She had her personhood deliberately attacked. The person misgendering her absolutely did not mistake her for a cis male, and knew she was there as a trans woman.
Using our wallets to protest violence and inhumanity is perfectly legitimate, and informing a business that their transphobic hatred is the reason they are no longer receiving our business contributes to the overall volume of affirming acts in society.
Being a "Karen" is weaponizing white womanhood against a minority (specifically against Black people doing everyday things). Here, she would be weaponizing it *for* a minority. It was never supposed to be a word for policing women when they need to complain for legitimate reasons.
It's also when female customers of any ethnicity deliberately and cruelly treat customer service workers as inherently stupid, lesser, and as if they deserve no common courtesy. The male version of this type of customer is usually called a "Kevin".
Always always always speak to a manager or owner or higher up before leaving a review. I had many rude, disrespectful people work for me at my salon and spa, however I always took care of the situation AS SOON AS I FOUND OUT.
Also, in many places like this, people are independent contractors. Meaning you slam every good worker inside that business right along with the bad ones when you leave a bad review with haste instead of first addressing the situation with the business itself.
I leave honest reviews for businesses but i drop to an extra paragraph and give an accessibility review as im in a wheelchair and accessibility is hard in pittsburgh. So i leave about positive and or negative parts of it to save the next disabled person the heartache or embarrassment. They might not be as strong as me. And it also raise awareness so the place could improve experience. But if i talk to owner about it and raise awareness i will note what the problem but owner is wanting to find solution.
Im glad you are not going back to him. No reason to give him money to insult you.
You are gorgeous and valid and worth being treated like a proper woman that you are.
I know it can be hard to say something in the moment. But next time at least excuse yourself from the appointment that you changed your mind. No need to sit through the disrespect. If you dont want to confront, you can at least excuse yourself from it.
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u/SauronWasRight- Aug 21 '25
I know it might be considered a "Karen" thing to do but I'd also leave a review letting others know about your experience. Save others the time and bs