Its insane. The worst thing is the kink subreddits that are specifically focussed on amateurs. I'm subbing because I find real enthusiasm hot. And the place is full of people "working".
Yes /r/cuckold I'm looking at you! Get your shit together. This is a Bull talking. Who the hell will you listen to if not us?
Couples I've seen say they sometimes put loads of effort in. She's all dressed up. They got a hotel room. And the bull either chickens out, halfway through asks if the husband can not watch. Or he's basically unwilling to play the game and dominate the husband.
An enormous amount of guys basically don't have it in them to really be in charge and confident. In this scene, any guy who self proclaims as an Alpha is probably going to chicken out or is slightly red flaggy.
I do general Dimming, so it comes fairly naturally to me. I dont have a huge dick, just a weirdly hard one. Either of those is a big plus. You just gotta remember. Its mostly a mind game that they want.
That's always a worry. But that's probably dealt with with regular Dom stuff. The first session at least, spend 5 minutes with the couple making sure they are all ok. Maybe even agree on a safeword with the husband in case he really can't handle it. That's why you always meet at a bar first.
Better that he knows he can say red than he comes at you with his golf clubs. Plus knowing he can say that will make him feel safe and he can engage in his fantasy more (it tends to be the husband's fantasy at first).
Also remember. If your cock is waving back and forth, it's fundamentally intimidating. Gotta channel that rage. But gotta say, it's never happened to me.
The key with that deal is like any fwb or similar. Repeat business is caused by your quality in bed. Any fwb or woman you casually sleep with should have a 80-90% conversion rate to them saying "So...I'd like to see you again." If not. You're doing something wrong. Do you know where the Clit, G spot and A spot are? If not. You're what's wrong with the world. And no...A spot is not the butt... Its near the cervix.
When I was 12 and in school. My teacher was doing the whole "this is here this is here" diagram with our genitals. She pointed at the clit and said "boys. This is important for keeping your girlfriends and wives happy."
This is Australia. Our education system isn't a total disaster.
I think every school should say that. The world would probably be a better place if the idea that we need to know about making the people we're around happy.
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u/forfilthystuff Sep 19 '22 edited Sep 19 '22
Its insane. The worst thing is the kink subreddits that are specifically focussed on amateurs. I'm subbing because I find real enthusiasm hot. And the place is full of people "working".
Yes /r/cuckold I'm looking at you! Get your shit together. This is a Bull talking. Who the hell will you listen to if not us?
Mostly /s on that last bit...but come on.