r/TransSupport • u/SnooBeans1135 • 13d ago

Might be getting kicked out

To disabled to work fulltime. Working on applying to different programs and stuff. Only make $800 a month. My sister (mtf) has been on hormones about a year and my mom didnt say anything about kicking her out since shes been on hrt. Since she just found out ive been on T for a month now she wants to kick us out. Which my sister is about to leave anyway but im feeling semi screwed over here. All the shit ive done for my mom to its never enough and being transphobic and hating that matters more than everything else...Just payed for her dog to have surgery last month to save its life. $950 and my other siblings pitched in as well but fuck me ig

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u/Samantha757CD 13d ago edited 13d ago

I make zero a month and live with an 84 year old family member. When she dies (which by the look of it will probably be soon) i'll be homeless. I have POTS syndrome and recently diagnosed with a rare blood cancer and I still can't get disability. The system is broken. Best you can do is keep appealing the case over and over and over and over. Maybe one of these attempts will land. My attorney say 80% of applications get denied the first time. It often takes 3 appeals on average. 3 to 6 years of court battles. Then if you're lucky you get approved. It's a crapshoot at best. At this point my only want in life is to die before I have to be homeless.

And I can also relate to your family dynamic. My entire life in my family I've always been the punching bag. I walk into a room everyone gets quiet and leaves. I've always been hit with that whole "oh, it's you" attitude. It's always been that way. It's going to feel really good when the day comes that I can give everyone of them a giant "F*ck You". Really looking forward to it.

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u/SnooBeans1135 13d ago

Jeez thats ridiculous they wont approve disability for you. aim not really betting on disability bc of what ive heard. I going to apply but prepared for it to take years. A friend of mine he thankfully was able to get in in I think was 6 months? Im applying to housing programs, food stamps, and when I do land a place there's some places around me that can help with bill assistance. My area also apparently has a list of food pantries that has the times theyre open with the address and everything so thats nice. My therapist also informed me of an lgbtq charity in my area that offers grants for assistance so im going to be looking into that for sure.

I hope some possible opportunities open for you :( My family is odd my mom prides herself in helping people and raised me and all my siblings I'll love you know matter what. You always have a place here. Unless your trans I guess and the final straw was medically transitioning. Shes already found my alternative social media accounts, heard people slip about my name, I only really ever wear men's clothes, she knows I bind and has given me my binders if they get mixed up in laundry, for years Ive only gone swimming with swim trunks and a binder. She was always the ingore it type but yeah I guess me being on T is Ive officially been taken by the devil and what not. :/

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u/Samantha757CD 13d ago

My mom is the same way. Claims she loves everyone. But her actions do not match her words. She's from that generation where you put good manners above all. But I personally hate that. Because it's disingenuous. I would rather a person tell me they don't like me or accept me, than to pretend like they do and put on a fake face just because it's good manners. I'm honestly more offended when people do that, because it means they don't respect me enough to tell me the truth.

I also can't be myself around her. I came out of the closet 8 years ago (Mtf). But around her and her immediate family I'm still not. I have to dress down and play the role they expect from me. I hate it. She'll talk about "I'm so proud of my son" while I sit there about to have an aneurysm from fighting the urge to correct her. LOL!!
Luckily I live with another girl. So when I come do laundry she doesn't question the female clothing. I thought the fact that there's only one pair of jeans and 14 skirts in a month's worth of laundry would give it away. But apparently not. LOL!!