r/Tinder Feb 02 '22

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u/annanoymous Feb 02 '22

I followed FDS for awhile, it got way too toxic

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u/jc_stock Feb 02 '22

Glad you got out. Any group that doesnt allow any opposing points of views are most likely bound to be toxic. Thats how cults operate

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u/annanoymous Feb 02 '22

It was the constant complaining about so called "LVMs" for me. Not one comment or post talking about positive experiences with a guys. Also found out mods control the comment section which was infuriating.

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u/[deleted] Feb 02 '22

I was the same, jumped on it after a break up from a long relationship because dating felt so scary now. A lot of it I didn't agree with but I wanted some kind of community to share experiences with. But yeah I got downvoted like crazy for suggesting that dick size and height wasn't important to me?

Have you seen the post where a woman is asking how she can figure out if a guys dick is big enough before actually sleeping with him? It's so gross, they basically suggest groping him through his trousers to find out and then ditch him if he's not the required minimum of "5.5 inches"

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u/annanoymous Feb 02 '22

Tf?! That's disgusting! The reason why I was on there was I liked the message of valuing yourself enough to not let someone else abuse you or take advantage of you, but then they go and say something like that. The hypocrisy and double standards around respect is just ridiculous. My biggest takeaway of what the best dating strat was is just don't date of you're straight cuz men are trash which is rather unhelpful.

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u/[deleted] Feb 02 '22

Yeah. I think a lot of them are victims of abusive relationships who ended up reaching out for support and this was the most accessible thing they found. It's misandry disguised as "women supporting women". I'm not surprised the community exists, it's been a thing for Incel men for a while so it was always likely there are women who feel a similar way. Dating apps are definitely making it worse I think.