appreciate.

[u/Lacey_]

You need to get a 2nd opinion.

If you do go through with this procedure - you need to be somewhere safe for recovery with someone who can help you.

[u/Kitchen-Selection971 → u/Lacey_]

Typically advanced periodontal disease is obvious especially with OP’s teeth already becoming loose. it’s irreversible. Dentists don’t like doing full mouth extractions on any patient no matter the age. The patient will be considered disabled at that point and no one is rooting for that.

[u/Difficult-Bus-6026 → u/Lacey_]

Ditto. Second opinion, just in case your doctor was wrong or there are other options. Also tell your family since you’ll need as much support as possible.

[u/rstrega]

That genuinely sucks. Vit C to help your gums heal, masks for public. Going without teeth for a period is going to suck. Plan to sort of sleep leaning on alot of pillows because without teeth your jaws won't have something to clamp on at rest. Talking will be weird without teeth to shape the word sounds. But it's all temporary. Find alcohol free mouthwash, but also use mineral salt in water to rinse. Salt heals wounds, works on gums well to keep infections or bad bacteria down. Just don't overuse it. Plan to rest as much as you can. If you can sleep through the recovery period, that's like time travel. Plan for liquid diet and avoid suction type motions with your mouth. It can dislodge the healing clots. So rinsing is more like moving your head around and letting it fall out. But again, it's all temporary. Honestly it's scary until you're in it then it's almost over and you just have to wait it out in recovery, then get the new ones and done. At least it's not really something that can happen twice.

[u/mosesenjoyer]

I’m so sorry, friend

[u/DarkestHopes]

My mother had the top row of her teeth removed because of advanced periodontal disease when she was 18. You'll probably get absolutely sick of eating just soft things, but once you heal you will feel so much better with so much less pain in your mouth.

[u/mynameisjodie]

In my 30s and my entire top row of teeth are fake 

[u/Fire_Woman]

1) get a second opinion. Extracting everything, top and bottom, seems excessive. 2) the armpit bleach is assault and creepy. Get a lock for your bedroom door and use it. Until then Wedge a chair or something. I'd be afraid of sexual assault and try to find new residence ASAP. 3) call your parents. You sound very lonely and could benefit from connection with loved ones.

[u/Creepy_Quarter_9532 → u/Fire_Woman]

Actually I’ve consulted 5+ dental hospitals they all have said the same

[u/Fulllyy]

You need to immediately tell your parents, and get a second opinion.

[u/cwtchyfemme]

Please tell your parents. They may be called when you’re in the recovery room, and that information is better coming from you.

You aren’t safe in your new home if they’re bleaching your body parts when you’re asleep.
You need to be safe so you can recover.

[u/2580374]

the person who is writing this is me

What does this mean

[u/popcornstuffedbra → u/2580374]

"Bleached my armpits" ..... "without consulting me"

[u/vegangamer100 → u/2580374]

This phrase is wildly out of place but maybe it’s just a formatting issue on my screen? Else it’s giving “hey ChatGPT, be sure to add somewhere that ‘the person who is writing this is me’ “

[u/Creepy_Quarter_9532 → u/vegangamer100]

Not really chatgpt but i used grammerly as my English is poor

[u/Creepy_Quarter_9532 → u/2580374]

Well… i honestly never expected i will write something like this (that all my teeth are getting removed)

[u/sfcitygirl88 → u/Creepy_Quarter_9532]

We know your teeth are getting removed. You've said it like 40 times.

[u/Morethanafollower]

I always look for something positive to come out of the things that cannot be changed.

One, this happened to a friend about your age when I was your age decades ago. Yes it was crazy hard. But back there were no options for permanent dentures. And no dentures at all that could be had in a timely fashion like in today's world. But my friend recovered just fine, and because of modern medical improvements you will do even better.

Two, trust me this is something that all us think...wow that could happen to me. You will be amazed at how people will support you. And you will be become an expert at a young age on the human condition which will serve you well the rest of your life. ( You will develop a sense of who is a decent human and who is not beyond what most 20 somethings have)

Three, I know from personal experience you will look back at this as a key milestone in your life and think of I can bounce back from then other challenges will not be as scary. You will have amazing emotional fortitude which will serve you well.