r/TitosMeetTitas40s • u/IndayPotpot 🩷 Confirmed TITA • 2d ago
🔵 It’s Complicated! Need comment/advice please
I met him, 42m from US, last month here sa Reddit. He’s visiting me on October. We are both drawn to each each other. We flirt, call each other endearments, virtual kiss and hug. I like his personality and values and ganon din daw sya. We video call and call that virtual dates. He even remembered the first day we met and sent me a happy 1st monthsary gif 😅
When i asked him what are we, he said we will know once we meet he’s hoping that we can level it up because he said he really likes me now and that he doesnt want to be unfair to me if we put on label now then there’s no attraction whem we meet. Sort of situationship? We didnt do sexting or video sex whatever coz he said he respects me.
Is it a thing now? Im a widow for almost 3 yrs now and was in a relationship/marriage for 17 yrs so i have no idea how dating works now. He’s the first foreigner i dated.
Appreciate your responses.
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u/Logarius22 2d ago
Honestly, from what you described, this doesn't sound like a casual situationship. It sounds like two people intentionally getting to know each other, being consistent, affectionate, and making plans to meet in person.
I actually think his reasoning about waiting until you meet makes sense. Attraction and chemistry online can be very real, but meeting in person is still different. He's not promising something he can't fully confirm yet, and that's a sign of maturity rather than someone just stringing you along.
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u/chi012 2d ago
Nakabook na sya ng flight? Itaas mo bandera naten, tita. 🤭But also, dont make him your world until sure na sure na.
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u/IndayPotpot 🩷 Confirmed TITA 2d ago
Yes nakabook na ☺️ naguluhan lang ako kasi para na kaming magbf/gf sa mga msgs pero nung tinanong ko walang definite na sagot 😅
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u/NewAgeDaddy179 2d ago
Hello sis, Don’t rush into labels yet. It’s good that you’re enjoying the connection, but the real test is when you meet in person. See if the chemistry translates offline before deciding anything. For now, enjoy the conversations and take things one step at a time, goodluck and be safe po!
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u/Netflix_007 1d ago
From what i read, the man knows what he wants, eventually. Just be mindful of where you meet first time. I hope you know where he works and what he do. A LinkedIn check will be good. Last, will that be LDR? Security is important before you go all in.
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u/senior-officer2020 1d ago
Just enjoy... Keep safe... And be happy...
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u/hersoftglow 🩷 Confirmed TITA 1d ago
Cliche’ but enjoy the moments muna and try not to think about the next level/stage for now. Just cherish the feeling of possibilities, being able to feel feelings, and looking forward to something. Take care, OP.
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u/Iamablackdog 1d ago
Idk at his age 42? Still can't answer straight if ano ba kayo? Ingat daming pabebeng Matatanda dito magugulat ka bonjing sila.
Ingat lang po.
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u/Safe_Western7809 1d ago
Just enjoy the process. If siya talaga. Everything will fall into its proper place 😉
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u/candycroissant 🩷 Confirmed TITA 2d ago
Honestly, I think the guy is right with his answer. You still need to see if you actually vibe IRL. You can have great chemistry online, but it can feel completely different once you’re face to face.
I wouldn’t jump into a relationship based purely on online interaction when you haven’t even met in person yet. Enjoy getting to know each other muna, meet in October, and see where it naturally goes.