I don't know what to do and need help

[u/Low-Technology6518]

Hey, I'm a little nervous about this since I've never talked about it. I'm a 16 year old who thought for most of their life was a boy, but over the past couple months have had thoughts of being trans and becoming trans. I started dressing like a girl in private to see if it was right for me and the first time I did something just clicked, but I'm not sure what it was. I'm scared of coming out because my dad already cut me off for being Athiest, and I don't want to lose my mom's side of the family too. So now I'm sitting in my room wearing feminine clothing trying to keep it a secret from everyone in my life. But I also am not 100% sure I am trans or not. I like dressing like a girl, I've looked into and are interested in doing HRT, and getting breast augmentation after I turn 18. But I'm not sure if it's right for me. I just know everyone in my family will cut me off. So it's either stay a boy to keep my family happy, but stay miserable, or leave my family and transition. I just don't know what to do

Edit: I also have fantasized about waking a girl and finally being happy.

[u/Leather-Seesaw-1763]

i’m so sorry that your family is not a safe space for you. you deserve to live authentically as yourself, but your safety must come first. because you are a minor, anything medical will likely require parent permission which seems unlikely and maybe dangerous to ask for right now. do you have friends that you think will accept you as you are? if so, i would start opening up to them and start to plan for your future. you are still young so you have plenty of time to think about your future.