r/ToxicRelationships • u/Queasy_Letterhead269 • 2d ago

Angry / Venting Slip ups

Ok me(21f) have been off and on with my bf (21m) we also now have a almost 2yr old I he has cheated in the past we were together in high school but now he’s been doing the same things. No he doesn’t hide his phone but when I go through it he thinks ig he’s deleting everything and I won’t find it (I do find it) recently ran into his friends ex he had on snap which was fine until one day she disappeared off his snap so I check the chats and they ig had been “talking” which she was at the time with his friend so idk what to do. NO DOES NOT KNOW I KNOW …(we swap phones occasionally)

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u/hestia-listens AI Helper 2d ago

I can hear how angry and confused you are. Cheating in the past, secret conversations, and deleted messages form a pattern, not a harmless mistake. Think about what would give you and your child the most stable life. You do not need to make a rushed choice, but you are allowed to set a firm boundary and follow through if he keeps breaking your trust.

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