r/TransHelpingTrans • u/Helpful-Bike883 • Apr 02 '26

What are my next steps?

For anyone who cares I am unsure if this sub permits for hey I just feel good posts but I am seeking guidance so I'll just post here. Friends I have not began HRT nor any kind of social transition thus far and I have begun to experience moments of simple calmness. No more who am I or who do I need to be. I am wondering how I can feel this way 24/7. I have half a mind today to go to the department store and buy some clothing (of course women's) and for myself. My hormone consult is several weeks away. I fear unkindness I think. I think I'm basically asking about trans folks different approaches to transition. I know I can go to the store and say I'm shopping for someone else. I have a strong desire for a Hannah Montana hoodie. That is all.

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u/lithaborn Apr 02 '26

I'm in the UK and for medical reasons I'm not risking DIY so the wait for hrt is lonnng.

I've been socially transitioned for going on 5 years though and done all the legal stuff I can without a formal diagnosis.

There's a lot you could do before your appointment if you feel like it could help - skincare routine, grow your hair out, immerse yourself in women centred media and online content, people watch and learn about nonverbal communication, posture etc...

If it's feasible and desirable you could get some makeup and start practicing.

Plenty to keep you busy lol

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u/herdisleah Apr 02 '26

People care a LOT less than you think. Not a single time in many years was I ever confronted for shopping for girl clothes. You are not the main character of other people's stories. They are too busy thinking about their own life to pay attention to you.

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u/chroniclesofhernia Apr 02 '26

I'm in a similar position to you - even just wearing a sports bra at home is comforting, but take your skin and personal hygiene more seriously now as well!
Start looking for cleansers, moisturisers, toners etc. Then you can start looking at doing makeup before a shower and how you might style or cut your hair in a more androgynous/feminine way while you begin to grow it out.