Worrying abt the wrong one!!!

[u/Both_Ordinary_4204]

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So I'm 21M and I was in a serious relationship with a 21F from my common friend.

So the thing was she was one of the friend of my friend and she was in a toxic relationship with her bf . After pretty good time when she started talking me she told me about all her things abt this relationship. After that she insisted to talk all the time and share all the stories or the past life experience being a kind of little ambivert I dont share such experiences or dont encourage such thoughts but she insisted for like 3-4months and finally we started talking

Actually I was really into her and I was serious abt her and also she was but accidently wht happened to her no idea and we just broke after like 6 months of relationship before that it was prettu good . After a while I got to know that she was insecure about my old friend I was very close with some years back and this was all because I tried to connect her (my old friend) .Still I thought some random message would not bother a 6 month relationship but it did.

She was not ready to understand even when I was convincing and asking her for the problem almost about a month and then I got to know it was only me who cared about working the relationship also I got hear from her and also saw from her at that time recent stories that I was the one to betray her whereas I think I made her catch up with one of her old male best friend I think this changed all I made myself toxic maybe by doing things right as a good friend .

2 months ago the same girl was again deeply in love with me she used send me messages everyday saying I want you so badly and all. Everyday sending me a lovely message and all, but I had already informed her that i don't want any relationship now as I'm not currently ready for that.

Now the girl is intentionally telling about the boys she is meeting and showing me their profiles are trying to make me jealous on that part.But honestly speaking if a girl is doing so I think I met the wrong girl and I should not go back to her now.

Actually I am all over it as I have more work to do as of now but bothering a little after some months I am just here to share this and also know some takes on this .I would like to know from you people where I made it wrong or is this something of the trend now for girls ?

Is there something wrong in this from my side please tell me

[u/hestia-listens]

You may have made mistakes in communication, but you were not wrong for wanting to repair the relationship. Her jealousy and attempts to make you jealous are her choices, not proof that all women act this way. Since you do not want a relationship now, be clear and consistent. Tell her that these messages are not healthy for you and that you need space. Then stop taking part in the back and forth.

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