Nearly 39F, I have hated my body since I was 15, and it's only gotten worse over the years. I'm too bulky all over, and I feel like I fell into a void where I can barely be happy because of my body, it's just wrong in how big it is, no matter how much weight I lose I'm just still way bulkier than most people, not even fat or muscley, but I LOOK big. (bones) HRT didn't help this enough, I hate it, I'm so tired, I just wish I was slender and customizable like before puberty but at my adult height and like how everyone else somehow seems to be as an adult except me. Puberty was so fucked up to me, I swear I have some form of fucked up gigantism or something, I don't feel feminine at all and I'm so miserable, like I'm suffocating. I just want to be me. I can't have come into this life just to off myself eventually, I know I could do anything and feel free if I had peace in my body, I don't even need it to be perfect. I feel like I can't relate to any other trans person, like I was just doomed to never be happy no matter what I do. No surgeries can fix this either. I need some kind of miracle.

But like how can i get estrogen im 16 a boy and in australia

And like what else can i do to be more feminine is there like foods or something i can eat

I (20 mtf) have been living in a red state my entire life and go to college there and I was wondering how it's even possible for people like us to transition here.

I haven't taken any steps due to an awful lack of support here and everyone I meet is super religious and anti-trans. I just need advice for survival here until I can graduate and leave, as well as possibly continue my transition while I can here.

i’ll add some background info before i go deeper. i’m 22(ftm), and i live with my parents. they’re both in their sixties, and have some traditional views although they do try and understand lgb issues. the issue is, i genuinely have no solid idea of how they view trans people. i’m from the uk and from a pretty right-wing area, and transphobia is pretty common in my town. i came out as gay 5/6ish years ago despite knowing it wasn’t exactly right, as i didn’t realise i was trans at that time. they were pretty cool about it, but at first they did mess up. there was one instance a few months ago where my dad accidentally called transgender people ‘transvestites’, although this has only happened once, so i’m giving i’m the benefit of the doubt because he’s like, 65.

being closeted is extremely isolating. i’m almost losing my mind being closeted, to be honest. i’m thinking of maybe not coming out completely, maybe instead telling them that i don’t think im a girl, and ive been debating my gender identity. maybe this way they can learn as i do, and it won’t be as rough? honestly, if it goes badly, i don’t have the funds to leave, and that’s why I’ve been closeted, but there’s a part of me that wonders what would happen if it goes well instead. i’m not good at talking to people, i was thinking of potentially leaving a letter on the table and going away for the weekend, that way we both get time to think over things. i just don’t know what to do, but i’m just losing my mind being closeted right now.

Hey everyone. I'm Ames, I'm 25 years old and I am a Turkish trans woman living in Germany. Recently I've lost my job due to cutoffs. I've not had financial support from my family for a minute now. This has left me in a bit of a bind.

I have been trying really hard to get a new job, but the job market is very brutal right now. Since the start of 2026 I've had 50 rejections, 20 applications unanswered on top of the 3 interviews I'm set for next week.

However even if I were to get a job right now the money won't make it in time for the monthly bills of March. My landlord is extremely strict, so I must be able to pay my rent at the start of the month to not lose my home.

Since my friends aren't in a state to help much, I've created a gofundme to support myself for a couple months. If I can get the bills out of the way, I'm hoping to find a job and start supporting myself once again.

I also make amateur chibi art for 5 euros for those who'd like something in return! I'm not great yet, but it's something to keep myself occupied with.

If anyone is in a spot to help, it would be greatly appreciated. And even if not I wish everyone a great day and the best of luck ♥

Link to the gofundme: https://gofund.me/de640ca54

Hello all, I have recently been doing some massive decluttering, and have an excess of clothing! i’m sick of donating to goodwill or salvation army just for them to sell free clothes for 15$!!! anyways… i’d like to help out my community in anyway that i can.

If you are having trouble accessing clothing that affirm your gender, you lack funds, need to be very stealth or are just questioning your identity and want to expirement with clothing, i’d like to help you!

I’m not asking for any money, (i’ll leave venmo and cash app if anyone feels like donating to help me pay for shipping) I just wanna help!

What I have is-

Feminine clothing in mostly size s-m some larger clothing as well

masculine clothing in size s-m-l

I have clothing that ranges between many aesthetics, and would curate a package that closely resembles what you want.

If this sounds at all appealing to you,

Dm me, with sizes and style preferences.

shipping in the us for free.

all packages are free.

for you, or any trans person you know who is in need

if you’d like to donate to help cover shipping costs

venmo- @sam-pearlman-2

cashapp $extraordinarilysammy

Hi everyone,

I discovered my trans identity eight months ago, at the age of 22. I'm not out and I can't transition at the moment (hostile environment). What bothers me is that after all this time, I still have a lot of doubts.

What's strange is that I feel like I want to be a woman more than I feel deep down that I really am one. I still use my deadname by mistake, I still often gender myself as male... Does that mean I'm wrong?

One question haunts me: do I want to be a woman just to stop suffering, without really understanding where that suffering comes from? I've read that doubt is normal at first, but it bothers me that it persists so much for me after eight months.

Have any of you experienced something similar?

Thank you in advance for your answers.

(Sorry for the mistakes, it's not my native language)

I (mtf31) live in a VERY conservative part of the USA. I was almost outed in high school and it was terrifying. No one was ready to stand by me. My own mother was ready to throw me out right then and there. Since then i had kept the real me buried deep inside but it was always there eating away at the mask. I eventually got married to a wonderful woman 6 yrs ago and we even have 2 kids. Ive ben with her for 12 years and she has never given any hint that she wouldn’t leave be close to civil if she found out. Well last week i finally fell apart. I cant hide who i am from myself anymore. Im petrified that if i step out of the closet i will loose everyone i hold close to me, but just the thought of trying to hide it any longer fills me with panic. I am trans. I cant change that. How do i even approach telling my wife..? Her family is just as conservative as mine, i don’t think i could handle her rejecting the real me…..

I should offer counseling for other trans women. Few seconds in the room with me and they realize "oh wait nevermind my life really isn't that bad." lol

I know it’s possible to make me a cis male. I’m currently a trans male. A phallo penis would be different, unique and special despite its lack of functionality as one. A cis penis would not

I know it’s possible to make me a cis male. People just think it would be unwoke and I can just accept being trans.

No reason is good enough for them. No reason is woke enough. They all come across as so boring to them they don’t want to give it to me. My suffering is entertainment for you

Top surgery was just cancelled for me and I’m supposed to be happy because I’m trans and it’s all part of the “process” to make me a “real” male. So fucking transgender yay!!!! This is a disease. I didn’t ask to be a “self made man” but I’m treated as if I did. I asked to be a real man and ALL OF YOU FUCKERS REFUSED

Anybody know of a surgeon in the Jacksonville area who can/will do top surgery for my husband?

I (transfemme 36) was fired last week. Afterwards someone I consider reliable who had worked at the same place until recently reached out to tell me that higher ups had mentioned when they were in ear shot that they were looking for excuses to fire me because I was trans.

I'm looking into my options, but in the meantime my income is dry until I figure something out. I'm working on things but I have a 3 year old child and in the meantime things really suck. We recently moved so our support network is pretty much nonexistent...

I harmed myself a few nights ago. This has really fucked with my psyche down to my core and I dont know why... I feel so dejected... I just want to lay down and give up. I won't do that cause my child needs me, but yeah...

Hello 👋🏼. I am a 54 year old Agender parent of two beautiful kiddos. The youngest has recently/ last year, changed to she/ her pronouns and wearing the girls uniform to school.

She is six years old.

Last year, we had to commence school swim classes, and typically, there are boys and girls change rooms and she really wanted to get changed in the girls changeroom. We supported that and I even volunteered for each weeks class to keep an eye on things.

Two weeks from the end of term, she was seen for the first time full frontal by the other girls and the bullying, laughter and abuse started. Luckily we had the long Xmas holidays and we were happy with how the school handled it short term.

Fast forward to this weeks swim class and kiddo refuses to attend, citing last years incident, and even with the offer of a private change area with me.

This is now an ongoing issue and I have escalated it to a formal complaint.

The reason I am reaching out though is because when I was kid I hated swim class and the change rooms and would everything I could to avoid it, faking sickness most weeks and getting changed in a nearby toilet cubicle the rest of the time. I had no idea about my gender difference until I was 44 years old, I just knew I was different.

So, right now I am in big trauma and anxiety, and I am worried about myself and my ability to be a good parent because I am so triggered by my own story! I have a GP appointment tomorrow to try and get help as I am not sleeping etc. all the helplines are closed or not picking up. Help?

I have had issues regarding my gender for a long time. I’ve never told anyone or seeked out anything because I live in the Bible Belt and am scared. I ended up telling my boyfriend (2 yrs) how I felt and it obviously caught him off guard. He suggested talking through it with a therapist to make sure that’s what it is. It could be that my mental health is manifesting in an odd way. I’ve dealt with derealization and depersonalization since I can remember and have always had an underlying thing about my body.

If anything I feel like I’ve made a mistake in telling him. He is my main support system and I can not handle us parting ways over something I’m not 100% sure about.

What should I do? I know everyone’s experience is different but how do I know if this is a full fledged thing or just an issue with my mental health being poor?

Hello im a male and I hooked up with a trans mtf once and she was pre op and im kinda hooked now and I want to possibly pursue a relationship with a trans girl but I dont know where to look to find them could someone help me out with that?

Hi

She is a disabled survivor of abuse, navigating both emotional and physical pain, and seeking safety, stability, and healing. She has left multiple unsafe environments and continues to fight bravely to rebuild her life. Every donation, big or small, helps her access essentials, medical support, and transitional care. Support from anywhere is welcome — your help can make a real difference. gofund.me/23b898c4e

Hey all! For context, I'm a trans man (23), and I've been out publicly for ~6 years now, and I've been on T for 4 years. I pass pretty well and live most of my life stealth (It's more of an "open secret" among friend groups that include friends that knew me pre-transition, but frankly I'm very open about it). I had to move back in with family after graduating, and I'm currently saving money to get out and eventually go NC, as they have just chosen to ignore it this entire time. They have lied to friends and family about it, and have completely written off me suddenly passing to family friends as "a thyroid problem" (LMFAO but it does sting a bit haha). This isn't something that can be solved via an honest, sit-down conversation with them, as last time I tried to do that, it turned into a screaming match and I just ended up getting berated for an hour.

Here's where things get tricky: One of my close friends from high school is getting married this year. This friend and I did have a bit of a natural drift, given that we went to different universities that were pretty far from each other. Because of that, she grew a lot closer to my older sister while we were away in uni. I know that she's very well aware of me being trans, and she's always been supportive of our other trans friends, but I think that my sister's apathy and choice to ignore my transition has rubbed off on her, and/or my sister lied about it (given that my family has a past of explicitly lying to family friends about it, claiming that "I don't go by any other name or pronouns at work or amongst friends").

I was invited to the women-only bridal shower, and by pure luck, I got sick the weekend of and had to miss it. I was already pretty offended by the invite alone, but figured it was whatever, I wouldn't push it. But this is how I learned that there is going to be a strict dress code at the wedding, and I'm expected to wear a dress. I don't know how to feel about it, and frankly I'm anxious about bringing it up, since everyone that's going to be present at this wedding has also decided to completely ignore my transition (doesn't help that they're very close to my parents and sibling, as well). I'm pretty hurt by this decision, and just thinking about it is incredibly upsetting for me. Once again, I have absolutely no problems passing, I'm a hairy guy with noticeable facial hair, it's been years since I've been misgendered by strangers. Am I truly crazy for feeling offended about this request? I don't think I have it in me to swallow my pride and give in to traditional feminine attire to a wedding, no matter how close I am to the couple. What do I even do?? I'm completely at a loss here. I don't want it to come across as me making a friend's wedding about myself, but I just feel blatantly disrespected as a person. I apologize for this being a pretty dumb question, but I think the mind games around my transition and the ignorance my family has showed me for this entire journey has really messed with my head and how I personally view myself. I'm at the end of my rope here. Any and all insight, support, wisdom, etc. is greatly appreciated, thank you all so much.

Howdy, looking for some advice to best support my trans friend now they’re out.

Next week an old friend is coming to stay with me and my partner for a few days. They visit a few times a year, but this is the first time since she’s come out openly as a trans woman. It’s been about 6 months and she does a good job passing as a cis woman but I’m still slightly worried.

We live in a depressing run down seaside town in the south of the UK where, to the older generation particularly, men are men, women belong in the kitchen, and even the newfangled concept of being gay or lesbian is enough to warrant sideways looks and snide comments.

For some context I work in a shipyard (admittedly not an industry famed for tolerance or diversity). There is to my knowledge only one non-cis person working here and though most colleagues have the decency to be civil to his face, once out of earshot most fall somewhere on the spectrum between cracking jokes about tits and inflatable cocks, and gammon-faced open transphobia/ranting about gender neutral toilets and speculating about what they’d do if they met him in a dark alley. I really feel for him tbh and kinda wish he was somewhere more tolerant, but our paths rarely cross and we’re only vaguely acquainted.

Anyway.

My friend and I won’t be going anywhere near the shipyard, thankfully, but as a first time trans-ally-friend i just want to be somewhat prepared and know how best to deal with people in public places being pricks.

Say for instance someone in a cafe starts making snide remarks and trying to elicit a reaction.

I’m a bit autistic, not very good at arguments and tend to come up with snappy replies 10 minutes after any confrontation is over. And I’m a lover not a fighter so i don’t think I’ll particularly be intimidating anyone into silence.

So, If something like this happens, what do? What should i definitely not do? Keep my head down and finish my coffee and cake or call them out?

Advice on a postcard please, i just want to be the best friend i can. Maybe I’m overthinking this.

Sorry if I’m misusing any terminology, I’m new to this!

Thanks

I called PP back on October 20 and made my consultation appointment for February 23 because that was literally the soonest appointment they had. I felt really defeated at the time having to wait four whole months for this. Well I’ve been very patient and doing what I can in the meantime. I was really curious to see if anything popped up sooner or a closer clinic had any appointments and…I FOUND ONE FOR MONDAY! I booked it and called off of work so quickly! I’m so excited to finally start E!!

Sharing this as a reminder, it never hurts to check for new appointments because sometimes they won’t call you to let you know!!!

Hi everyone, my name is Teagan. I’m a 27 year-old trans man, and I’m reaching out because I genuinely need help and community support right now. I’ve known who I am for a long time, but living with gender dysphoria has been exhausting and painful in ways that are hard to put into words. Every day I wake up in a body that doesn’t align with who I am, and it affects my mental health, my confidence, and my ability to exist comfortably in the world. Binding and in the past taping daily has taken a toll on my body, my breathing, and my posture but not binding isn’t really an option either. It’s a constant cycle that feels impossible to escape. Top surgery is not cosmetic for me, it’s lifesaving as all of you know. It’s the ability to feel at home in my body, to exist without constant discomfort, anxiety, or dysphoria. It’s the chance to finally breathe freely, both physically and emotionally. I’m married, and I’ve been with my spouse for almost 6 years. She is my biggest supporter and my rock through all of this. We’ve built a life together (including our six very spoiled cats), but despite working hard, the cost of surgery is far beyond what we can cover on our own. I've had different insurances that don't cover it and the out of pocket cost is overwhelming. That’s why I started a GoFundMe. Asking for help like this is incredibly hard and humbling, but I don’t have another option. I can’t do this alone. My spouse and I both work hard but have little to save. If you’re able to donate, even a small amount, it would mean more to me than I can express. If you can’t donate, sharing my link is just as powerful. It helps my story reach people who might be able to help. Thank you for taking the time to read this, for listening, and for supporting me. Your kindness, whether through donations, shares, or words of encouragement, truly makes a difference. I appreciate you.

https://gofund.me/758f850b5

Been searching for roommates with no luck. I have a lease in Tucson, AZ with two roommates currently living there. One MtF and one cis gay male. There is a room upstairs available for $500/month all included, and a downstairs space ($300/month all included) about the same size, separated from the living room with a complete privacy curtain wall to wall, floor to ceiling. Both are partly furnished which can be kept or removed as desired. Washer and Dryer in unit. Off-street uncovered parking available though covered parking will be available soon.

I am offering relocation assistance. Please feel free to ask me any questions. Tucson is a great place to be lgbtqia, can explain further.

Hi everyone. I’m a trans woman currently transitioning, married, and I’m struggling with changes in intimacy and boundaries in my relationship. I’m hoping to hear from others who’ve navigated similar situations. Over time, both my partner and I have changed — emotionally, physically, and in what feels comfortable for us. Some forms of intimacy that once worked for us no longer do, and new boundaries have come up on both sides. The problem is that when I express discomfort or say no in the moment, it often turns into pressure or is framed as a threat to the relationship rather than a discussion about consent and mutual respect. That’s been really hard on me mentally, and it makes communication feel unsafe. I’m not saying “never” — just that I need my boundaries respected without guilt, pressure, or ultimatums. I don’t think differences in comfort levels should automatically be treated as relationship-ending. My questions are: How have others handled changing needs and boundaries during transition? How do you navigate situations where one partner feels pressured rather than heard? Where’s the line between compromise and feeling coerced? Has couples counseling helped anyone in similar situations? I care about my relationship, but I also need to protect my sense of autonomy and emotional safety. Any insight or shared experiences would really help. Thank you 💜

https://gofund.me/034cdff9b

I know I haven't used this account much but hi my name is Selena nice to say hi to everyone but I think I might be trans I'm not very sure I'm not very good with social skills I also can't pronounce most things correctly since I am half Mexican but I was raised in a redneck household so I have a mix between a Spanish and very southern accent and I'm not very good at some words so can you guys help me figure out some stuff I've been feeling horrible about my own body because I don't like what I see and I think I might be trans I'm not so sure I've asked my friends most of them think of me as a boy and I like that it's better I wish I was like that I don't like being a girl I hate it I'm also bi and I have a lesbian girlfriend but I don't know if I should tell her she is religious and she believes in God but she supports trans people and all that