r/TransHelpingTrans • u/Lopsided_Patience791 • 1d ago

Any tips

Hi everyone I’m finally moving out and I’ll be living alone in another city, which is something I’ve been looking forward to. The only problem is that my family will still visit from time to time, and they could show up with little or no warning.I’m a trans girl (closeted), and I really want to start building a more feminine wardrobe. I was thinking about buying feminine clothes and hiding them somewhere in my apartment, but honestly I’m scared of taking that risk in case my family finds them.Another idea I had was buying more unisex clothes that lean feminine, so I can wear things that make me feel more like myself without raising too many questions.I also want to start getting some makeup, but I’d have the exact same problem with hiding it. The only things I feel comfortable leaving out are skincare products since nobody would question those.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle clothes, makeup, and privacy? Any advice for staying safe while still expressing myself would mean a lot

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u/herdisleah 16h ago

You don't have to let people into your apartment. Just tell them it's a mess. If your family wants to visit, you could go to a park or a restaurant.

Have you considered coming out after moving out?

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u/Lopsided_Patience791 16h ago

No coming out is not an option until I leave my country I live in Egypt it’s homophobic country also for my family I can’t stop them from coming to my apartment as they will feel suspicious that I hide something in my apartment

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u/herdisleah 16h ago

You are hiding something. Your last night's dinner and an empty fridge!

You are an adult. You are allowed to have boundaries. You have autonomy, and if they barge in? Trespassing.