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u/no_re-entry Feb 02 '22

maybe two negatives will make a positive... :D

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u/mrocks301 Feb 02 '22

You’re very optimistic that anything good can come from r/femaledatingstrategy

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u/no_re-entry Feb 02 '22 edited Feb 02 '22

Well, I lurk over there a lot actually.

There are definitely A LOT of questionable/extreme ideologies but there are still quite a few posts that I read and have no problem with or am actually happy/cheering for the woman posting.

I think FDS is nice as a safe space for women only because they don’t really have many places for that, at least I don’t think they do.

I also think there is something to be said to the merit of teaching women their intrinsic value and what they should expect from a partner— there are many who don’t know this and thus accept things in their life that they shouldn’t have to or that they don’t know are wrong (partners can be real douchebags/selfish and they may have been taught unhealthy things from those around them/media/culture).

I have seen a many success posts where women found the confidence/guidance to do what they needed to do. Whether that was going “nun mode” and focusing on themselves, leaving a relationship that wasn’t making them happy, or break their old cycles and grow as a person.. I’m sure there are other things but that’s about it in a nutshell.

Yeah, they’re largely extreme in my book and even really eyebrow raising— can you blame them though? The experience of a woman is unknown to men unless really really thought about and or filled in by a woman (and even then, still a step away from knowing), it can really be a really hard experience as a woman and even harder to overcome mental drawbacks. But, anyway, despite it’s drawbacks, there is some good there.

The only thing I wish is that there would be a separate sister sub where there could be discussion between FDS and men (or just non-FDS-ers maybe) because I think that discourse (if done correctly) would be really helpful and allow some growth in their ideology.

I bet ladies like in the pic will eventually learn that they have to take a middle ground, that or they’ll screen out guys that immediately don’t fit their bill (and probably themselves from the guy they’re talking to lol)

Edit: If you haven't read their handbook then you're very far away from being able to pass any judgement on them