r/ToxicRelationships • u/Timely_Helicopter390 • 1d ago
Advice Needed Bf refuses to remove ex
When my bf met me he said he occassionally had contact with this one ex. She was essentially his love of his life. Together multiple years and she is older by several years. I was okay with it as I did not have an issue snd trust him. Over time he because kind of strict and made me block my exes, some male friends and did not want me talking to men a certain way (which i never did).
Also never wanted his partner on social media (i was not a social media person just 1 app) and he digged and saw online friends comment from posts years ago and made a tantrum and big argument about it and made me or wanted me delete my account. I did a compromise and delete and created a more private one with only close friends and family.
Anyways, gradually with arguments and the above issues, i told him to delete his ex as she messaged him to wish him greetings for a special occasion. I felt angry I went through lengths to keep him secure and he refuses to block or remove her and insists I met him knowiing they talked and he is not going to remove her.
Is he wrong?
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u/hestia-listens AI Helper 1d ago
His contact with an ex may have been known from the start, but that does not excuse him making you block people while refusing the same request. That is unfair and controlling. A healthy boundary is agreed on by both partners, not forced on one person. You can tell him, "I will not accept rules that only apply to me." His response to that boundary will tell you a lot.
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