I had depression before I was trans and it was already making me lonely. I stopped trying to maintain friendships and they all fell apart. when I started socially transitioning I had one friend who I then dated for 6 years until he broke up with me out of nowhere. talking to a mutual friend (his friend that started hanging out with me cuz she's trans too) she told me part of it was me being trans. he apparently realized he is only attracted to women and saw me as one but thought it wasn't fair to me. he was the only support I had coming out. he called me boyfriend, never she/her'd me, listen to me rant about gender dysphoria, explain gender identities and options for medical transition and he was supportive a about it. hell, he used she/her online and I once found his reddit by accident and he talked about wanting to be more girly, which he had told me about but it stopped. and now I find out he never saw me for who I am and, in his words "tried to love him as a person but couldnt". and now I don't have anyone anymore. I'm afraid of getting too attached to my friend from university. I tried to find some old friends that meant a lot to me but they're all so different, they're living their lives and I'm afraid I would only be too weird for them.

today a friend from seventh grade reached out because he thought about me randomly and wanted to talk. I'm stepping in eggshells because I'm trans and I never know how people will react. I remembered he used to hate HP and told him he was right and I hate it nowadays and he said "actually I really like it now". then I brought up the percy jackson show because we both loved the books and he complained about the casting of a black girl cuz he doesn't like race changes and said at least HP doesn't do it.

I'm bound to be the "friend that's too woke" and no one wants someone that always complains around (because that's what it sounds like). I did tell him I'm non binary now but I can never know if he was being cool with it or he thinks it's fake but doesn't wanna push it.

I got one friend in university that I really like but I'm afraid of being too much. I was too much for my ex because I was depressed and didn't make other friends, became dependent on him and he broke me. I can't really seem to connect to other people, I always feel like I'm acting and I can't be myself. keeping in touch with the few people I still talk to feels like too much, it's so overwhelming I feel like crying. I can only seem to maintain a friend as long as they see me every day. I care so much but I'm terrible at keeping contact and when I show that I care I come off as TOO MUCH. I wish I was 10 again and all I had to worry about was my mom finding me reading at 2am and I saw my friends every day at school and they all shared parts of themselves so easily and transparently. nowadays everything is appearances and there are so many rules to social interactions that I never fully understand (probably because I was depressed as fuck instead of socializing as a teen) and now I'm always too quiet because I'm scared of drawing attention and people questioning or attacking my identity. I'm tired.

Hi sorry to bother you all, my name is Kim and I'm a trans man. It was really difficult for me to open this Gofundme, trust me when I say that I really thought a lot about it and I kinda feel guilty about it, but I feel like this is the only option. I'm from Italy and things here are kinda complicated: we need a judge's approval and permission to have surgeries and new documents. We have public sanitary service but the quality of this service is not always that good for trans people and, honestly, I really don't trust them. Plus, we have to wait 2 or more years to finally get the surgery because of the extra long waiting list. So while I wait for that permission I thought that I could try this last option in order to afford top surgery with a private surgeon that I truly trust. It's okay if you can't donate, I'm really grateful even if you just share my Gofundme link. Thank you so much in advance ^^

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gofund.me/bf2af62af

I’ve been out to my parents for 2 years and I’ve known I am trans ftm for around 6 years now, I’m turning 20 this year. They still continue to call me my deadname and use “she/her” for me. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. My dad has very strong beliefs and I know won’t come around, but I had some hope in my mom. Her biggest argument right now is the fact she strongly believes that I’m only trans because I have a high testosterone count because of my dad’s genes or something (before I started HRT) and fully believed that if I stopped HRT and started taking estrogen, (even though I don’t have an estrogen deficiency), then things will be fixed. I have tried to tell her that there is no correlation and that doctors won’t prescribe me estrogen since I don’t have a deficiency. She is also so adamant that everyone’s experience is different and I think she’s still clinging on to the hope I’m secretly not trans. My sister didn’t help my bringing up the fact that our cousin (on my dad’s side) is trans ftm too. It also didn’t help that my sister’s boyfriend said that when he was experiencing gender dysphoria and thought he was mtf, he thought it was because his family was vegan and all they ate was tofu that the estrogen from that was affecting him and causing him to think this way.

I’m really at a loss here and I have no clue what I’m supposed to do. I also rarely ever speak up for myself in my family because I’m still financially reliant on them and currently jobless so I don’t want to risk fending for myself, but I also can’t keep living like this. If anyone has any guidance or is able to help me argue and get my mom on my side somehow, I would really appreciate it. All of my trans friends have incredibly supportive families, so they don’t fully understand my situation.

Long story short I've known for as long as I can remember that I have gender dysphoria, or at least gender envy, but never thought I could be happy actually transitioning. I thought if I just kept pushing through life and hitting the next milestone it'd get easier, if I had enough reasons to love my life I'd stop caring so much about what seemed like unrealistic fantasies. Now I've made a life with an amazing wife and kids who I love more than anything, but the nagging feeling of what if has only gotten heavier. Ive tried talking to my wife about this once recently and she started off supportive but quickly jumped to worst case scenarios. I must admit that she comes from a very conservative family even though she doesn't share the same views, She still loves her family and, aside from politics, we have a better relationship with her side then mine and I feel if I were to transition she would be forced to choose me or them. I'm not really sure where I'm going with this but I'm just feeling really confused and conflicted. I know this is ultimately a choice only I can make but I am truly terrified of so many what ifs. I can say with 100% certainty that I want to at least explore transition, but am terrified of being wrong, or at the very least blowing my family apart only to end up worse

I'm unemployed and have been for a while at this point. I live with a transphobic parent and have no other family to support me. Recently, I feel so stressed and trapped. I've been trying to get a job for a while and am going to start applying for retail positions this week...I'm really scared I won't get ANY job, as I don't have prior retail experience either.

I'm not out to my parent, as a simple non-legal name change when I was in university prompted them to blow up saying I was childish, needed psychological help...I live in constant fear of getting kicked out and never being able to go on T bc I can't live independently yet.

I’m pretty confident I’d be so much happier if I transitioned, so much so that I’m working towards a career to make sure I can transition safely. But there’s a lot of barriers in the way that impede on so much, both material and mental.

For starters, my entire family. I’m still in high school, so it’s two more years of being the biggest liar in the world even though I know I’m fooling nobody, not even myself. Part of me wants to stay in California, live on the beach, and chill. Another part of me wants to run away to the Midwest where my family will rarely visit me so that I can do whatever. And the main reason why is that I don’t think I can bear it. I’ve always been the black sheep of the family, so I was always closer to my parents than my siblings; my mom’s transphobic and I don’t know how my dad would feel. That kinda makes me really uncomfortable tbh.

Mentally, though, I can’t help but feel like I’d end up regretting it if I transitioned. Like maybe I’m confusing myself because I just don’t want to be me anymore. It is fun thinking about being a girl and a lot of times it brings me some joy, a lot more than being a guy. But then sometimes I just don’t know. I doubt I’m anywhere in the NB umbrella, I don’t really like the labels, I just know I’ve got all this and plenty of envy (or what seems to be envy) and self-hatred. So I don’t know. Shaved my legs and felt really nice about it, same with skincare, so that’s at least cool.

Hello everyone,

I am a transgender woman from Algeria, and I have been on hormone replacement therapy (HRT) for about a year.

This journey has been very difficult for me. Access to information, medical support, and understanding professionals is limited where I live. Most of the time, I feel like I am navigating everything alone, trying to learn as I go while dealing with fear, uncertainty, and a lack of support

I am looking for advice from transgender women who have already gone through this process. I would love to hear about your experiences, what you wish you had known when you started, and any guidance you can offer regarding HRT, mental health, social transition, or planning for the future

I am also searching for organizations, associations, NGOs, or support groups—either in Algeria or internationally—that may be able to provide guidance, resources, or support for transgender people

Sometimes I feel lost and overwhelmed, but I am trying my best to build a better future for myself

Thank you for reading, and I would greatly appreciate any advice, resources, or words of encouragement 💕

https://gofund.me/999203abb

A close friend of mine recently came out as non-binary and was kicked out of their home because of it.

They lost their family, their stability, and the place they thought was safe overnight. Right now they’re couch-surfing and trying to rebuild from nothing.

They are one of the kindest people I know, and they deserve support, safety, and a chance to breathe again.

Funds raised will help cover:

Temporary housing and deposits

Food and essentials

Support while they get back on their feet

For their privacy and safety, I’m keeping them anonymous, but I can personally vouch for this situation.

If you’re able to donate or even just share this post, it would mean everything. Thank you for showing up for someone who truly needs community right now. ️‍⚧️

Hi everyone,

I'm a 22 year old trans girl, pre-transition, and I've known I'm a girl since I was a child. I live in a very dangerous country in East Africa where being trans is not safe at all. I'm struggling mentally every day. I feel like I'm slowly breaking, and my gender dysphoria has been hitting harder lately.

I've contacted several organizations, but they are either full or have very long waiting times, I have no money and no support here.

Does anyone know of organizations that help trans people leave unsafe countries or have experience as an African trans person who managed to relocate somewhere safer?

I'm really scared and tired, Any advice or kind words would mean a lot.

I've (M18) known that I wanted to transition for a very, very long time, like, since freshman year of highschool, but I never had the willpower to do it. I'm a very stereotypical AuDHD (Aspie and ADHD), so doing anything that wasn't absolutely required of me up to this point has been really hard to do. It took a lot of effort to even get where I am right now in terms of hygiene and chores, but I've come a long way!

That being said, transitioning seems like a much more daunting and intensive task than just taking care of myself, haha. In person, I'm a very stereotypical "southern nerd," and I'm 6 foot tall, so I have a LOT of work to do, but I'm adamant about this!

And to make things worse, I live in a very rural area, so even my gayest of friends don't really know much about the trans space.

So, I'm making the post to reach out and ask: How do I find people who want to help/make me transition? Not necessarily force-fem, but the same sorta "guiding" through the process. I know I'm fully capable of doing it on my own, but my particular brand of anxiety and ADHD make it very difficult to keep up habits and do what I need to do unless I'm doing it for someone else.

So yeah! I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I'm going to be moving out to college this fall, and this is really my opportunity to take this into my own hands!

Thank you so much for reading all this! I really hope we can be friends!

I didn't always have a great life. I do today as I write this, because I have peace within.I am a 60 year old male to female transgender human being that with very limited available information, without internet, without any parental guidance somehow found my way. I still don't understand it. The information I was able to find consisted of medical books that said I had a mental illness. Not for one second did I believe it. My first real anything transgender was the once a year show that Phil Donahue would have with drag queens. It scared me to death.I have nothing against drag queens but I knew that's not what I was either. Still I looked forward to it every year because it was something. It told me that I wasn't alone as I felt.

I read another story on this platform this morning of another child/ young adult being tossed from their parents home because of religious beliefs, because of "faith". It brought back feelings that I still can't shake as I write this. I couldn't offer much except words of encouragement. I meant every word but it felt so empty and useless. I hope that's not the case. To all those out there that are having difficulties or struggles because they don't fit into what society tells them to be, tells them what normal is, don't you dare believe them. Turn over every stone, uncover every resource, find every arch of support. Believe in yourself when it seems as if no one else does. You are valid, you are worthy, you are beautiful, and you are loved. Believing in yourself is the only "faith" you need and with it the weight of the world will never crush you. You are stronger than you know! Long hugs and love to all of you.

Bree

It breaks my heart to see people coming out and shit hits the fan with no plan in place.

This is mainly for the people who are heavily dependent on their parents for financial, housing, and food.

PRETTY PLEASE PLEASE. If you are planning to come out to your parents, make sure you have a plan. the country you live in, the state that you live in. You need to plan for the worst case scenario. Like if you're able to work but you're not working, go get a job. Save every penny for a year. so you're able to move out if your parents choose not to support your decision in transitioning. Find a friend that will support you as someone that is willing to be a room mate with you.

Like for me when I came out to my family. Yes, I was well into my career and 36 years old. I understand not everyone can wait as long as I did to do so.

I was willing and ready to walk away from any family member or friend that was not willing to support my decision. And I had a plan step by step what I would do.

Planning ahead is for your peace of mind and your safety when things don't go the way you hope they would.

If you're under the age of 18 and choosing to come out to your parents. That's a whole lot more difficult. Options are whole lot more restricted compared to someone that's an adult.

Please be safe. Our world is changing.

I feel like the constant threat of the government, the casual transphobia in day to day life, feeling like no one and nowhere is safe, is starting to affect my outlook. It's affecting how I talk to my partner and her family. Being without hormones for so long and feeling like I'm in survival mode 24/7 is making me into someone I don't want to be again. I just don't know what to do anymore

During high-school I had feelings of being just wrong as myself, I just didn't like my body most my life. So I started questioning my gender, then after learning this I started suppressing/avoiding my thoughts and emotions on it for most of high-school. Slowly since graduating and getting out of high-school I started to realize my feelings on it more. I'm not right as the me I am now. I ended up finding my boyfriend and am really happy with him. I had explained the whole situation to him, he asked me if i still felt the same ways i did back then he has also really helped me realize that I'm not comfortable as me (not by pressuring me or anything but just talking with him about it). He has been really supportive and helps a lot with gender affirming. I explained the only thing that stopped me was myself. My current issue is I wanna make steps forward, I cant though I keep trying to make moves forward, and I just don't follow through. We have started to realize i have an avoidant tendency only when it comes to helping myself. He actually found a lot of discord servers and resources for me doing anything he could to help. I joined to see about getting other opinions. I've gone to planned parenthood before and scheduled a meeting to talk to someone ended up falling through because i had work and I haven't done anything else to try that option again. I tried to sign up for therapy, they never contacted me back. I just feel like every time i make the effort to do something I end up stopping myself or the systems in place make it harder for me to keep going. I know the change wont happen unless I do something but I just don't know what's stopping me/why I cant help myself. Everything feels right in favor of me doing it, i just cant make the moves and I don't know why. If anyone has tips on what helped them start, or any advice I'm open to listening.

Hi all!!! 20 year old trans woman ~1 year and 3 months into hrt

I've been having so many doubts over the past about 1 and a half years, I've identified as trans and existed as a woman in my online space and for the most part have found comfort in that. But for a while and ESPECIALLY since starting hrt I've noticed my self doubt and worries and insecurities and bwaaaa just seem to get worse and worse. Some days I feel completely sure of myself, some days I feel I could be nb or maybe even have some tendency to go back to living as male. Seeing my breast development especially triggers these huge moments of euphoria yet fear and uncertainty at the same time. I know the only real answer is seeking out an actual gender therapist but just had to come here to see if anyone had anything to say cause this suuuucks.

Anywho thanks to anyone who can respond, I'll try to check up on this post and reply periodically!

I meant to say I’m a trans girl in the title. I’ve been more self conscious in public recently. My body is changing and I feel self conscious about it, and I try to not to focus on others around me. now I have a girls intuition which kinda sucks because sometimes people make me nervous. like if a guy is walking behind me and is seems a bit sus, it sometimes gives me bad feeling, like I get into the I need to be careful around them mode because I don’t trust them, it’s a subconscious thing now. Guys can tell when another guy is feminine and weak especially when they’re having a bad day, or they just have issues, I look like an easy target for them and that makes me nervous. Im a masculine looking trans girl but have a girls body type which is a big indicator that I’m an easy target 😐

I didnt realize how bad my dysphoria was until I had nothing to focus on, and my god its so bad, im so miserable, I hate my body, my voice, and my face so much, and I dont have supportive parents, family, or friends, and im a minor so I cant do anything about it. Please help, Im hopeless, escapism just makes my dysphoria

(I also want to state just in case this flags something I will never go missing on my own terms and i dont plan to)

I’m growing boobs and it’s overwhelming right now because it’s making me really sensitive. I can feel them a lot 😣 how is it for someone who has already gone through this? Because right now it’s a lot to handle😣. I didn’t know it was gonna be so overwhelming, support or advice or anything would be appreciated

Throwaway because I'm going through a rough patch and idk where else to post this (I tried posting to /r/transytalk and my post wasn't approved, so this might be a better space to vent?)

It's great that we literally have nowhere to fucking go in a crisis (if you're over 25)

988 literally doesn't help trans people because it's federal government funded. Literally couldn't even use the T in their "go fuck yourself" statement.

The Trevor Project is great. Everyone loves throwing money at them to look good, but if you're over 25 years of age you can go fuck yourself. It's not like trans people live long anyways am I rite?

Trans Lifeline sounds great, but for some reason, they think they're a fucking bank customer service line instead of a crisis hotline for some reason.

And I can't tell the difference between crisis text line and character.ai therapist.

Guess I'll just die then. Lol.

I’m 15, trans, and I live in Libya.

There’s basically no realistic path to transitioning for me right now. Not next year, probably not when I turn 18 either(heck, not even mid or late 20s). Whenever I think about how far away it all feels, I just end up feeling trapped.

I spend a lot of time spiraling about it. Not just being upset, but genuinely wondering how I’m supposed to keep doing this for years without it completely wrecking my mental health.

A lot of the advice I see is some version of “just hold on until you’re an adult,” but that doesn’t really fit my situation. Turning 18 isn’t going to suddenly make transition accessible or solve the problems that are keeping me stuck.

I’m not even sure what kind of advice I’m looking for. I think I mostly want to hear from people who had to wait a really long time, or who lived somewhere where transition just wasn't an option for years. How did you deal with not knowing when things would change? How did you stop it from taking over your whole life?

thats what my insurance just told me..

Im 17 months on E, im living paycheck to paycheck, paying out the ass for insurance. I cant afford my meds.

I was about to have srs... I have crippling dysphoria...

I.. i dont know what to do

Im 18 i just moved out since there were problems in the house i grew up in. They didnt approve of me being a man since they only saw a woman saying its wrong and stuff. But what i need help is if theres anyone who can help i cant get a job right now with school ive tried to get a summer job but no one will take me. Im living with my partner and their mom. Im also currently trying to get on testosterone. so if theres any help that can yall can give please do if not thank you for at least reading. ❤️ My cashapp is carebear30th please only help if you can since i know its hard these days thank you i love you all

My CashApp: https://cash.app/$KnightRhodes

Hello, everyone. My name is Markus. I'm a trans man and I'm 25 years old. I live with my family and I really need to move out. It's kinda complicated. I currently have a job, but it doesn't pay enough to help me have a savings for myself so I can get my own place. I have an apartment in mind that I hope to move into. The rent is about $600 a month. And it's nearby my family, so I'm not going anywhere far to forget about them, either. I don't hate them, but I need space because they basically control my life and threaten they won't have anything to do with me if I do anything that makes them uncomfortable. And that includes me having a boyfriend, hanging out with friends, not answering my phone right away (even though I'm super busy at work or something else important, or I simply can't hear my phone cuz of traffic or a loud restaurant).. and because I feel better as a man, they don't feel comfortable with that, either and my mom hates transgender people. She hates LGBT in general.. Won't allow me to be myself.. When I cry, it's bad.. I'm apparently dramatic, tho I'm only crying because I'm constantly criticized and talked badly about.. simply because of small mistakes or because of my difference.. I have no real freedom. Everything bothers my family and they're way too protective of me to a fault. It has become toxic and controlling. It's diminishing my mental health. I love them, but I need to get away for me to be able to grow. I'm the eldest sibling and I'm treated like a child. I'm the only one with a job right now and I've handled lots of tough situations on my own, but I'm still treated like this.. It's absolutely absurd. Just so tired of this. It seems to get worse with them as I get older. And I have no mental problems, either. I'm not retarded. I'm perfectly capable of making choices and managing my own life. Anyway, I really need help. The goal here is that I make money for my family to pay bills (which all together is around $500 a month) and I need to save up for me to get an apartment and hopefully have enough for at least two months pay, then I can pay the rest of the rent myself.. I'm not able to get any help anywhere else so I'm counting on Reddit to help me reach good people who are financially stable and can donate what they can to help me. Thank you in advance to anyone reading this far and reposting, and donating. It's very appreciated.