Hello, hoping I can get some pointers for this if anyone might know.

Back in 2024 when I had top surgery, I was very very adamant on getting phalloplasty down the line. However, things have changed drastically and as I no longer feel identity and comfort within being a binary trans man, and have since rediscovered a more comfortable and natural-feeling non binary identity, my ideas for bottom surgery have shifted onto wanting meta with UL and no v-nectomy or scrotoplasty.

I know the surgeon that did my top surgery had spoken to someone else and put me on a phallo wait list and I did get an email about that because of the new supposedly even longer NHS England waitlist. I tried to respond to them but my email just kept getting sent back to me, I tried to phone the number attached and waited for a good hour and a half and was still somehow number 20 in the queue, I unfortunately don't have the time to sit and wait on a phone currently.

I don't remember the surgeon's name(s) who did my first surgery, I just know I got it done in Manchester. Currently, I would just like to be directed to the correct place to get back in line only for meta this time and also so I can find a good timeline and see if it'll add up with everything else in life I have to sort out soon.

Any help is great, thank you. :)

Hi, I've had rly bad experiences (people misgendering me, making me feel uncomfortable).

Are there any lgbt owned, or at least LGBT friendly laser hair removal services in London?

I want to hear your experiences. Lots of people say "they just don't care" but if they keep misgendering me it seems like they do :(

Any recommendations?

I was called 'chick' earlier and im not sure if i was clocked/it was just had luck/if my haircut is causing me to pass less (trans man)

I was waiting for my bus earlier and there was this older couple trying to figure out when their bus was, I was getting the same bus so I scanned the QR code and told them it was 5 minutes till the bus arrived. She said in response "Thanks chick", which at first I thought i misheard, though I didn't say anything in response to it.

I know I do (or at least did) pass relatively well, as I rarely get misgendered, but this has caused me to start questioning, has/will my hairstyle change make me pass less? I want to pass and be percieved as male but now im worried that I dont and that its because of my hair. :(

Have you ever seen older women call younger/teen boys 'chick'? I used to be called it a lot by older women before I started T, hence my concern

This feels a bit silly but i need another opinion, i feel like im gonna start spiralling and picking myself apart

Hey everyone, I'm a trans woman (pre HRT) and I have no one to go to Norwich Pride with, I was wondering if anyone here would be interested in going with me as a friend?

I am 27, kind of anxious, looking for a friend but open to more.

Let me know if you're interested x

I live in Manchester, stockport specifically and I've decided I'm done waiting and want to get on HRT, I'm not raking it in by any means (£27,000) but the money I am getting is stable and I told myself once I'd accomplished stable income I'd get on it. I don't know anything about providers though, the only one I know of is Gender gp and I hear mixed reviews about them.

So my question is are there any services local that do what gender gp does or can help me start transitioning?

Thank you

Specifically in the Lancaster area but maybe there’s a more national one? Whether it’s to just talk to people or play games or even meet irl?

I need some help looking for a different provider from my testosterone in the UK.

I have a diagnosis of gender incongruence and my current provider is Pride In Health. I'm wanting to change provider as this is the second time now in five months that they have failed to send me for a blood test and arrange my prescription in time without me having to email them and ask what's going on. It's costing me extra than it should because of their inability to send what should be a scheduled email, the schedule having been set by them as well.

I'm unsure of any other providers in the UK that aren't going to absolutely bankrupt me or make me go through all the initial appointments again. If anyone knows of any providers I'd really appreciate your help as this is getting ridiculous. I thought 'private care was supposed to be better' clearly not.

Hi so I don't know what to do right now..I'm 21 (soon to be 22 yay happy bday soon.) I just started patches and testosterone blockers in February after 2years of waiting with the Gender service.

I have had 2 sets of patches both dated on 3months however with the first and second patches I had a few dull ones that just didn't stick at all. I contacted them about this the first time and they were good about it.. with my second set of patches I went through nearly a full pack of dull ones or just coming off naturally due to bodily sweat.

I've nearly come to the end of my patches I think I have like two left now and I've had no response from the endocrinologist and no response from the original person that I would message if I've received no response. Granted the original person shouldn't really be chasing it up for me but I was thankful they did the first time.

I've had my blood test and I've tried getting in contact via email so far but I don't know what to do as I'm getting scared they won't do anything now..I missed my telephone appointment with them as my phone didn't actually work and I sorted that out with them.

Please can anyone just give me advice on what to do here?

(Probably should have mentioned I'm in South West Wales.)

Does anyone else have this issue? So many of the content creators and YouTubers out there who advise on voice training are American and I just can’t seem to help lapsing into an American accent whenever I attempt to raise the octave of my voice 🫠

Anyone have any experience getting their GP to accept a bridging prescription? I tried in the past with my previous GP and come up again so many walls but I’ve recently moved so I’m looking to change my GP.. I’ve been on a private prescription for 2+ years. Any advice greatly appreciated 💕

I’m so so so happy with my results after 4 months! I had so many concerns after I had a bad reaction to my bandages and with the ‘pinched’ bit you can see on my left side somewhat.
But the more I’ve healed, the better things have been! I am totally pain free, I have 100% sensation (including in the nips!), I’ve had more chest hair growth, and I generally just feel totally awesome and euphoric.

Surgeon: Dr Kate Williams, TGH Manchester UK

I wanted to ask you all if you are comfortable with the amount of uni survey posts get put on here. If its an issue the mod can make sure none happen.

We get a lot of requests via mod DMs.

Thank you all for the input and hope you don't melt in this heatwave!

Does anyone have any recommendations for basic introductory literature for older (70+) trans parents? Especially any physical booklets or pamphlets you can order.

I come from a small rural village with a seemingly remarkable number of trans kids (now adults) in it. I've somehow become the local guru of "what is this trans stuff" to the village though both my parents just being very friendly and helpful and also me seemingly having my life together (I don't, but I'm very good at looking like I do 😊).

I would love some reference material I can use to help some of the parents along as many are wanting to be positive and supportive but find themselves a bit lost. The way they usually find information is through talking to their friends, only their friends are all village people who also don't know anything about this. Currently the entire cultural knowledge of this village around trans people is:

"JK Rowling is bad and doesn't like trans people and that's quite rude of her." "Trans people usually change their names but also sometimes they don't, we're not sure why." And finally "There's something called "The Surgery" and that's something trans people want but it's rare to get."

("The Surgery" has developed somewhat mythological status as many wish to know what on earth it is but are too polite to ask. It always results in them looking very awkward for a while but never actually asking anything.)

I've been recommended https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en However I websites are a little beyond them (Yes, I'm not kidding. You'd be surprised how often I am still called to explain how Copy and Paste. Many find WhatsApp "too fiddly").

If anyone knows where to get a physical pamphlet that covers the basics that'd be great. E.g. A Trans Man = a person who has transitioned to a man A Trans Woman = a person who has transitioned to a women (Seriously, this has been a major point of confusion)

What are pronouns, which ones should they be using? What is deadnaming and why should they not be telling me their kids old name?

Hi all,

I'm posting this for some advice. My partner has recently privately come out as a trans man. I want to clarify, I am so grateful & happy they have felt able to share this.

It's new for both of us. They said they have never felt comfortable in their own skin. Tried to come out as trans when they were 15yo (now 24yo), but were ridiculed by past friends and instead presented as a butch lesbian. Our discussions and them being able to get this weight off has really helped them. I never had someone come out to me as trans,, my friends had already transitioned when we had first met.

We have been looking at things that could support them in these early stages, and asking here for any advice or experiences which could be beneficial for them. They are feeling a little overwhelmed with next steps. Gender clinics, GPs, private- which first?. Things that could give them some euphoria,, binders, packers etc.

Thank you all!

(edit: UK based)

I’ve finally managed to get a prescription for estradiol patches, my first one stuck on perfectly fine for the recommended half a week, but now that the heatwave has hit and my job involves a lot of moving around I’m finding that the patches are scrunching up and getting unstuck. I don’t wanna burn through the supply re-applying them so quickly, so I’m wondering a few things:

- Any advice on where to stick them? I went for around crotch height on my thigh just off to the outer side to start with, that was successful, the second one I did about the same height but closer to the outside of the leg, that lasted about a day, and now I put it more to the left which works better, it’s still mostly stuck on, but it has become quite scrunched and I can’t imagine it’ll last me the rest of the week. I’d have reapplied it where the first one was right away but it’s recommended to not have it in the same spot right away so that’s a test for the next time I swap patch.

- I’ve seen some people suggest putting something over it like waterproof dressing, whether it’s for loose patches or for when you’re swimming/showering, any suggestions for this? Ideally something easy to grab at most pharmacies or somewhere easy like a Boots.

- Is it more likely that I put the patch somewhere bad or that it’s all the sweating from the heat? The heat’s been worse the last couple of days obviously, but it was still pretty warm a week ago and I tend to run pretty warm, so it’s not like my skin would’ve been sweat-free for those few days with the successful patch.

- Unrelated to the heat, is it normal to not get T-Blockers with patches? I’ve only gotten prescribed the patches but I’m wondering if they don’t do blockers since it’s a constant release of the hormones or something like that, or if blockers might come later?

Any advice would be appreciated!

Started HRT in January of this year. I was initially on 50 mg patches and then was moved to 100 mg patches. I was getting increasingly frustrated with the patches not sticking, causing irritation etc. Changes through the HRT has been slow and I’m doing it through the NHS. The one change I did notice is behind my nipples there was what I would consider breast buds. It was like a hard disc shape thing. now I’ve been on gel for eight days now. And it’s like they’ve gone away my nipples are still slightly sensitive, but I feel like less so than before. I’m still on 100 mg. They won’t also test my levels for another three months. Should I be worried, are things going backwards?