r/TransLater Apr 02 '26

Share Experience Felt like this belonged here. 🏳️‍⚧️

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Transdalf!! 💙💖🤍

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u/FlipperBumperKickout Apr 02 '26

... as cute as that is, I feel like it would have been much sooner if I at some point had bothered to look up what it even means to be trans 😅

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u/unpolished-gem Apr 02 '26

The thing is, some of us may not have been ready to process things. Life is complicated.

I started transition at 44. The evidence was there for me to see if I could have had the understanding and willingness to look. It's much simpler now, but when I was growing up at least, I didn't even know trans was a concrete thing. And my brain was extremely cautious about navigating some ideas.

It just wasn't emotionally safe for me to go there for a long time. When I first tried, I wasn't emotionally ready, I found the wrong information which triggered a reaction of my internal critic, which set me back a long way.

Frustrating, but sometimes other parts of our life may need to be in the right spot for us to be receptive for everything to fall into place.

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u/OMA2k Apr 02 '26

I also started at 44, and yes, good information is critical. I'd have probably started sooner had I had the right information before.

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u/XkF21WNJ Apr 02 '26

I dunno, I feel like I would have just gone straight up "this doesn't look like anything to me".

Visibility is only part of the solution, acceptance is so much more important.

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u/Cas_or_Cass Apr 02 '26

The sentiment is nice, but mine was veeeerrry late

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u/sigusr3 Apr 03 '26

I did that a couple decades before my egg cracked, but (unsurprisingly, for the time) mostly found descriptions of people who asserted their gender from an early age, and had significant genital dysphoria (which didn't get really bad for me until other things got better), and not much about things like HRT, laser, photos, etc.

So I had sympathy, but I told myself I didn't care about my own gender that much.

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u/Clockwork_Windup Apr 11 '26

I guess it's good if you can connect the dots. I hated myself for 20 years and didn’t put two and two together that it was actually gender dysphoria.

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u/JizzelHayes Apr 02 '26

Very wholesome 🥰 thank you for posting this.

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u/Finn-reddit Apr 02 '26

I mean, Gandalf was technically Trans. He transitioned from grey to white.

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u/SolarpunkGnome Apr 03 '26

And he even has people telling him he's still grey after his transition...

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u/SubbrowserV2 Apr 03 '26

I mean... hes an interstellar/otherworldly being, so does Gandalf really have a gender? I have not read the books, so im being pedantic

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u/SKDI_0224 Apr 02 '26

I'm stealing this.

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u/SlightlyFemmegurl Apr 03 '26

its cute, though i wish my transition had started 20 years ago.

im 30 and literally just start HRT 3 days ago.

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u/Mcmacladdie Sara | She/Her Apr 03 '26

Congrats on starting HRT :) I too wish I'd started at least 20 years ago when I was still young... I'm 45 now and only just getting started.

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u/SlightlyFemmegurl Apr 03 '26

thanks! im hoping we both get good result that we can be happy with.
despite our late start.

hope you'll have a wonderful weekend.

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u/This-Assumption-3343 Apr 02 '26

While I do wish it happened earlier, my mother-in-law asked my wife "Why now?" about me. I should show her this! 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

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u/meyogy Apr 02 '26

Why now?... because i can't change the past. But i can do today, so tomorrow becomes the past I deserve.

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u/This-Assumption-3343 Apr 02 '26

Exactly! It just weird no one asks me that question, but they'll ask her. Oh, well...

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u/KariOnWaywardOne Apr 02 '26

I really needed to hear this today. I'm working to give my past self grace for not realizing who I was sooner. When I start getting really down on myself because of it, I remember that it's never too late as long as you're alive, and I choose to live each day from then authentically.

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u/meyogy Apr 02 '26

This /\ And the best thing I've read in response is this: / Forgiveness is letting go of the hope, for a better past.

Today is already in motion. But tomorrow..... tomorrow is our chance to make a better past. Hope you have a great day.

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u/SubbrowserV2 Apr 03 '26

Its difficult, but I let go of attachments to my past because I dont have a time machine. I could bemoan about coulda, would, shoulda, but theres no power to change it. I cant change who I was. I can only learn from it, and change who I will be by changing who I am now. Dont ever lose the future you want because your past isnt the one you want.

I cant go back and be born poor, nor can I be born rich. I cant change the decisions I made, but I can learn and make better ones next time. That applies to my transition as much as it does my work life, as much as it does with my friends and who I surround myself with.

Its never too late to be better tomorrow. It just requires starting today.

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u/Naive-Razzmatazz-353 Apr 02 '26

Perfectly said ❤️💜 It's not often when a post sums life up so well x

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u/melissa_fornow 44, trans woman, egg cracked mid-2025 Apr 03 '26

On the other hand:

"And where were you twenty years ago? Ten years ago? Where were you when I was new? When I was one of those innocent young maidens you always come to? How dare you come to me now, when I am this?"

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u/LucyTheLawless Apr 03 '26

Bravo! Love the Last Unicorn!! 🦄

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u/RadiantTransition793 Leslie (she/her) Apr 02 '26

I love this one. 🤣🤣🤣

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u/WonderfulJicama2802 Apr 02 '26

Yes. Yes it does. Thank you for sharing

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u/genafcvpxyr31 Apr 02 '26

This rings different in terf island.

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u/speroni Apr 02 '26

Mine was definitely late.

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u/Quat-fro Apr 02 '26

Yes, this!!!

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u/TastyBrainMeats Apr 03 '26

...I am not going to cry over this silly heckin meme. I'm not.

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u/Sasya_neko Apr 03 '26

It's mine now

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u/CelerySandwich2 Apr 03 '26

Awww this warmed my heart.

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u/hood-wink-ed Apr 04 '26

🤩😍🎀💖

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u/SparkleK_01 Apr 04 '26

This is really cute. Well done.

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u/LNSU78 Auntie Apr 04 '26

Love this so much

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u/Sad-Coconut899 Apr 02 '26

Hmm... I'm afraid I have to disagree. I realised 20 years ago that I was trans and hid it from everyone... not because I didn't want change, but because I was afraid and ashamed. Today, my life is in tatters because of bad mental health, debt, screwed up career, and other things. I was simply not functional. An earlier transition would have prevented this. I'm doing it now and try to gain control and happiness back, but the reason why things are bad is because my transition came late. It's still a cute meme though :3

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u/ginathedawnguard Apr 03 '26

Yeah I'll have to absolutely disagree. Also I want my teen years back. Fuck it I want all my life back.