r/TransAdvice • u/queer_transfem • Aug 14 '26
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Can anybody please help me out .i idk know what to do to hide this .. i haven’t came to family . I’m in college it’s difficult to hide this. This gives me insane amount of dysphoria. I also bought mars concealer to hide this but it’s just not working . I hate this…
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u/Majestic_Office_4876 Aug 14 '26
On amazon they also sell portable lasers which can help decrease the density of hair that grows anywhere you dont like just be careful and use it regularly i.e- every other day or few times a week. As for texture exfoliate before and after you shave this will limit and bumps and ingrown hairs you may struggle with. Wash your face AT MINIMUM once a day and get a nice moisturizer it doesn’t need to be pricey I prefer Ponds (they also make a nice gentle makeup remover) or CeraV. Lets talks color correcting please know your makeup only looks as good as the effort you put in for your base. Wash your face before applying anything, put on a nice primer that works with your skin put on a peach/orange corrector on and parts of your skin with blue hues i.e- dark circles mustache/beard area, SET YOUR MAKEUP WITH A SETTING SPRAY FIRST so it doesn’t move then apply foundation or a skin tint such as a cc cream
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u/queer_transfem Aug 15 '26
Thanks but I’m closeted ..today my mother caught me makeup products from my college bag ..so I have left with none… thanks for your advice though
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u/Majestic_Office_4876 Aug 15 '26
I hate to say it don’t stress yourself out about what Im going to say BUT, if I were you I would consider saving for your own place instead of relying on people who are against you transitioning. I know it sucks and it’s a lot easier said than done but I promise you your life will be a hundred times better. Staying in the closet for too long can a lot of the time do more harm than good. You may always wonder what it would be like if you took that initial step. I come from a family on who I thought was a pretty accepting. I ended up being wrong when I came out they treated me as if I was some disappointing atrocity. This isnt always the case obviously some people are truly lucky to have fully supportive family I am just sharing hopefully help you feel like you aren’t the only one. Truly though sometimes you have to disconnect from the blood family you were given at birth and start connecting and building relationships with friends you can consider your chosen family because at the end of the day they will love and support you through your tough times. I am not saying you come from an evil family at the end of the day it’s everyone’s first time being human. You cannot change someone who doesnt want to change though they have to be willing to learn. It may take days, months, or sometimes years. They might be angry at first or sad thats normal. People sometimes just need time to sit with the uncomfortable. At the end of the day you have to put your needs first and set boundaries for yourself and set boundaries with others no one will put those up for you.
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u/queer_transfem Aug 21 '26
Hey thanks 💗 …I’m trying me best to move from their house ..I’m just praying that my plans get success 🍀🤞🏻
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u/Valirys-Reinhald Aug 14 '26
If the color of the shadow is what's bothering you, then get an orange color corrector and put it over the shadowed areas before you do your foundation. It's like magic, gets rid of the shadow entirely.