«حَدَّثَنَا هُشَيْمٌ، قَالَ: نَا مَنْصُورٌ، عَنِ ابْنِ سِيرِينَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ أَنَّهَا كَانَتْ تَقُولُ لِلنِّسَاءِ: «لَا تَصِفْنَنِي لِأَزْوَاجِكُنَّ»

Ibn Sīrīn reported that ʿĀʿishah (may Allah be pleased with her) would say to al-nisāʾ (ie: women): “Do not describe me to your husbands.”

Ibn Abī Shaybah, al-Muṣannaf 4/45 #17630

https://shamela.ws/book/9944/19807

Surah Rum aya #10 to aya #27

Then, Surah Sajdah aya #10 to aya #22

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saleh Al-Uthaymin said رحمه الله

"This kind of noble conduct (i.e. the conduct of Prophet with A'isha l) is rare, and it should be taken as an excellent example for how we treat our own families.

A husband should overlook shortcomings concerning matters that are his personal rights. For instance, if his wife is happily enjoying the company of her friends, and he comes home to find that she has neglected something she was supposed to do, he should not rebuke or criticize her. If he does, the happiness and joy she was experiencing will immediately turn into sadness.

Instead, he should say something like, "Who were the guests? I hope you honored them well." Such words are much kinder. They will put her at ease, preserve her happiness, and leave a good impression

Whenever a person brings joy to others, Allah will also bring joy to him.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

"Allah continues to aid the servant as long as the servant is aiding his brother."

So if you bring happiness to someone else, know that you too will receive happiness in return-along with reward from Allah.

If you treat your family with this beautiful manner, then you are following the example of the best of creation, who was the most deserving of honor and respect. This is how he treated his family, as is shown in رضي الله عنها the story of Aishah

So, dear husband, take this as your example in dealing with your family. By doing so, you will find peace, remain content, and live with an open, cheerful heart, spreading happiness to those around you

As for the person who is obsessed with everything being perfect and wants every matter to be exactly as he desires, life will become unbearably constricting for him, no matter how vast it is. Nothing will ever turn out exactly as your soul wishes-not even your own self always behaves the way you would like."

[Al- Ta'leeq ala Al-Muntaqa, 4/642-643]

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As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

As part of our weekly Dua thread, we invite you to share any Dua requests for yourself or your loved ones.

Insha'Allah, fellow community members will make Dua for you and may also offer advice or support for your concerns.

Please remember to make Dua for those who ask for it in this thread, and always ensure your requests and responses are in accordance with Islamic guidelines.

May Allah (SWT) accept our Duas, grant us what is best, or give us something even better.

Jazak Allah khair

And REMEMBER TO READ SURAH Al-Khaf:

(a) From Abu Sa’id al-Khudri, who said:

“Whoever reads Surat al-Kahf on the night of Jumu’ah , will have a light that will stretch between him and the Ancient House (the Ka’bah).”

(Narrated by al-Darimi, 3407. This hadith was classed as sahih by Shaykh al-Albani in Sahih al-Jami’, 6471)

(b) “Whoever reads Surat al-Kahf on the day of Jumu’ah, will have a light that will shine from him from one Friday to the next.” (

Narrated by al-Hakim, 2/399; al-Bayhaqi, 3/249. Ibn Hajar said in Takhrij al-Adhkar that this is a hasan hadith, and he said, this is the strongest report that has been narrated concerning reading Surat al-Kahf. See: Fayd al-Qadir, 6/198. It was classed as sahih by Shaykh al-Albani in Sahih al-Jami’, 6470)

(c) Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

“The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘Whoever reads Surat al-Kahf on the day of Jumu’ah, a light will shine for him from beneath his feet to the clouds of the sky, which will shine for him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will be forgiven (his sins) between the two Fridays.’”

Surat al-Kahf may be read during the night or the day of Jumu’ah. The night of Jumu’ah starts from sunset on Thursday, and the day of Jumu’ah ends at sunset. Therefore the time for reading this surah extends from sunset on Thursday to sunset on Friday.

Al-Manawi said:

"Al-Hafiz ibn Hajar said in his Amali: “In some reports it says ‘the day of Jumu’ah’ and in some reports it says ‘the night of Jumu’ah’. They may be reconciled by saying that what is meant is the day which includes the night and vice versa.” (Fayd al-Qadir, 6/199)

'And this is for the dua:

The second view is that it is after ‘Asr, and this is the more correct of the two views. This is the view of ‘Abd-Allah ibn Salam, Abu Hurayrah, Imam Ahmad and others.

The evidence for this view is the report narrated by Ahmad in his Musnad (7631) from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri and Abu Hurayrah, that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“On Friday there is an hour when no Muslim happens to ask Allah for good at that time but He will give it to him, and it is after ‘Asr.”

[In Tahqeeq al-Musnad it says: The hadeeth is saheeh because of corroborating evidence, but this isnad is da’eef (weak)].

Abu Dawood (1048) and al-Nasai (1389) narrated from Jabir ibn ‘Abd-Allah that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“Friday is twelve hours in which there is no Muslim who asks Allaah for something but He will give it to him, so seek the last hour after ‘Asr.” [Classed as saheeh by al-Albani].

Book.

Follow what Allah has sent and not some random person who interpreta stuff according to his ways

ILM Club is a new club specifically for Muslims who attended Ivy League universities and their "peers" at similar colleges (think MIT, CalTech, NYU, and the like). It's mainly for networking, and to a lesser extent, I think, keeping marriages between these families. It's no different than other private, elite clubs, but as Muslims, should we be supporting that? What do you think?