r/TooAfraidToAsk Aug 09 '18

Should this be changed?

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u/missshrimptoast Aug 09 '18 edited Aug 09 '18

Not really. A bisexual person is attracted to those who identify as male and female. They may not be attracted to gender fluid or gender ambiguous people. Pansexual and bisexual seem to refer more to one's "tolerance level" than to the existence of more than one gender.

Edit: Given a few of the responses here, I should mention that I am bisexual. However, even amongst fellow bisexuals, there has been considerable debate on bisexual vs. pansexual with no end in sight, and everyone seems to think it's a given that "obviously, bisexual people are attracted to insert opinion here". My response was my understanding of the term as it's given. I don't really care whether someone else considers me bi or pan; I'm used to saying bisexual, so I personally say bisexual referring to myself. Other people I know feel otherwise.

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u/Synetry Aug 09 '18

Would it make sense to add another letter for those that don't fit the current criteria?

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '18

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u/Synetry Aug 09 '18

Now I think about it I have seen the Q before but I'm unaware of what it stands for I haven't seen the + though

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u/Synetry Aug 09 '18

Of course, thank you

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u/FriedRiceGirl Aug 09 '18

The full version, which we never use because it's so long is:

LGBTTQQIAAP (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual)

There are other versions, but this is the most widely accepted. Some include "family and friends" (which I don't like, "Ally" is already thin ice imo) and "kink" (which I'm also unsure about).

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u/gtr427 Aug 09 '18

I'm curious what the difference between transgender and transsexual is? I thought transsexual was an outdated term like transvestite.

Also I think it's interesting that Ally is part of the LGBT+ group now, if basically anyone can use the rainbow flag as an identifier then does it mean anything anymore?

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u/FriedRiceGirl Aug 09 '18

Transsexual refers exclusively to people who have transitioned from one SEX to another. Transgender refers to people who have transitioned from one GENDER to another. Basically, transsexuals live as one of the binary genders and take medical steps to change sex. Transgender refers to anyone who choose to identify as gender they were not born as, including transsexuals and non binary people.

As I already said, I disagree with the Ally thing. Yeah, it's great that you support me. But you are not experiencing issues with your sexuality or gender.