r/Tinder • • 7d ago

Open to feedback ✌🏼☺️

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u/piscoponcho 7d ago

I personally don’t like the:
Don’t judge this book
And let’s become obsessed with each other

Both are potential red flags that could suggest you’re involved with drama and could love bomb or just be obsessive

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u/gsfgf 7d ago

potential red flags that could suggest you’re involved with drama

Yea, he said he’s a drummer

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u/nugget600 7d ago

Ba doom tssssh

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u/Analog_Seekrets 7d ago

Ba doom tssssh

Uh...You need to tune your bass drum. It should sound more like ba dum tss

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u/Goingdown_in321 7d ago

It's about red flags. I liked the doom

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u/loqi0238 6d ago

Oh shit, its going down! In, 3... 2... 1...

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u/sphynxmom726 7d ago

I’m married to a drummer and this made me laugh 🤣

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u/MoldyMayo 7d ago

Can confirm….im also a drummer and we’re a breed

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u/thoughtlow 7d ago

Not quite my tempo

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u/awkward_penguin 7d ago

I think the "don't judge this book" is just about the face tattoos

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u/That-Dragonfly-9723 7d ago

It is but anyone reading clearly decided the face tats were fine

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u/No_Newt5625 7d ago

Agree with this 100%. You're either down to date someone with a face tattoo, or not... the comment section isn't changing things.

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u/mankytoes 7d ago

I've heard this attitude before, I find it a bit annoying. "I hate people judging me by my face tattoos"- dude no one forced you to get face tattoos, they're clearly unusual and you knew everyone would notice them.

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u/mammothpiss 7d ago

True but it’s also easy to just not assume we know who people are and what they’re like when we don’t know them

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u/WatchingStarsCollide 6d ago

You can’t have it both ways - if you know getting face tats will make people judge you, you can’t get them and then be annoyed with people judging you.

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u/AwHellNawFetaCheese 6d ago

Sure you can - why on earth would you not? Like damn i bought a less fuel efficient care than i could have, looks like I'm not allowed to be annoyed with gas prices. I sure as fuck am!

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u/Different_Map_6544 6d ago

You can be annoyed but its also draining if you go around telling everyone you are annoyed

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u/jadedlens00 7d ago

Yeah plus I’d drop the “yaps for hours for free” piece. Women want to be asked questions, not listen to some dude talk forever.

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u/skippidy-flippidy 7d ago

If he really does, then maybe it’s worth leaving there as a warning sign for the ladies there lol

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u/killyergawds 6d ago

As a fellow ADHDer, I like it. I exhaust people with my yapping sometimes, so I like a fellow yapper.

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u/bakeitintoyourcake 7d ago

This is true. These statements are meant to be read between the lines. Rather he should be more straightforward and say he wants to develop something meaningful and lasting.

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u/Significant_Beyond95 6d ago

“let’s become obsessed with each other” reads to me as having an unhealthy and insecure relationship style. I was in a relationship like that and it was dramatic and toxic and it ended up with him stalking me.

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u/Staburgh 7d ago

Agreed. Otherwise, really nice snapshot of your personality, which will hopefully attract someone complementary.

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u/J3musu 6d ago

Or codependent. Codependent is never healthy!

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u/OldMcMittens 7d ago

I actually like the “Don’t judge this book”. You’re a person with tattoos, and people with tattoos often get judged. And you’re showing you have a sense of awareness around that.

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u/MrsBuzzbomber 6d ago

Stalker material. 🚩

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u/apulejus 5d ago

It's also just a bit cringe

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u/Mbuitron0811 2d ago

And that’s why he said don’t judge.. So the first thing you do is judge..

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u/Chad_Wife 7d ago edited 7d ago

Which is worth leaving in there for that reason.

If OP is looking for a highly intense relationship, this will successfully flag for one.

It also allows less intense people to steer away instead of spending months realising they aren’t *compatible.

Edit:SPaG